I'm getting married, is is okay if I use my brothers as my "bridesmaids"?

Question

I don't really have any close girlfriends, and I am very close with my three brothers. Tell me if you think I'm crazy.

Answer 1

It's a major break with tradition, but it sounds like the right thing to do in your case. I'm sure your brothers will look very pretty in those bridesmaids' dresses! (Just kidding!)

Maybe your brothers, as your attendants, can wear lighter-colored suits or lighter-colored cumberbunds than your groom's men. Or, your brothers can wear colored shirts and the groomsmen wear white shirts.

Or, if you really want to smash tradition, have your groom include his sisters or female cousins as his groomswomen! I can picture the groomswomen wearing black ribbons or sashes on their dresses.

Addendum: in answer to Marci G, your male attendants can be bridesmen.

Addendum: here are some articles on the topic:
Pray silence for the best person!
http://www.confetti.co.uk/cafe/hot_topics/hot_topic_26_09_03.asp

Modern Wedding Parties Bend Gender Roles
By Jennifer D'Angelo
http://www.foxnews.com/story/0,2933,87173,00.html

Attendants: Men of Honor and Best Maids
http://www.theknot.com/ch_article.html?Object=AI980914212648&keyword=WEDDING+PARTY&channel=

Here Comes the Bridesman!!
http://www.thehitchingpost.co.uk/news/archive_detail.php?nID=44

You can also look up "bridesmen", "groomswomen", "bridesman", and "groomswoman" on a search engine and see what you find; don't forget to click "Images", too!

Answer 2

I think that's a great idea! I won't be having any bridesmaids at all, for similar reasons to yours, but I think it would be really nice to have your brothers as 'bridesmaids' - just make sure that they'll feel comfortable with it. And you might have to call them something a little less feminine. Perhaps 'bridal attendants'?

Great idea -- it's your wedding after all! All the best for your wedding and marriage.

Answer 3

Yes, but I wouldn't call them bridesmaids. You will have to come up with some other way to go about it. Maybe they can be giving you away along with your father or something. Or they can come down the isle and give a blessing to you one at a time. But then you have to think of something to do with the groomsmen too. Unless you want to switch the roles and you choose the groomsmen and your fiance chooses the bridesmaids. And he can still pick a best man and your mom could be your maid of honor.

Answer 4

Hey it's ur wedding and if the groom don't mind then I guess it's ok. I went to a wedding where the brides mother gave her away, because her mom was the one who raised her, she was the one who put her through school, she was the one who paind for a education, she was the one who did it all ( her dad skipped out on them when she was 3) so it was her mom who had to be her mother & father, her mom had it hard at imes but they got through it, so when she got engaged she said she wanted her mom to give her away.

Her mom was alos in the delivery room when she had all 3 of her kids. So if u want ur bother ot be the bridesmaid then go right ahead, and let others talk( if they make a rude remake standup for urself and ur brother) tell them unless they're paying for the wedding to mind they're own business

Answer 5

You are not crazy. If you are close with your brothers and want them to stand beside you then by all means go for it! Like others have already mentioned, nothing is out of the ordinary these days. Most modern brides balk at tradition to make their wedding day unique and representative of them. Remember, this is your day--you don't want to have any regrets when you look back at the day. Good luck, and congratulations!

Answer 6

It's not crazy to want your closest friends or relatives up there - men or not! You can call them bridesmen, or bridal attendants. If I were you though I'd have a pretty good conversation with them about it first to make sure they're okay with it. I'm sure they will be - after all you are their sister - but just in case they have concerns about how "girly" their duties would be.

I think it's a great idea. Good luck and have fun planning!

Answer 7

hey, it's your wedding. If you want your bothers to be your bridesmaid...or bridesmen, go for it. Just be sure you have a woman to help you in the dress. Who cares what everyone else thinks. As long as you and the groom are happy... I say go for it.

Answer 8

i dont see why u won't be able to be truly good friends mutually with her yet bare in recommendations, she will have the capacity to quickly be a married lady mutually with her own complications to take care. you look like you've a tremendous courting with your brother, you ought to communicate with him about it. and also, even as they do get married, your brother or you ought to discover it demanding to percentage her between both of u, wich ought to reason arguments. naima x

Answer 9

you're not crazy but men can't be maids Bridesmaids help the bride get ready on her most important day (setting her hook in a man) Sorry fellas

Answer 10

oh yes....i read somewhere that now people are using both sexes on either side the bride and groom. they were dressing any female attendants for the groom in black business suits (with skirts) and then the guys that were attendants for brides in suits in the wedding colors or in tuxes with ties of the wedding colors. tradition is becoming obsolete....non-traditional and rocking the boat is in!