My nieces and nephews were in my hometown for a week and no one told me. I was calling the house they were at without even knowing that they were there in the 1st place just to see how everyone was, but it is like they avoided my call. Why? Why didn't my sister at least tell me they were here. She couldn't wait to tell me that her bf bought her a $500 bracelette. I'm a good aunt, sometimes broke but i luv my nieces and nephew and this hurt.
2006-07-19 15:49:50 · 10 answers · asked by sincerely, see me 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I know sometimes it's just like that maybe it's nothing you have done, but talk to your sister so you can be clear about everything, ask if there is some unresolved issue between the two of you. Like I tell my sister once you get everything out in the open and you have done all you could do, step back and see if things change, but give it time. If it doesn't now you know where you stand.
2006-07-19 16:03:23 · answer #1 · answered by Lovely Darky 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry that you have been deprived of contact with your beautiful nieces and nephews. Have you thought of anything that you may have done to offend your sister? I'm sure you haven't, but I think the best thing to do is talk to her about it and tell her how much you miss her and her children. Start saving a little bit of money out of each paycheck, and then when you have quite a bit ask your sister if you can take her kids out for a fun day at the zoo, park, etc., and spoil them like crazy!!! Lol, I don't know if that will work, but since you mentioned that you are sometimes broke, then I think saving a little here and there would help your situation. I am sure that your nieces and nephews would love their aunt even if she couldn't splurge on them, but a little gift here and there for them would be nice.
Good luck!
2006-07-19 16:00:04 · answer #2 · answered by skooter 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry, this does sound like a bad deal. Talk to your sister and ask her why she did not call you. Let her know that you wanted to see your niece and nephew. Tell her she and the kids are important to you. Let her know that it hurt you not to see them ans with them being so close. Do not mention the bracelet or the bf. She will think that you are upset about that.
2006-07-19 16:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever wondered which hurts the most?
Saying something and wishing you hadn't?
Or saying nothing and wishing you had?
I guess the most important things are the hardest things to say.
Don't be afraid to tell someone you love them.
If you do, they might break your heart
If you don't, you might break theirs.
Too many of us hide our true feelings because we are too afraid to care too much, for fear that the other person does not care as much, or even at all.
Don't be a person who has to look back and wonder what theywould have done, or could have had.
*What would you do if every time you fell in love you had to say good-bye?
*What would you do if you loved someone more than ever and you couldn't have them?
2006-07-19 15:58:40 · answer #4 · answered by Princess illusion 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to hear this. Maybe you should talk to your sister to find out why she did this?
3 years ago, my cousin was 5 miles away from me for a week and never called me. She lived in Hawaii at the time and we were in California. Her mom told me she didn't want us to know because then she would have to visit. I haven't enjoyed having her a cousin since then.
2006-07-19 15:55:34 · answer #5 · answered by Gothic Martha™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ya know what, it dont matter that your sister didnt tell you that her children were in your home town, just continue to love them and paray for them like nothin happen because some people take your kindness for weakness and you jsut show her that GOD didnt bring you where you are for nothin, your bf may not be able to buy you that $500 bracelet but hey at least hed rather love me for real then buy me somethin probably just for a piece of a^s!!Keep pressin on and let her know she hurt you and leave it at his feet!
Dominic
-HE lives
2006-07-19 15:58:11 · answer #6 · answered by edw16ards 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I completely understand how you feel. My sister and I have issues at times. When we do, I tend to bottle things up so I don't rock the boat and upset our parents, then it becomes worse than it should have been. I'd say you need to go to her and sit down and lay it all out. Before you start, just say "I want you to listen to how I'm feeling before you comment. When I'm finished, say what you want but just listen for now." And then just put it all on the line. I'm sure she loves you but maybe she is insecure and feels the need to build herself up in front of you. She just likely wants your approval of her bf. You really need to work this out though. Her kids need you and if she doesnt right this moment, she will in the future. Dont burn any bridges.
2006-07-19 15:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by Starry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry that happened.
I think you need to tell your sister how you feel and how much you love them and want to see them. If she won't allow you to see them everyone has a right to see the children in their family and you can sure for visits as an aunt.
2006-07-19 15:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Questions&Answers 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
family can be so strange and you love them and you hate them
my cousin when her dad was dying my uncle and the closest thing i had to a father myself was so mean and rude to everyone for being at he hospital and going to the meeting with the hospice nurse...she even told me to go to work and that she would call if he passed before i got back...
i have a sister who drives me insane and i can handle her for a day or two..she is what i call an odd duck no wait a tramp is more like
heck girl i moved and no one except my kids know where i live and that's because they live with me
2006-07-19 16:00:25 · answer #9 · answered by midnite 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry to hear that thanks 4 the points
2006-07-19 15:58:49 · answer #10 · answered by crystal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋