Guys: Am i an inconsiderate gf?

Question

I understand that guys are not as emotional or sentimental as girls are but it'd be nice if i got just one card or written letter confessing his love for me. Is that a lot to ask? He knows i'd adore that, but has yet to do so

whats the story Alex????

I've given my bf a card and written letters to him so its not a one way street here.

Answer 1

Lily! I'm not sure that the guy wouldnt send you a card but what I've noticed is that most guys have a hard time expressing themselves....maybe thats his problem...he just doesnt know what to say.

Give him this and tell him to copy it to the inside of a card and give it to you.

Dear Lily,

I just wanted to send you this card with a few of my thoughts. Its really hard to write this because every time I think about you, my hands start to shake. I still cant get over all the feelings that rush through me when I think about you. When I'm sad, I see your smile and I feel better. When I'm hurting, I remember the gentle touch of your hand and the pain goes away. When its cloudy and gloomy outside, I remember that soft soap scent of you and my day becomes so much brighter. I guess what I'm trying to say Lilly is that I love you and that you make me the best person I can be. I love how I feel when I'm with you and I love how you make me the most important thing in your life. I promise to always love you and make you proud that you picked me...to love.

Sign hereXXXXX

Hope this works.

Answer 2

I'm not a guy..but I'd like to answer this question.

Are you inconsiderate?? Well that actually depends. Did he start off the relationship writing you sweet little love letters or sending you cards and flowers? If not, then you can't really expect him to start now. It might just not be who he is. Everyone has their own way of expressing their love for someone. Naples also said something that's very true, a lot of guys do start to do it as they get older.

My advice: If it's truly something you just have to have done, ask him to do it every once in a while. Don't get upset because he doesn't do it. Especially if he hasn't been doing it. Getting upset would only be playing mind games because he wouldn't even know why you're upset. Keep it straight and ask him to show you he loves you in different ways. And make sure you do it for him. A lot of times the best way of dropping a hint, is being the example of what you want done.

Best Wishes!

Answer 3

let me tell u a long story sweety....
you can not generalize everything like that. who said guys are not emotional or sentimental as girls are. trust me we all do have the same emotions but how we express it is different. beside that, sometimes we (even though i consider myself having all affection and sentimentalism that a guy should have and even beyond that point) don't realize what and how important that it could be for our partner to do. we just like " oh.....its no biggy, she can live without it"...... yes that happens.
you see, im with, you don't ask for alot.you deserve to get more than just a simple card....but one thing that i experienced in my own life was. i didn't do it because i didn't want to do it. i simply didn't want to do that because i wasn't feeling the same way she used to feel for me. so i just didn't want to create any extra connection and affection between me and her. but when everything was changed and my soul was filled nothing but her love, i couldn't even keep myself of not sending her flowers or cards or love quotes and love poems sponteniously at middle of night. by card , text message and.....and..
if you demend all those and you are not getting them, talk to him, don't ask me to send you a card or a letter. make sure how is he feeling about you. b/c that's what it matters.

wishing you a good luck.

Answer 4

I'm not a guy, but no you're not inconsiderate you would just like something to know that he cares. My boyfriend actually did that without me asking for it because I always get him something to let him know how much I care and it was a Thank You card, but it was so sweet.

Answer 5

showing his love is not just in material things .
its the way he treats you,how he act when you are not around,the way he talks about you as a person and as a girlfriend/wife.
its alot in actions not what he can buy for you.
i would much rather hear from others the sweet things his says about me then to get a cold.preworded card

Answer 6

Have you done it for him? It's a two-way street. Guys don't like it when women expect more than they give in return.

Answer 7

dear sweet young girl.


due to the fact your boyfriend has failed to see how special you are i will be writing you a letter instead.

your eyes the catch me .
you smile it lifts me .
your arms they hold me.
you hold me up and i need you.
please dont let go.


love,


Jon Jon

Answer 8

That's a great idea for a book. Guys don't know about that stuff.

Answer 9

some guys just dont like doing that stuff, even if they feel the same way about ya!

Answer 10

I'm not sure on your age.. or the age of the gut, But, guys will do that the more mature they get.