2006-07-19 15:54:39 · 9 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My son is 13 and I am moving 100 miles away
2006-07-19 16:20:39 · update #1
If he is old enough to decide (teenager), as hard as it is, let him go...unless your ex doesn't want him. If your ex doesn't, it is HIS job to break the news to your son so that you don't become the "bad" person.
While it will be the hardest thing you have ever done, your son probably needs to see more of his father during his teen years. For another, he might think that things will be different with dad. He may find out that he prefers mom...just needed to be away for a while to really appreciate you! Either way, you are in a lose lose situation. If you keep him and he really wants to go, he will resent you and act out due to anger.
Let him go but make sure he knows you are letting him go out go out of love and that he will always be welcome to return home if he changes his mind. Also, let him know that you will stay in touch and always be there for him. Good luck!
2006-07-19 16:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by ilse72 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
AWE I feel really bad! First off I'm sorry for whats happening!
Why don't you explain how you feel broken hearted to your son and see what he says, Is he mad at you for any thing? If so simply try to resolve the conflict! Maybe he wants more privileges, maybe let him stay up an hour later or he an extra snack during the day, (Just DON'T Over Do It!!!) He will walk all over you if you do!.
If you wanted you could bad mouth his Dad and tell him mean things about him! (I wouldn't recommend doing this one though! Its only for desperation)
Like I said I feel really bad, I know how I would feel if it were me! Stick in there and please tell me what happens! GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-07-19 23:04:40 · answer #2 · answered by Paul O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a mother who had the same type of thing happen when my sons' father and I divorced. I let him go live with his father but I would advise you to expect visitation and make sure you make every attempt to see your son on regular 50/50 basis. My son lived in town here but when it was my turn for custody his father always planned outings my son loved. I didn't know how to compete with that . He and I are very close now but not until he married and had children. I never forced him to come with me but I should have tried harder.
2006-07-19 23:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Eleanor P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old is your son? if he is old enough to make that decision then let him. How often does he see his dad? if he doesn't see him that often then he misses him and wants to spend more time with him. If he is a good father then let him go stay with him. Odds are that he'll realize that your the one thats always been there and that you really care about him and will want to come and stay with you again
2006-07-19 23:05:58 · answer #4 · answered by tabbyjo27 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you have heard the saying that the grass is alwyas greener on the other side. Let you son go and he will see for himself that the grass is not greener, it is just an illusion. He will come back. I let my son and daughter go and they both came back.
2006-07-19 23:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him. Your son is more important that your heart.
2006-07-19 22:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm not good at this, but at least you should let him give it a try, and then let your son decide in the end. but hopefully he will choose both of you, but then that would mean it would break him in two... oh no... i'm sorry, i'm no help... but my prayers are with you. good luck..
2006-07-19 22:59:51 · answer #7 · answered by Inquirer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has a right to see his father also but i can see why your hurt it will be okay.
Dominic
-He lives!!!!!
2006-07-19 23:00:44 · answer #8 · answered by edw16ards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is ur son?
2006-07-19 23:00:06 · answer #9 · answered by pink_tequilarose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋