I am 20 and have yet to start and I want too...but! I have a problem. I live with my father have no job, I go to the local community college and have a internship to help a republican run for state rep. I also have poor social skills and wimp out around women. Therefore, in all reality it would be best if I not tried to get a woman yet I am guessing. Right? I hope that next term I will have fewer classes so I can get a job again.
2006-07-19 10:48:18 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get a complete education
Start your career
establish yourself and make strides towards your dream
grow a backbone
stop being wimpy and act confidently
women care more about your confidence than your looks or the size of your pee-pee
when you've begun to accomplish what you started, look for a marriage
until then treat most women like crap and the ones with low self-esteem will sleep with you
2006-07-19 10:52:12 · answer #1 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have plenty of constructive activities going on in your life where you can meet positve women. You go to college, you are a part of a political campagin; your social skills can't be that bad. I suggest you use those avenues to get comfortable talking to women who share common interests. You are young yet, and you do live at home. Romance without finance usually has no chance! However, inviting a classmate or a fellow politically involved female out for coffee or a movie or whatever you can afford is a good first step. You will meet and date many women before you find a mate for life. Take it easy on yourself and look at all you have accomplished already! Focus on your education. The more you learn, the more you'll be likely to earn in the future. Education will broaden your social skills! Be yourself and remember there is someone out there for everyone.
2006-07-19 10:57:32 · answer #2 · answered by Chris 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a grip dude. So you live with your Dad. I think your just scared of rejection so you don't ask a girl out. At least you're not a college drop out sitting on the couch drinking beer. Now, those are people who have the problem. You on the other hand are just having a slow time or bad time and you are willing to do something about it. Make a move on that girl you've been looking at. Man up. If she says no, than move on. Don't dwell on your mistakes. Plan your next move when nothing goes your way. Good luck on the future job hunt and getting a girl.
2006-07-19 10:56:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awwww I feel so sorry for you. Don't be so hard on yourself. I am in university also and I know it can be a very hard, stressful situation. I just completed my first year of residency where I only got paid $100. a month! I am living off student loans. Trust me I know how you feel but from what you said it seems to me that YOU would feel more comfortable approaching girls if you had a better job and were probably not living with your dad. If that is how you feel then wait until that happens. However if you do meet a girl you cannot resist then just explain your situation to her, if she truly likes you she will understand. Don't worry with time you will overcome wimping out when you see girls. Good job on attending college though. My hat's off to you!
2006-07-19 11:02:30 · answer #4 · answered by strawberries 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work on your social skills and stop being a wuss around women--we hate that! I don't think the lack of a job is your problem since you're still in school. Why aren't you meeting girls in your classes or at your internship? Get some confidence, and try talking to girls. You'll never get a date if you don't ask.
2006-07-19 10:55:15 · answer #5 · answered by akc1106 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just making an excuse for yourself. If you never put yourself out there, there's no way you could get better around women. You're in school to try to better yourself, you have an interesting internship, I think girls would take this as a good sign for the future. So stop making excuses and get out there.
2006-07-19 10:52:58 · answer #6 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 30 years ago, I found myself in a very similar situation as you. I was very shy, especially around women. I felt very awkward, and insecure. I think it is best to first try and make friends with women before getting serious with one. You might find it easier to meet women over the internet too. Chat, and get to know each other. Then arrange to meet.
2006-07-19 10:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by oceansoflight777 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a girl comes along that you like be upfront and tell her all those things. Ya never know, she may like you so much that she will want to hang out with you for your company.
2006-07-19 10:53:22 · answer #8 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, why not? Get yourself out there, but if you don't have a job, then how will you fund dates???????
You cant expect her to pay, CHIVALRY is not dead yet!
(so much for women as equals)
2006-07-19 11:21:08 · answer #9 · answered by Andrea 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to improve, I mean truly try. Even if you don't change overnight,
they will notice you are trying. Just show you care. All you need is a-little SOUL.
2006-07-19 11:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by Soul Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋