HELP! my boyfriend beats me!
2006-07-19 14:49:49 · 10 answers · asked by christy 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I agree, this would be more physical abuse, but also it could be
mental - it would seems to me that before he hurts you maybe
he is playing mind games??? teasing you, belittleing you?
Telling you one hurtful comment after another? then you get yourself all upset and speak back & he slaps you? Am I right?
Because this is how it usually works. My Sister was asleep in her bed & her husband came home drunk, he woke her up - he
was looking for a fight, & then when she spoke back to him he
beat her. Sounds to me like this is where you are -
Why put up with that crap? You teach people how to treat you -
have you a self esteem problem? are you depressed? His ways
of belittleing you can make you seem an inch tall in your eyes,
but you mustn't give in - he must be made aware of what he is
doing - is he loaded when he abuses you? I would suggest you
get a tape recorder, & turn it on when he starts his crap - and try
& get the most you can. Then when he is in his right mind - make him aware of what he is doing. If he isn't loaded and he is
sober & still doing this to you - I would serve him notice that the
next time he hits you - you will call 911 & have him arrested.
Then follow through with it. If you don't your never gonna have
any peace! and if it continues, you must ask yourself - "can I do
without him & his abuse?" Think hard & long. You are better than that! I would throw him out on his ear! And never look back!
You don't deserve to be treated this way! Please - do something
before he really hurts you & you have to go to the emergency room! Get rid of him - I think you can do better. There is no
reason a man has to beat up a woman - this is unacceptable!
Let him know it!
2006-07-19 15:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get out now.... if you really love him, tell him that it is over until he gets counselling AND in the meantime take time away from him.
Batterers rarely (if ever) stop on their own. They do tend to escalate their behavior. No matter what his story is (he was abused himself, he is sorry, etc) YOU deserve to be safe.
Your boyfriend NEEDS counselling and time to learn how to control his behavior. If you truly love him, keep yourself safe FOR you and to make sure he doesn't get in trouble, and make sure he gets help. He won't get help if you let him continue with his behavior.
Most of all remember that his abuse is NOT your fault and not a reflection of you or your behavior, no matter what he says.
Please stay safe. More women are killed by men they know (boyfriends, husbands) than by strangers. While it is important to remain wary of strangers as a woman, it is silly if you stay in this abusive relationship.
Don't become another statistic.
2006-07-19 16:40:01 · answer #2 · answered by Lexical 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stay away from people who don't value you as a human being, even if you need to take legal means, as might be the case of your b/f. Secondly, you may want to seek some spiritual help, and counseling to deal with the abuse you have already had.There are several avenues for help if you are not afraid to get it. Call your local WIC(women in crisis) hot-line, if you don't have any help from your family.
2006-07-19 15:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not suffering from mental abuse you are suffering from physical abuse..I am not saying that there are no mental problems..you have to make the first step to find help..the police department can help you find a shelter to protection and also get you in touch with someone who can represent you..Don't let it go to the point that he kills you...he needs help too..
2006-07-19 14:53:46 · answer #4 · answered by FloNightingGale 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not mental abuse, thats physical. You need to get out, The ONLY thing in this whole world that you have total control over is YOUR actions, and how you respond, so you're either gonna take it or leave because you will never be able to change him.
2006-07-19 18:04:05 · answer #5 · answered by BrittyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go, you have to get out of this right now, b/c it could be fatal, leave him!!!!! He is not worth losing your life, I know it is hard to let somebody you care about go, but it is harder to hold on to somebody who really doesn't care about you. There is somebody out there that will treat you like the queen you deserve to be treated like. Once you leave don't turn around, no matter what, and last but not least , call the cops and get his tail locked up, b/c he does not deserve to be free, let him be some body's bi##h in jail!!
2006-07-19 15:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by *FLIRTACIOUS* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would certainly get away as soon as possible!If you area friad of leaving, you should probally talk to somone you TRUST really well.regardless of fear or not you should get away maybe a trusted freind would help you stay away from him untill you get some kind of protectio from that happening again.THe only way to get rid of the metal effects is to Seperate yourself from the perpetrater.
2006-07-19 16:20:08 · answer #7 · answered by pearlofthesea7 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
call police now or you may end up dead very simple solution doesnt need a brain even to figure out just get rid of him
2006-07-19 15:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by scott S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please get help from battered women's You did not say how old you are. Do you have family or friends that you can go to? Not only are you in danger and need help your boy friend needs help. Please help him and your self before you end up really hurt or dead and your boyfriend ends up in jail forever or dead. How are you going to feel when he injures or kills his next girlfriend?
2006-07-19 16:51:24 · answer #9 · answered by Sarah H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he beats you, and you stay with him, you deserve it.
2006-07-19 15:16:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋