As i've stated before on these boards, im a shy and naturally quiet person. This weekend i will be going to a theme park with a bunch of people i either don't know very well, or don't know at all. The thought of this sounds both terrifying and fantastic. This is actually a big step for me.
Does anyone have (real) advice for me so i can help build my confidence and maybe get some guts? Help will be much appreciated!
2006-07-19 13:20:45 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
Thank you all for your answers, they were really helpful and incredibly thoughtful. Thank you for taking the time to answer my question, this is going to be a hard one to pick the best answer.
2006-07-19 14:29:27 · update #1
Concentrate on the fact that there is no need to impress anyone. The only reason anyone will pay particular attention to you in a theme park setting is if you are trying to hard to be someone you are not, which always shows as insecurity.
2006-07-19 13:23:14 · answer #1 · answered by TruthIsRelative 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go and enjoy yourself - you should be worried about the throw up rides.
Don't try too hard because that will show. Talk enough to be noticed, but don't overcompensate. It will come naturally. You're at a park, so you will be spending a lot of time waiting in line and riding. Just keep the conversation light and about the rides or park and you will be fine. However, make eye contact when you talk with people. This shows you have confidence.
Who knows, there could be others in your group who feel the same way.
2006-07-19 13:30:51 · answer #2 · answered by Sirena 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell yourself that you are beautiful and fascinating and above average in everything you do. This is not a lie. It is a forecast for the future. There are self-hypnosis programs around, but I have not tried any of them.. I have tried Yoga Nidra, which is a type of hypnosis that you are completely in charge of.
I know you are aware that none of the rest of us are perfect, but perhaps you could remind yourself of that.
Allow yourself to laugh. Laugh at nothing every now and then.
When you are at the theme park, ask questions of the people you are with. People are flattered if you show an interest in them, and it limits the amount of time you have to talk about yourself.
Go for one of the wilder rides at the theme park. Scream. It's an amazing experience.
2006-07-19 13:47:09 · answer #3 · answered by Delora Gloria 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's about chickening out of rides just remember that you are far more likley to die a gruesome death (mangled limbs and bloody gashes) duing the car ride to the park then when you actually ride a coaster.
If its about being around people you're not familiar with, scope the crowd for people you might be able to get along with (you can't be everybody's friend) and try to spend time getting to know them. By the end of the day you'll be far more comfortable because you'll have a friend there to back you up.
2006-07-19 13:24:35 · answer #4 · answered by DonSoze 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simply look in the mirror every day and say to yourself, Damn I look good. Keep telling yourself that you are the most beautiful woman in the world. You'll get more confident if you believe in yourself.
Only you can change the way you feel about you. When you are with the people. SMILE! A person who is smiling is a confident person. When one smiles at you, do you not want to smile back? Exactly. You'll get more people smiling at you when you first show a nice confident smile.
2006-07-19 13:25:36 · answer #5 · answered by almondjoy_1000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it sounds like your forcing yourself.
If you don't want to do something, don't!
I have lots of friends and go out and stuff all the time, but what you described doesn't sound like fun at all to me.
But if you insist on going then the only thing I can suggest is be yourself. I know that sounds corny or whatever but a good friend told me that years ago and it's always worked for the best.
Good Luck!
2006-07-19 13:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being shy ..you will be self concious ...aware of just how you feel ...what if ..you imagine ...your someone else for a day ..that when you leave to go to the theme park ..you take a confident happy person ..how would they act ..what would they say ...what do they think about ..look like ....if you try and visualise this in your head ...then when the day comes ..leave the shy part of you at home ...you sound more scared than shy ...go on enjoy the day ..bring out the happy side of you and see what it feels like
2006-07-19 13:31:16 · answer #7 · answered by pineforestkim 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to have faith in yourself that you have all the talent and tools to do the job. If you don't have faith in yourself, how can you expect anyone else to have faith in you. You cannot just snap your fingers and get confidence. It is a slow process, but take the first step, convince yourself you can do the job as well as the next person.When you make your presentation, be assertive when speaking, this is a sign of confidence.
2006-07-19 13:26:44 · answer #8 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be hard to do a crash course for the week end, but the fact that you decided to go is an indication of how brave you really are. Give yourself some credit for that. On step at a time is all you can do. You're doing that!
~Trust yourself~ :-)
Have you tried:
www.social-anxiety-shyness-info.com/links/overcoming-shyness.htm
2006-07-19 13:26:44 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Saffron♥Daydream♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its simple, have fun! Picture something you know your going to run into at the park and you know you will enjoy. Then do it. Fun is like laughing, someone does it and usually it finds its way into another laughing soul too. Confidence will soon follows after laughing and fun lets down the negative barriers.
2006-07-19 13:32:32 · answer #10 · answered by baremanmn 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋