Ok..Heres the story: I met her online and before we had met I had told her that I had sex with like 6 women, flash forward to 1.5 years later and we meet up and we have been together for 2 years now. The thing is She has always thought that I wasnt a virgin and I even lied to her how my "ex's" were in bed. In reality, she is my only real girlfriend I have ever had. I want to tell her that she was my first too (she was a virgin before we had sex). How do I tell her? I'm too scared to tell her the truth.
2006-07-19 13:38:34 · 37 answers · asked by twilight_hyperion_shade 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I do not kid when I say this, but I lasted for 2 hours my first time.
2006-07-19 13:41:16 · update #1
umm, not really. I actually "chokked the chicken" before hand dude. It does wonders.
2006-07-19 13:45:49 · update #2
Admit that you were too embarrased. She will be impressed with your honesty, and that is MAJOR POINTS dude!
2006-07-19 13:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by TruthIsRelative 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her the truth. If she was a virgin and you were a virgin, she might think that it was sweet that you two lost your virginities together. I don't understand why you told her that you had sex with so many women in the beginning, because most women don't find that flattering or a "good thing" at all. Now is your chance to wrong your right, and tell her that she was your first, and it was awesome, and she's the first girlfriend you've ever had, and she's the greatest girl in the world....you know make it flattering to lessen the fact that you don't quite tell the truth in the beginning. Good luck!
2006-07-19 13:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by BabeeOreo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See what happens when you don't tell the truth to start with? This has all snowballed into something that will ruin your relationship because even though you are umm.. coming...clean... the fact you lied will always make her wonder what else you lied about and what in the future you are going to lie about. Yeah it's all cute you were a virgin and all that... not so cute you lied. She probably DID wonder how you had sex with all the others and were soooo darn bad in the sack with her.... good luck man...
2006-07-19 13:42:29 · answer #3 · answered by BBQGuide 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much does it matter to her that you were not a virgin? I think its more about honesty.. that would hurt her compared to your virginity status. I think if at this time, it does not matter if you are or not, just drop the topic out of your mind and not repeat it. Love her.. and start being honest!!!.. if it is very important to her that you were nto a virgin.. then let her know taht you lied to get her to talk to you.. ect.. honestly is good, but some honestly can hurt. SO dependings on the importance of ths topic in your and her life.. tell her or just let it be buried over time, but make sure you dont lie again.. to someone u know.. relationship built on lies.. while not pass the test of time..
2006-07-19 13:44:02 · answer #4 · answered by desixraja 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should just take her out to a nice dinner and tell her the truth, from a woman's point of view. would have been real flattered, no woman wants a man that sleeps around. My boyfriend was a virgin and I took his virginity, I am proud because I have a place in his heart that no one will. Maybe she'll feel the same.
2006-07-19 13:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Patricia A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you're full of doggy crap. You lasted for 2 hours in dog time... which is about ten seconds in human time.
Put it this way, if your g/f was also a 'virgin' then she wouldn't know one way or another. But if she's experienced, then when you blew after about 15 seconds, she would have known you were a virgin.
Stop the bull crap dude. If you lasted two hours, that means it took you about 1 hour, 59 minutes, and 30 seconds to take your pants off...
2006-07-19 13:44:03 · answer #6 · answered by DarthFangNutts 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What u should do is sit her down and talk to her start a convo and then when u feel right enough to tell her the truth say something like this:
I want to tell u something i should have told u a long time ago, but i felt like you would reject me or break up with me for it...say something to butter her up a little! then just tell her whats on ur mind
she will understand!
2006-07-19 13:45:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When will people understand how important it is not to lie? That is what you get for telling what then seemed to be a harmless fib, and look at you now worried about the response you are going to get because you LIED in the first place!
2006-07-19 13:42:02 · answer #8 · answered by flyingbumblebee 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit her down and just tell her. She should understand why without you even having to tell her. And if you feel you need to say something tell her (looking into her eyes) that you are sorry and you are telling her now because that night was so special to you and you hate the fact that she didn't know that it was the first time for both of you and you wish she had know that night.
And how sorry you are.
2006-07-19 13:47:41 · answer #9 · answered by ma_zila 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear boy!!! Tell her you fibbed because you thought she would respect you more if she thought you had some experience but that you were glad that she was really your first, and you hope she will forgive the stupid (yes, stupid, lie). Best of luck to you - I think she'll be even more pleased with the truth, just DON'T make a habit of lying!! -Happy Hag
2006-07-19 13:45:00 · answer #10 · answered by Happy Hag 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you should have told the truth in the beginning. But, what's done is done. Fess up to and be honest - just let it out. If you really have a good thing with this girl, you'll get past it just fine. Also, if you WANT to keep a good thing with this girl you'll do it now. Good luck!
2006-07-19 13:41:03 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋