i met this guy and he had a gf, he made out with me a day before they broke up (not becuase of me, she didnt find out) but we started hangin out and started dating. a little after a month he broke up with me cause he said he was stll in love wit his ex.. she wont take him back... he told me hes commin to see me this weekend but im not sure i wanna go threw that again, he will always have feelings for her!.. and if one day she decides she wants him he might say screw sasha (me). and go back to his ex!!.. even his ex told me that she wont take him back so he was talkin about killing himself. and that hes gonna come back to me so becareful (me and his ex get along a lil.. but most days its war between us, with watever its about)... i dont wanna get played, what should i do?!?!?
Sasha!!
2006-07-19 11:10:56 · 32 answers · asked by Sasha E 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First I have to start off by saying..if you made out w/him and you knew he had a g/f...that was wrong! And in a way...you kinda got what you deserved. You never mess w/another woman's man.
Ok, now that I've said that. It sounds like this guy is just trying way too hard. He sounds needy to me. He either "needs" her or he "needs" you. He's going back and forth between you guys to see who's going to be the first to take him back.
My advice: Leave it and him alone. If he's done it once, it's only a matter of time before he does it again. Who knows, in the future even if it's not his ex that wants him, it could be someone else. If he did to her, he'll do it to you just as quick. I say stop taking calls, answering email, or whatever it is you do with this guy. Threatening to kill yourself over a girl does not sound too stable to me.
Best Wishes!
2006-07-19 11:20:00 · answer #1 · answered by PseudoQuasiX 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's done it once, he'll definitely do it again. He obviously isn't over her yet, and it appears that you're just the rebound girl.
There are 2 red flags that you need to take note of:-
(1) He cheated on his girlfriend with you - chances are high that he'll do the same to you.
(2) If he really liked you, his ex wouldn't even be in the picture.
He's not only disrespecting you, he's disrespecting his ex as well. You deserve to be treated better, so don't settle for anything less that what you deserve.
And grab him by the balls real tightly and tell him to take a hike!
2006-07-19 11:18:58 · answer #2 · answered by gipsy_queen99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seriously I have answered so many questions like this on here some the same and some different. In this situation both people are screwing you around. Yah his ex refuses to take him back but iam betting she has had casual sex with him and yah he will keep coming back to you, but no he won't kill himself. It is a guilt trip it is to trap you into feeling bad and everytime he says it you worry. Stop having feelings for this person you have already got played! If you keep going its just gonna keep happening. You will see who he really is and what type of person when you tell him you want nothing to do with him. TRUST ME.
2006-07-19 11:16:46 · answer #3 · answered by bibby6914 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There can be no happiness in this situation and it a dead end street with no hope of working out. Cut your loses, leave him to himself to find closure, help, and possibly a future at some point. It is a no win situation and unless you are into some pain with no hope of it ever working out...take a hike and move on with your life.
2006-07-19 11:16:59 · answer #4 · answered by jodie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move on! How old is this guy? He is acting like a little kid. He does not know what he wants and he is just playing games with you and the other girl. He is not serious about either of you. Move on you are wasting your time on him. He is a little boy find a man!
2006-07-19 11:18:27 · answer #5 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I would not take him back. You knowingly made out with a guy that was already in a relationship? Come on, did you really think he was gonna change for you? Suicide threat sounds like manipulation to me too. People that are gonna kill themselves do it, they don't talk about it.
2006-07-19 11:15:43 · answer #6 · answered by t79a 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon I would not recommend that you get back together keep your mind of him go join a gym get yourself super sexy and then find yourself a sexy man. you should have know from the start if he cheated on his last girl with you. There are some great guys out there. Have fun go look.
2006-07-19 11:15:43 · answer #7 · answered by Mrs.SoFine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in second chances but come on,You answered your own question(he will always Love her)You deserve everything you need and want in a relationship. No one can give you what they don't need! Don't be in a hurry Love will find you when your not looking for it.
Hope everything works out and Good Luck!
2006-07-19 11:16:52 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey your second best. Do you really want to be second best? Hell NO!!! I would tell him that your not interested in him anymore. He didn't care when he just up and left you for his ex gf. There are better men out there. There hard to find but hell I know there have got to be better guys out there then him!
2006-07-19 11:15:50 · answer #9 · answered by browneyegirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy you only went out with for a month is talking about killing himself, he's a loser. Don't do out with him. He'll do the same thing over again to you.
2006-07-19 11:13:06 · answer #10 · answered by Your_Star 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋