just recently got divorced-was not so nice-protection order against her dad-she just refuses to listen, mind, and always has the last word. screams and hollars at me-just so frustrating!
2006-07-19 13:12:03 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
spank that A$$
2006-07-19 13:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by kitttkat2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not spank her. Try getting her to express her anger and frustration. Maybe you can use dolls to help her tell her side of the story. Have a mommy doll, a daddy doll and a doll that represents her. She is probably very scared. Daddy is gone, and maybe she blames you or herself. If she won't talk to you, how about a grandparent? Ask her to help you make cookies or have a girl night where you do hair and nails. Let her know that you two are a team and that you value her. You don't have to accept the disrespect. You can calmly tell her that you know she is upset and having a hard time right now and suggest she go to her room until she is able to calm down. When she does then you sit down and talk. Don't get sucked in. If it continues consider professional counseling. This will also help you if you end up in court with her dad.
The best you can do for her is remain consistent, and don't lose your temper. Also don't talk badly about her father in front of her. If he is going to have a relationship with her, then reinforce that the problems are between you and him and have nothing to do with how you each feel about her.
2006-07-19 20:35:46 · answer #2 · answered by D M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is so difficult, youhang in there and do NOT be afriad of consequences. Do NOT let her get away with the behavior becaus of the divorce. Here is my advice:
1. see if her school has a program called Banana Splits or Kids Corner (for kids with divorced parents, they get pulled out of class and meet with peers)
2. watch SuperNanny, get a time out spot and demand good listening and good behavior. You will be doing her a disservice if yougive up, holler and don't attempt to teach her correct behavior.
Being a single mom is the hardest job EVER, good luck and check out different discipline ideas from magazines, books, etc. It will work!!!!
2006-07-19 20:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by mariasonawire 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very difficult age to deal with such a major change. It sounds as though she isn't sure how to express her feelings and so is therefore acting out. Have you considered going to counseling with her? It would give her - and you - someone to talk to and work through these difficult times with. Even if it is not a counselor, maybe a pastor or close friend that you trust. Good luck through this, I pray that it works out and you both find some peace soon.
2006-07-19 20:28:12 · answer #4 · answered by grherrin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes that's the way we adapt to the situation, she has not accepted the separation. When you are use to having both parents around it takes awhile, sometimes it's hard for smaller kids to adjust.
2006-07-19 22:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by lil-bit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well most ppl will tell u to spank her but trust me it dont work. i put my son in counsling it helps a little but not very much.
2006-07-21 20:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by shell4678 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try working it out with your ex. That would make her happy.
2006-07-23 15:58:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's acting out to what is going on. i would take her to a doctor and find out what's going on with her and how you can help her adjust.
2006-07-22 12:54:14 · answer #8 · answered by liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is angry. Dont show your anger and spend time doing things together.
2006-07-19 20:20:51 · answer #9 · answered by KathyS 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋