I don't normally date someone younger then me. So I haven't had to deal with this before.
2006-07-19 11:12:26 · 18 answers · asked by browneyegirl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He is more mature then some 30 yr olds that I have dated. He hasn't really met my kids persay but we have mutual friends and we all hang out so they now him. They just don't know we are dating. My kids are 8 and 5. I've been divorced for 2 yrs and this would be my first relationship in quite sometime. I'm just torn because like I said he is more mature then men I have dated and because of his past he has had to grow up pretty quickly.
2006-07-19 11:33:39 · update #1
well girl this is the way I see it. Its better to have love and lost than not to have loved at all! You see its all up to you, it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or says its your dicision. Who says your're going to marry this guy. Take it one day at a time cause nobody can predict the future or what it holds. Get to know him without your kids for a couple of weeks. Feel him out see what hes about before getting your kids attached. See if he likes kids or what...then if he matches all YOUR qualifications then still go at one day at a time. Enjoy the relationship and if its meant to be there's no one that won't be happy for you and your family. GOOD LUCK>
2006-07-19 11:35:06 · answer #1 · answered by capster 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't think the age difference, would necessarily hurt your relationship as a couple so much, but you do have a good question on whether or not he's mature enough to be able to handle that adult of a relationship.
You might even look at it as taking on a 3rd child to raise, which, could very well work out TO your benefit :) I say if you can get em young enough to train them the way you want them, that can not be a bad thing!
It will just depend on his personality on whether he likes kids. And how well he interacts with them. Again, I don't think that has much to do with age, but his personality.
2006-07-19 18:22:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready for this? Raising three boys. Yes there are many mature 21 year old guys out there, however, few are ready for all that parenting entails on top of discovering a relationship. Don't worry, your time will come to date and settle down. I think at this time if that becomes your focus, your children will lose out.
2006-07-19 18:17:43 · answer #3 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the person. A friend of mine has an older brother who is 24 and he is with an older woman (36) who has two kids - 18 and 7. They've been together 3 years.
If he knows about your boys, gets along with them, and is ready to commit to you, then its fine. He could be ready - its up to you guys to confront this.
I understand you have to be more 'careful' with you you date now because you have kids, so good luck, and hope it works out for you.
2006-07-19 18:25:57 · answer #4 · answered by L ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now you have 3 sons, men act like children, 21 is just a little boy.
2006-07-19 18:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by goldieluxxx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not? Does he seem like he could handle it? Does he know you have 2 boys? Why not just have someone for yourself for a little while. You deserve it, don't you? Or maybe you'd rather have a 51 y/o wanting to make love to you whenever the children aren't around.
2006-07-19 18:18:36 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Each person is different it is possibable he is but maybe not. try going off of 3 points first. does he like to go out a lot with friends, how is he with the kids for long peroids of time, & is he job stable (can he hold a good job). I hope this helps you , good luck.
2006-07-19 18:22:18 · answer #7 · answered by myspyderbites 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is not ready be whit u! He want YOU! Later he will understand that he must build his own live and will go away from you if find younger women and without children. Maybe...not ... U can try it if you nothing to lose.Beter find older man. My english is not good but i hoop u will understand it. Anyway i wish u Good luck!
2006-07-19 18:29:59 · answer #8 · answered by lacostelx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats really not up 2 any1 on here.
its up 2 u and him.
he might be ready, every1s different. sum ppl r ready at 30 while others will be ready by 18.
do u think he is?
2006-07-19 18:18:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH SURE HE'S READY, READY TO GET LAID!!! if he has no kids and he gets into a realtionshio with someone who has 2 then you will be holding him down because he won't be use to it so i would say forget it and find a man who has at least one kid, trust me!!!
2006-07-19 18:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋