I leant my friend $550 when we went on a work function together. Since then I have been asking her for it, but she has had some hard times, she broke up with her boyfriend and had to get her own place, and other things. At one point she told me she interofficed it to me (she works in a different branch of the company) but it never showed up. It's been 2 months and she was supposed to get it to me this Friday, but just left me a message that she had to talk to me about "something important" which I know is that she won't be paying me on Friday. I feel bad for her for her problems, and I don't want it to get in between us, but I need my money back! How can I do it without causing a big problem???
2006-07-19 13:53:10 · 15 answers · asked by Lotus 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Originally I was supposed to get it back in a week when she filled out her expense report with our company.
2006-07-19 13:55:16 · update #1
If you want to stay friends with her, forget about the money. Never lend money to friends, ever. In fact, don't lend money to anyone. Only give money away. There will never be a polite way to say you want your money back.
If you don't want to stay friends with her, then suggest Judge Judy. That would be a great case for her.
2006-07-19 14:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by Dave S 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There's a couple options you have to resolve it peacefully. One might be to set up a payment plan with her where she pays you a set amount per week. Some people aren't good at saving so while she may not have the entire $550, she might have $100. It's less than ideal, but eventually you would get your money back. Phrase it in a way that empowers her to action, such as "What kind of payment plan can we work out that would be doable for you."
Another thing you might want to do, and in the future that would be advisable if you were lending money to anyone else, is to have her sign a promissory note acknowledging the debt and the amount of the debt. That way, in the worst case scenario that you do have to go to court, you'll have documentation.
2006-07-19 14:10:48 · answer #2 · answered by Jeff K 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She Owes Me Money
2016-11-17 02:21:41 · answer #3 · answered by moriyon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her if she can borrow it from friends, family, or a loan company because you really need your money and you wouldn't want to lose friendship over it. Then don't ever loan anyone money, especially without a written agreement, even a boyfriend. Only husbands and wives should loan money. Engaged couples don't always get married. Just watch the Judge shows to be educated about how people back out on loans.
2006-07-19 15:22:16 · answer #4 · answered by tina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take it as a life lesson to NEVER lend money to a friend (especially one who is broke...) I gave a "friend" $ 2000.00 as an investment to start his own company and he used the $ to move into an new house.... needless to say I NEVER saw that $ again.
I would never save a friendship over $. Friends don't screw friends over for money. Your friend is obviously not a friend, she simply used you to get some cash. If she had any intergrity she would make at least a plan to pay you back. You can probably kiss your friend and the money good bye.
2006-07-19 14:23:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to sit down with your friend and set up deadlines. However, if you want to save your friendship, sacrifices are in order. By that, I mean for you to give your friend plenty of time to come up with the money. However, if your friend proves that she's not gonna pay, then let that be by-gones. Next time, you'll know that you need to be cautious about her. One lie will lead on to another lie. You don't want that from your friend.
2006-07-19 14:01:03 · answer #6 · answered by Paul 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the situation must be handled with some patience. you should show up in person and ask for the money. don't start an argument because that will give her another reason to not pay you. don't think about court because you can win and she might still not pay you, and you'll be out lots of lawyer's fees. the best way is simply to keep asking for it and try to get her to understand your reasons for needing the money back. again, if you start an argument, you will likely not get the money.
2006-07-19 14:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by misterlyle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her politly but firmly that u want it back and that you have been very accomodating but her behaviour is now offending and forces you never to trust her again..offer her another week's time at the most..send an email about this and let her agree to this deadline in writing..and if still nothing happens..talk to ur boss about it since it's official money and maybe her senior too if ur departments are different...they should be able to put pressure on her ....i think uve had enough pity on her...
2006-07-19 22:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by Nisha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about a payment plan...$50 per paycheck until it's paid off?
Just for future reference, my great-grandmother gave me some of the best advice anyone ever has: Never lend books or money because you'll never get either one back! :)
2006-07-19 14:35:37 · answer #9 · answered by brevejunkie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My philosophy:
Loaning money to a friend is no favor. Giving to someone in need, no strings attached, is a gift for you. Don't give or loan money to anyone if you need it back.
My sister "pays" others to help her out...............for instance:
A friend needed money....my sister needed her wood floors sanded and finished..........they worked together on it.........another friend watched her dog for a weekend so she could go out of town.....
Ofcourse my sister can afford to do these things.
2006-07-19 14:35:13 · answer #10 · answered by Dino 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋