i like this guy but he dated one of my friends for some month and they broke up for no reason but the problem is we try to go out but a friend said when i get to know the really him i will back off but she did not tell me why. i kind of hate him now cos of what the girl said. he is all that a girl will wish for so shd i let him go or i shd grab him. some body plz advice me now cos am losing it.
2006-07-19 15:30:50 · 27 answers · asked by Angel. 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well a few things you should consider....
1. you should make your own mind up about people. You would not want people to judge you based on what others have said.
2. usually you learn from your mistakes... if he really does like you he might have learned what he messed up with before and try to do the right thing now
3. your friend might be a little biased... she might have had her feelings hurt and is trying to sabotage your friendship/relationship with this guy.
best thing to do it take it slow... don't rush off to the physical part. if the guy does like you (rather than what is under your clothes) then he will take the time to get to know you... if he only wants some action then he will lose interest and you at that point know what he is really about and not have regrets.
2006-07-19 15:36:00 · answer #1 · answered by zeechou 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Why won't this friend you what she didn't like about him?
I would try to talk to her again.
If she still doesn't answer,
I would think she might be jealous
that you've got your sights set on him.
Remember that America is a wonderful counrty
because people are innocent until proven guilty.
I say definitely give this guy a chance!
The best opinion is your own.
Maybe the reason your friend doesn't like him
is the exact reason why you'd love him!
(ex. he is a sports fanatic and she hates sports
so she can't relate to him.
But, lucky for you, you love sports, too!)
It's not the best example but you get the point :)
So good luck'!
2006-07-19 15:38:10 · answer #2 · answered by divalicious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! He could be the perfect guy for you. have u ever heard the saying "one girls trash could be another girls treasure"? He may not have been right for that girl but could be perfect for you! You cant go by what other people tell you...if u like him take the chance and find out for yourself, thats the only way you can be sure! You would regret it if u didnt at least try! (and besides this girl may be just saying that coz she's jealous) either way give it a go! Good Luck darl! :)
2006-07-19 15:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by hello hello! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your friend is thinking that if she can't have him nobody can. I would make my own decisions about people. Apparently there is a reason they broke up.. they didn't get along. Just because they didn't get along doesn't mean you and he won't. What does your gut tell you? Does he work? Does he have his own transportation? What kind of living arrangements does he have. Would you have to pay for everything? These kind of questions are much more important than what anyone else says about him.
2006-07-19 15:35:36 · answer #4 · answered by Ms_E_Bunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the girl that you will not judge someone based on someone else's judgement. If she is willing to tell you their story then you can make up your mind on wether or not to date him. For anyone to expect you to make decisions on a "trust me" basis is immature and manipulative.
The way I see it there are two reasons this girl would steer you clear of him:
Either she still has feelings for him and is jealous
OR
He took liberties with her against her wishes and she doesn't want to talk about it.
I hope it is neither. Good luck.
2006-07-19 15:38:04 · answer #5 · answered by Kristonia 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you hate him just because she said something bad about him and can't back it up? Go for it. If that girl is right, then you will back off when you get to know him better, and no harm done. If she's wrong, you get to have a great relationship and prove her wrong as a bonus!
2006-07-19 15:35:49 · answer #6 · answered by Tim 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it because I was in the same situation you were in. Well the friend that told me this was only telling lies. She said that he would beat me and cheat on me. But we are now together for almost 5 years. So I think you should find out for yourself and don't believe what other people say until you have tried it on your own..... And just to let you know he hasn't cheat or beat on me!!!!!
2006-07-19 15:43:41 · answer #7 · answered by Tweety B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
definately don't give up a chance to have a good relationship your friends could just be mad at him from their previous experience and in turn could be making you think he is bad so he is not happy. listen to your heart that is the best friend you can have your heart will point you in the right direction do what is good for you give it a try and if it works it works if it doesn't it doesn't but at least you tried
2006-07-19 15:35:27 · answer #8 · answered by pretty_in_pink607 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always follow your intuition first. If you believe he is a stand up guy then go for it. But also realize that what she said could be true. Your best bet would be to date him, but stick that piece of info in your back pocket and the first time he demonstrates that he is unworthy of you...LEAVE him alone! People will ALWAYS reveal their true nature, if you give them enough rope to hang themself :-)
2006-07-19 15:38:38 · answer #9 · answered by OHHELLNO 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you could take your friends warning if you are sure she is not just trying to dissuade you from seeing him for her own reasons
or you could give the guy a chance but go into it with a clear head and look for signs that he isnt a good guy after all
2006-07-19 15:34:19 · answer #10 · answered by Willow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋