this is my story, i got married almost 5 months, i got pregnant now almost 4, i tell his the news and he was not happy at all, he tell his mother and then he and his mother used to call me at all the times forcing me to do an abortion, a said to him NO, i even do a sonogram and the most beautiful thing in the world is to know that you have a life inside of you, i was so emotional to hear the heart beat of the baby, i told him that and he said to me i dont care you have to do an abortion, other wise i will divorce you he said, i separated from him, i suffer a lot, i was very emotional, he have never give a penny to take care of my self and the life that i have inside of me, and then after a while he told me to move with me, did you think if fare to moved with someone who has abuse you physically and emotionally after he was forcing you to do an abortion and he abandone you, at least do you think this man deserve a chance????
2006-07-19 14:06:13 · 16 answers · asked by jessica h 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
stay away from him, he's already had a chance and messed up, why go through all that all over again....
2006-07-19 14:14:55 · answer #1 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually I would say everyone deserves a second chance. Not this time. He was so determined to get his way. He thought moving out and threats of divorce would persuade you to get an abortion. That didn't work so now he is ready to be forgiven and move back in. I would not do it if I were you.
2006-07-19 21:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by geni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is already emotionally and physically abusive why would you go back to him pregnant or not?..your free , move on happily with your child screw him and his mother
and what makes you think that the fact that he wants you to have an abortion might not be the reason he want you to move back with him?.... the fact that he is abusive would have me afraid that he was gonna do something to me to cause me to lose my child before it was born ...DON'T GO BACK TO HIM NO MATTER WHAT .... once an abuser always an abuser
move on please if not for your sake than for the sake of the child
2006-07-19 21:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by ptmamas 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even asking this?? For sympathy or something? You know the answer, don't be a tool. He has no need to help you while you are pregnant, its afterwards hes legally responsible. I went through pregnancy by myself, and I was much happier then if I was with the dad. Seriously, you need to be a little more secure with yourself, or you're going to screw up this baby.
2006-07-19 21:18:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
every one deserves a second chance...he might have really been scared to have the baby..but if he ever physically hit you, i would not let him back...unless he expressed every feeling running threw his head, you don't know what made him act the way he did...you have not been married for that long, maybe he really was not ready for a baby...with time everyone changes, and its not always for good...but you are never going to know unless you give it a try...i would not move in with him right away, ask him to go to one of your doctors appointment's with you, go out to dinner a few times...see how you really feel when you are around him...if he refuses to go to the doctors he prob docent deserve that second shot....he needs to be there for you as well as the unborn child... do what you feel is right...good luck Hun
2006-07-19 21:21:27 · answer #5 · answered by *** Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. He doesn't deserve it. Being your husband he should have stood by you the entire time. He wasn't there when you needed him the most. Most likely a time will arise again and he'll bail out. He needs to face his issues and not run from them. It's wrong to abuse anyone physiccally or emotionally.
2006-07-19 21:12:44 · answer #6 · answered by bbullfan@verizon.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a piece of crap and if he really cared for you he would not be abusive in ANY form. Any guy that walks out on a pregnant woman does not deserve her....ever. Get a restraining order.
2006-07-19 21:32:49 · answer #7 · answered by h_tidewell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go back. He will do it again. Get a court order to support the baby. It's the law. If he says it isn't his, get a DNA test .
Your whole life is ahead of you . Be strong .
If you're foolish enough and go back then make sure he gets a vasectomy first`
2006-07-19 21:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no he doesn't need a chance he sounds like a dead beat dad and ur child shouldn't be in a surrounding of negativity(sorry on spelling) your child should be around love and care and feel protected and if ur husband can't do that then i think u should find someone who can do that
2006-07-19 21:11:48 · answer #9 · answered by hoophunny51 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLEASE i beg you not to ever get back w/ that man you dont want that for yourself and especially not for your child. try not to even have contact w/him people like that are not very safe i have a personal story like that w/ a family member so i know what those type of people can do please do not go near these poeple protect yourself and your baby
e-mail me if you need support on a more personal level
2006-07-19 21:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Vita 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO !!! He has had enough chances but doesn't want to be responsible..Tell him to go screw himself..and his mother shouldn't even be in on your stuff..Take him to court divorce him and make him pay child support and alimony to you ..Take him for every dime he has...DO NOT GO BACK TO HIM
2006-07-19 21:42:12 · answer #11 · answered by Mrs. M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋