We was planning a wedding for Oct but now he wants to get married now what do i do? Should we get married now or have a wedding? please help me.
2006-07-19 10:56:38 · 14 answers · asked by suepooh23 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
My hubby & I didn't have a wedding, & I don't regret it. I'm just satisfied that I'm spending the rest of my life with the man I love with all my heart. We didn't need a wedding. It has to be something you can both agree on, though. Don't argue about it.
2006-07-19 11:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
If you really want a wedding, then talk to him about it. You will regret it later on if you don't do what you want. If you don't really care then get married now. But it's so much fun planning the wedding. And the actual wedding day is a lot of fun, too. Ask him why he doesn't want to do the whole wedding thing. Maybe his reasons are something that you guys can compromise on. Good luck and go for what YOU want!!
For the people that say your relationship is more important than a wedding, having a wedding is about celebrating your love in front of your loved ones. We had a casual wedding that was a lot of fun and fairly cheap ($6,500). Everybody had a great time. It's a celebration.
2006-07-20 13:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by SweetPea 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends - how important is it to you and your fiancee to actually have a wedding? If the answer is 'not at all', why shouldn't you get married now? Just keep in mind that you might not have all your friends and family with you if it's a spur of the moment thing.
But if you think you'll regret not having the wedding that you're planning, maybe you should talk to him and tell him how you feel -- I'm sure he'll want you to be happy and will go through with the wedding if it's what you really want.
Good luck, and I hope you have a great ceremony and marriage, whether it's now or in October!
2006-07-19 22:40:56 · answer #3 · answered by epiCure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both, have a private and secret ceremony for the two of you and have a wedding in October. You can make it a simple wedding at a friends house with soft music and finger foods. Or you can have a private and secret ceremony for the both of you and plan a nice party for close friends and family and when they show up tell them"Surprise, we are married." Send announcements to people and keep it simple. Make sure its something you want to do though. Dont let him pressure you. If it helps, my fiance/husband got married a few weeks ago in secret everyone else thinks we are getting married in March. We are having our wedding in March but we legally are already married.
2006-07-19 18:04:07 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why the sudden rush? Definatly have the wedding! If you are lucky it will be your only one and you should have a day and event that you can both remember and cherish. Personally i would wait, i want to say the words and be bound together in front of our family and loved ones. If you can, compromise and try for a super small ceremony with a judge who will marry you now.
2006-07-20 13:12:54 · answer #5 · answered by nuschka16 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do both. Elope. TN has amazing chapels in Gatlinburg that do the full deal weddings. They take care of everything too. All you have to do is show up and get dressed. They take care of the flowers and pictures and all the decorating. I did this and I LOVED IT! It was much cheaper and much easier. Plus, family members and even the wedding party can still be involved.
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2006-07-20 01:35:55 · answer #6 · answered by mrslang1976 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just remember that the wedding isn't the most important thing. it's the marriage. if you're more concerned about having a wedding than making the relationship work, then that's a bigger problem than having a wedding or not.
but, if having one is really important to you, something you've dreamed of doing all your life, and he doesnt understand that, then thats a big problem too.
so what's the reason he doesnt want to wait? you're gonna have to decide for yourself if his reasons are legitimate. i believe that the man should be the head of the household and be the final say in really important decisions. BUT, that's assuming that you're going to marry the person you'd trust with your life and who loves you more than they love themselves, and would make the best decision for yall as a couple and not for himself. this is one of those areas that he can't say, 'just cause I want to' its not gonna fly here. if you can't come to a compromise about it, there might be bigger problems that will arrive later in your marriage.
2006-07-19 18:13:50 · answer #7 · answered by dplovincalvinist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can get legally married at a court house and then still have the big wedding in Oct.
2006-07-19 18:05:40 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he really loves you he will let you have a wedding, after all it is suppose to be the brides "big" day. And I suppose he doesn't want a honeymoon either? Girl step back and look at the BIG picture here.
2006-07-19 18:06:48 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hold out for a wedding, it's the one most important day of your life, Good Luck!!!!!!
2006-07-19 18:09:02 · answer #10 · answered by sugar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋