My boyfriend doesn't pay enough attention to me!!?

Question

My boyfriend is always at work. We talk on the phone more than we see each other. What should I do? I love him but, I'm lonely.

Answer 1

well u r in the same situation my sister is in.
u shud still keep the lovin stong.
and if he truly loves u he ought 2 get u sum flowers.
(or chocolate!)
hehe!!

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Answer 2

Gee, not surprised.

My boyfriend lives 45 minutes away. He does call me everyday, that is nice. Even when I go there for the weekend though, we go and do our seperate things periodically. He goes for breakfast with his friends and I go with mine. I ride and he doesn't, so I will take off for a few hours and go riding with this other guy. I will be at his house and he will want to take a nap or read a magazine. Geez. He is just too laid back and I need to do stuff. We really don't have a lot in common I guess. I have warned him that if he continues to be unenthusiastic about being with me, then we might as well not be together.

But.....he is sweet and we laugh together a lot and we are great friends, and I like listening to him play guitar, and he did get on the back of my bike last weekend. He likes my kids. I like his dogs. I miss him and don't like that we are apart so much, but maybe things will change later and what we have is better than not having him at all.

The guy I had before was working constantly and I would have had to go a couple months without seeing him. That was too much. And then he would go stay out of town at his Dad's for a while. I broke it off. If you are going to be lonely, it is better to be not be missing anyone, I know how that feels.

I know that this guy may have to go away to work sometime too. If I know we are both committed, then it is easier. If I don't know where I stand or a future looks grim, then why wait around for nothing?

Answer 3

Well, I guess he has to work to pay his bills and tend to other obligations. Don't know his situation, but maybe you need to be a little bit more understanding that he has to work in order to survive. Do you want him to quit his job? I am sure he doesn't work 7 days a week, 24 hours a day. I say, talk to him and sat up a date when he's off and spend time with each other.

Answer 4

it's okay it's normal to feel that way at times especially if your partner is busy while you are not, it gives you ample of time to think of the relationship. while he is busy, it doesn't mean he doesn't care. on the other hand, i also believe that a guy/girl always "takes time for the relationship" because spending time is important in making a relationship grow. maybe his work really just calls for it.. the point is he is still calling you. my advise is make yourself busy not just to divert your attention but also to be productive yourself. realize the things you like to do and do those things. your boyfriend gets a lot of satisfaction and feeling of productivity with his work which boosts his self image which is good for him. you also.. need to do that for YOURSELF. i believe that this could also be a way to get your boyfriend's attention. being busy with other things would show him you have "a life without him" other than "your life with him".

Answer 5

Well first off you should tell him to get his priorities straight....ask him if his work is more important than your all's relationship. That may sound harsh but in fact of the relationships I've studied...it works the best because it makes the person who was asked (the boyfriend most usually) realize that there is more important things in his life than work. Tell him that money can be replaced but love can't.

Answer 6

Stop being so selfish or go find an unemployed guy to do your bidding.. God forbid he has a job, You know how many girls would love to have their bf get a job.. Try moving in together if you ar old enough, but I think you are to self absorbed and he is better off without you. So do him a favor and break up with him..

Answer 7

well i have been reading all the other answer you have gotten. and well some are well stupid if you ask me but any who. this what i think. well if he love you like you love him tell him how you feel and if he don't like what you have to tell him well he should if he love you. he should work this out with you. but if he wont and just don't care I'm sorry but you should have the best that is out there. so i tell him if you love me you will work this out but if you don't want to scened the time on it well maybe we should end this. most guy today only think of them self and there so stupid. but if you want work this out with him no madder what just don't hurt your self in the end. i just got hurt by the love of my life at the time six month ago and i was a mess for five month. don't put your self in that. so I'm here for you if you need to talk. god bless.

Answer 8

How much is enough, exactly? Guys don't like really clingy girls. But if he ignores you on purpose, then talk to him about it. Don't leave it alone because eventually your relationship will end due to lingering issues.

Answer 9

look a girl need more then talking on the phone. I'm not say his is charting it just sound very stranger to me. just tell him how you feel my be if he's smart he'll f***k the job in be with you . i was having that problem but when i take my man how i felt about him aways working that night after he Left his job he came home in made it up to me in ever sauce he was afraid about him mite lose me he got his act to together.

Answer 10

Try talking phone sex to him. Tell him what you are going to do when he gets close to you. Or tell him what you want him to do to you. He might be there more often if he knows that he has desert waiting for him. And always keep it spontaneous. Sex games can be interesting and fun.