Lesbian needs help?

Question

I am 15 and recently had my first lesbian sex. I have known I am a lesbian all my life. I'm ready to come out to my parents but my partner is black.

Answer 1

I doubt the fact your partner is black is going to be a major issue at this point seeing as you are 15 and having sex.But tell them how you feel and don't worry parents love their kids pretty much no matter what.

Answer 2

It doesn't matter the color of your partner we are all people. If your parents are like mine.. (i am a lesbian) they will have a problem with both. You will just have to stand firm and know Courage is standing in yourself and for yourself. Be strong they will... eventually.. get over it.. or you will eventually not care if they don't (after 3 years and a child with my partner i still have family I dont speak too..) Life is way to short to let other people control how you feel about you or anyone else.

Answer 3

I was just fixing to get off the computer when I saw your question. I have a 21 year old daughter, and a 16 year old son, I know how I would react, but honey, I don't know how your parents are going to handle it. Some parents will be cool with it, but some would hit the roof. And in your situation you are going to hit them with both barrells. Do they have no clue? I am all up in my kids' lives, and I would know. My daughter is my best friend. Start the conversation out with just being lesbian.--then go from there..you may need to introduce your girlfriend later. I pray that your parents will accept you for who you are. I wished I could give you a hug. Be honest, but do it slowly...be ready for the backlash...do you have a place if they throw a fit? My daughter's friend was kicked out of the house when he told his parents. Are you ready for this? Be strong, and true to yourself, but be respectful of your parents. We worry about the decision our kids make, and the mistakes we feel like they are making down to our toes. Our hearts break too...God bless..

Answer 4

i think ur parents would not be as shocked abt a black partner as they would be abt the lesbian thing .... so i dont think it would have made a difference had u had a white lesbian partner ... and quite frankly u r just 15 ... god knowz how many more partners are gonna come in ur life ... so dont worry ..... just enjoy sex with the more beautiful sex .... all d best

Answer 5

I don't think it is the Black partner that will shock them. If you are ready to tell them just sit them down without any interruptions and come straight out. Then it is out in the open and they will probably be silent or ask questions or ask if you are sure. But the hard part is over.

Answer 6

wow...a double whammy! you know yourself that you will eventually need to talk to your parents about your situation...about you being a lesbian and about your partner being black. you need to ask yourself if you think your parents will react negatively to it all? even still, give your parents some credit and be honest with them and tell them everything, but if you think your parents will act harshly you need to decide if your partner is worth you possibly not speaking to your parents or if they are worth the harsh reaction you may get. if this is a fling, then the race is not an issue, but you still need to come out to your parents about you being a lesbian. sweetie, they are your parents...contrary to what you may have been told or what you may think, yeah, it may be a shock to them, but they will love you regardless, just be honest with them...if you had kids, you would want the same respect!

Answer 7

They're gonna be mad, but not for the reasons that you may think. Many of our parents come from a day and age where mixing of the races was unheard of. Many African-American parents didn't want their kids dating white kids, and vice versa. It's almost a moot point. We are in a different day and age, now, and things are different. Your parents will never like it, and they will never understand it. They will, however, accept it.

They will blame themselves for the fact that you're gay. Many of our parents do not realize that homosexuality really IS something that children are born with.

You are they're child, though, and they love you. They will accept it.

Here's what I suggest that you do:

Tell your parents that you're not interested in men. AT ALL.

You do not need to tell them that you have a girlfriend right now, either. You do not tell them that you've had sexual relations with one, either. That's TMI. Just tell them that you are gay, and that you know that to be a fact.

Let that settle in before you tell them that you have a girlfriend of another race. If they are old timers as far as mixing races are concerned, hit them with one blow at a time. I think that it'll be easier on all of you.

Answer 8

well if u r truely a lesbian and u want to live ur life happy and u love ur partner then you should jus set ur parents down and tell them whats going on in ur life. And let them know u really want them to be part of ur life and love you for who u are. If this is truely what u want.

Answer 9

You do need help! Like serious repentance turn from you sins and ask forgivenes! 1st you're too young to be having sex period, second you're too young to really know what you want or are. Stop hurting yourself and others that REALLY care about you, and focus and the truly important things a 14/15 year old should, like your education, a career or even a job. Stop trying to be so grown up and different, and just listen and learn. Be who you are, the REAL you deep down inside, not who someone else tells you to be or wants you to be, or tricked you into thinking you should be.

Answer 10

I rely dont think her being black will be a problem. your parents are More likely to think you being with another girl is the first worry! I believe this will soon be accepted though.

Just remain true to your self and your partner and if you need a friend of sorts you can always email me at [e-mail] I will be a friendly ear to listen to you if you need it.