There is this boy. WE love each other trust me. We are young but not that young. It is hard that i am religious and he is not. I wish he could be religious too, I do not want to push him to be something, he needs to do it himself, if he wants to. Been dating over a year. I still love him. Should I wait it out and keep having fun..or end it now so i wont be more hurt in the future? Maybe someday he will be religious? I am just so torn.
2006-07-19 12:47:20 · 9 answers · asked by k-mac 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I feel like if you love him so much, continue to pray for him. We women are a man's strength, we are more mature than them. It just mean that we have to not only be strong for our self but for them as well, especially the one we love and see as being a part of our future. If you continue to be his friend, lover, companion he will see the type of person you are and are trying to be and eventually he will make changes within himself. If by chance he don't and you feel that he is still your mate/husband. Then just continue to pray for him and let him go, and let God deal with him. He will come around in his own way at his own time, and if not then you know in heart mind and soul that he was not the one the Lord had for you. Because what the Lord has for you it is for you and my friend their will never be no doubt in your heart, you will just know.
2006-07-19 13:19:15 · answer #1 · answered by choc_blessings7 1 · 9⤊ 3⤋
Or maybe some day you won't be religious any more? Did you think about that possibility? Or maybe some day he'll be religious, but it will be an entirely different religion that the one you believe in? Or maybe you'll switch to another religion? But the most likely possibility is that this won't change: you'll stay religious and he'll stay not religious.
Expecting people to change foir you is a bad idea -- it almost never works out, and trying to change people usually just causes massive resentment. If having a boyfriend who's the same religion as you is that important to you, go find one who is. Just like any other criterion you insist on, it cuts down your chance of finding someone, but obviously that's not a reason to have no criteria at all -- it just means you should only insist on ones that really matter to you. You need to figure out whether this really matters to you, or not. If you can grow up enough to be able to respect that other people can have different opinions to you but that's OK, that doesn't automatically make them bad people, then stay with him, love him, respect his opinion even though you don't agree with him, and be happy. If you can't do this, dump him and find someone who'll agree with your religious views and won't challenge your narrow view of the world.
2006-07-19 13:07:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in the same kind of situation as you, and i know its so hard.Im a beleiver and pray where as my boyfriend dosent belivie in religion or every prays and its worse cuz we both are of different relegious back grounds.
We have been together for 5years and have agreed to disagree but i dont force my views on faith to him.I pray and beleive cuz i want to and he dosent thats his choice.
If you really are serious about this guy, you need to sit down and talk to him and make things clear and not pressure eachother, we are all different with different ideologies.
My aunt got divorced becuz of somthing as silly as this,its not worth it, at the end of the day as long as there is trust, love and understanding everything will be fine and thats what any relegion teaches aswell.
Its hard but just communicate and get things straight from the start.
Good luck!!1
2006-07-19 12:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by GenuineGemini 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you have an understanding about your views on religion, you should be OK but make sure that you can live with having diffrent opinons.
I was once in a relationship with someone who was atheist.
I didn't have a specific relgion that I followed, so I didn't think it would get in the way. What it came down to was that I beleived in God and he didn't and it DID eventually cause a rift and we broke up just after getting engaged.
2006-07-19 12:58:38 · answer #4 · answered by msdagney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never expect someone to change. If it's important to you that the person you date is religious, only date religious people.
2006-07-19 12:53:07 · answer #5 · answered by James M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've got the WORST taste in music and would have the WORST taste in entertainment if you liked talentless reality shows! Listen to good music like ICP!
2016-12-02 22:52:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can only act in the mind of Christ (assuming you're christian) and hope it rubs off on him. It may not and you should assume it won't.
If you cannot accept him for what he is now, do not get further involved.
2006-07-19 12:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep pushing the religon if it is really important to you...if he breaks up with you, then you know that he is not the one. just remember that yer religion should ALWAYS be more important than yer significant other!
2006-07-19 12:52:26 · answer #8 · answered by bill nye the science guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want to end an good realition over religion?
its kinda stupid
2006-07-19 12:58:58 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋