boyfriend problem.. and now, im crying?

Question

im so sad right now.... i am a paranoid person and sensitive person.. i dont think my bf can handle it... but the thing is.. everytime i get angry, he gets angry at me too.. everytime i worry about something, he does make me calm, but after he yells at me and get angry at me.. i love him so much.. and he just called me, and i think he wants to break up with me.. but we did not.. he is 23 years old.. and im 17 .. im so stress right now.. i need advice..

i need good advice .. NO OFFENSE..

thats the problem.. i am an honest person.. and i always tell whatever is inside my heart..

Answer 1

First, don't let Paranoia eat you up, you are worrying too much for something that is not yet happening, so when it happen.. you've been hurt twice..First from anticipating it to happen and second for seing it happen. If you have these fears that your boyfriend gonna leave you then face it, prepare yourself rather than running from it. He has a free will, his own choice and if he chose to leave you, he will surely do and you cannot do anything about it anymore but accept, let go and move on.

Second, Since you still have him by your side, do everything to make the relationship work...TALK. Your bf might have problems and he was too weak to face it. and being angry most of the time is his way to hide this weakness. "Immature" as they would say. He might be much older than you but remember : "Girls mature faster than boys"

Third, Your still young, if the relationship still didn't work.. you can find other men.. and who knows, will love you even more...

So, don't cry girl... just smile.. this is Life!

Answer 2

Bah your not too young to have a BF, although a 23 year old is probably not the age range you should be dating in. It would be very easy for him to conceal cheating if he was at bars and so forth.

You have learned a valuable lesson...If you give anger to someone it will come back to you as anger.

Next time you are angry think about exactly how and why you feel that way. Often times it is because you have another emotion you don't know how to express as well, saddness, jealousy, or what have you.

Next express your true feelings without attacking your BF or mate.

Example: I feel sad because you went out to the bar and didn't call or see me tonight and you said you would.

This helps the other person understand what and why you are feeling.

Answer 3

Well, I don't want to preach and tell you that your too young for this guy and he is actually breaking the law just by being with you, I won't tell you that. But, if you two really truly love each other than you should seroiusly think about counseling (not just you) Both of you! If he doesn't agree to it, or gets angry about it. Then you two need a time-out and you need to take a long hard look at this relationship! You deserve only the best, girl!

Answer 4

pretty much he only wanted you for a good time. Now he's over it. He is not the only guy in the world that you are gonna care so much about. I promise you! Back off and stop texting him and see what happens. From my point of view, it's good he's acting like this now because if he started acting like this 6 months into your relationship it would hurt way worse.. Now you know what type of a guy he is and start hanging out with your mates to take your mind off the dramas. Pretty much it looks like it's over between you two. Don't think too much about it. Just think, you had fun and you can get ready to move onto the next. Best of luck!

Answer 5

Well...first of all, get a grip of yourself. He didn't break up with you so what is it that you are so worried about?
Give him a call and talk to him. Let him know that you really do love him and let him know how you really feel.
Don't sit there and worry and get yourself overly worked up.
Just call him and talk to him. Maybe you two can go for a walk. I know it's night time but it sounds like that is just what you need right now.

I hope this helps.

Answer 6

Love is a powerful thing...If it truly is love. Your boyfriend is not that much older than you, but those few years are HUGE in life experience. Not that you are lacking there, but you are FAR better suited to having a relationship with someone closer to your own age...Not to mention that laws might be broken with the relationship that you are in. I'm not a big fan of strict laws, but this one has real value. If it isn't working....move on with a smile and wish him well....You are young...and will be fine ;)

Answer 7

At 17, there are so many other things to be stressing out about. A guy, isn't one of them. Smile. You have at least another 60 years to have men problems. Enjoy your life, stop crying and have some fun.

Answer 8

Tell him you love him. You have to live and not be too paranoid about things... thats what causes stress... both of you are still young no point worrying to much... put that energy into better use, to build your relationship.

Answer 9

you cant stay in a relationship that has so much preasure unless yr willing to try to change all this argueing and stress. find where the stress and angish is coming from and correct this and youll find that things will be smoother.youll find some topics on despression and relationships in here that will help you out

Answer 10

reminds me of my boyfriend 20 where i am 25 :)

if you think about the past problems it will get worse..
maybe sit back and think to yourself what makes your boyfriend angry . talk to him and talk about anything .. just if you feel your talking about something where your boyfriend might gets angry well calm down as say lets pospone this and talk another time