Need some serious advice........?

Question

I'am 34yrs old and recently opened a business with my mom, we agreed to put all efforts into the new business... The move cost my family our savings and are left short to buy/rent a house. My mother built a house and extended the welcome to stay to my hubby, and our son - it has been 2.5 weeks and she wants to move her fiance in and us out.... It is causing problems between my husband and I - not to mention we had to give our dog to the humane society..... Please give me some advice....

Answer 1

So many problems. Your mom has no loyalty to you. So whatever you do protect your family. Make her evict you. That should buy you some time. She can't legally push you out on the street. If she does she will have to pay you money in court. Go see if you can get help at the state level. Save your money. Look for a home, even if it is an economy weekly hotel. So be it. The stress has got to be eating you up.

Answer 2

Try to convince your mother to allow you and your family to stay longer AND look for a place to rent. Do both at the same time.

To buy more time at your mother's place, make sure that you, your husband and son are not being a burden. Your family should be helping with the household chores and yard work.

Look for a place you can afford to rent. If it's a one bedroom or studio apartment, then so be it. It beats being homeless. You're working with your mother. What is your husband doing? If he is working with you and your mother, then maybe he needs to find a job to supplement your family's income while you and your mother work at making the business successful.

Everybody has to get tough. Tell your husband and your son "no whining". If your husband has to leave the new business and find a job to pay the rent and your mother complains, tell her the situation and tell her "no whining".

You have a lot of guts starting your own business, and you are resourceful in seeking answers to your questions. If you're the only tough one under the roof then I feel for you. But at the same time you probably know what has to be done. Go take control, kick a$$ if you need to, and best of luck to you and your family.

Answer 3

It seems to me that you need to write all this down again. That will help you to clarify what your really need. Some points: Do you have anything written down? Do you have a lawyer? Does your mother have either of these? And do you still have a business? Was the house she built a part of the business?

I assume you have explained the difficulty to your mother, to no avail.

Your mother has essentially broken a contract. The law where I live says that she must put things back to the state they were before she broke the contract .

In your case, that would probably mean that she owes you half of the money the two of you invested in the business.

You must see a lawyer. Your marriage and your child are at stake.

Answer 4

First, never go into business with your mother. Second, at 34, do not live with your mother.

I would suggest this. If the business is a success, either buy her out of her half or allow her to pay you out of your half of the business. Take your money and RUN. You can take that money and get a place to live, get your dog back and then work on running your own business.

Good Luck

Answer 5

Sounds like 2 and a half weeks was the extent of your welcome. Business rarely works out well when involved with family. My advice would be to wait it out as long as your mother will allow and in the mean-time, save up some money for rent and find a place. What else choice do you have?

Answer 6

What is moms connection to the business? Can you shut her out of the business to get more money for a move? Check with smaller hotel/motels in your area, many offer weekly or monthly rates that are affordable. But if mom is this way for the house, you should really worry about your business.

Answer 7

I'm a good hearted person...my cousin ran away I took her in...she stole from me turned half of my family against me and moved in with her b/f....my family hates me and she moved back in with them.....I gave a "friend" a ride to his g/f's house then inadvertantly got arrest while he was getting me gas money (they thought I was buying drugs)......I let a buddy crash at my place cause his cousins moved into a smaller place....he didn't pay rent, take care of his dog, buy groceries, clean up after himself....needless to say it took a few years before a real friend said dude look out for #1....you know who it is.....now granted I don't mind helping people out but I learned that no matter who it is friends or family....people only care about themselves...,in my opinion you should move out and say to hell with the business....its what I would do....like I said its my opinion.....I hope it helps you out and best of luck with the outcome whatever it may be

Answer 8

The fiance knows a good thing when he sees it. He's a looser, scam artist and by the time he's done there will be no business and a huge bankrupcy and someone will get a house for cheap.
BTW: Who will be on the street? Yours truely and mom, because blood is thicker than water.

Answer 9

If she wants you out then there isn't really much you can do.Talk to her and let her know that you invested all your money in the business and you would like her to extend the stay.And if she say that she can't once the business takes off buy her out.But hopefully she's not cold hearted. Good luck and hang in there.

Answer 10

seeing she did offer you to move in she shouldn't be asking you to move out if you feel might be better to move tell her you need time to find a place and get adjusted. I can't see having her finance there would make much difference maybe hes pushing her to get you's out and its not all her if he is hes a jerk and needs to be kicked to the curb.