Do I have to invite all my co-workers to my wedding?

Question

I work for a company of about 50 people. do I need to invite them all to be nice or can i invite only the ones i want?

Answer 1

You don't *have* to do anything that you don't want to. The wedding police will not show up at your office and demand invites for all the employees.

Some people will be disappointed to not get an invite, but some will be relieved to not feel obligated to attend. Remember, this is you work that you go to everyday. You don't want to have to look Suzy in the eye with guilt for not inviting her when Sheila next to her got an invite.

Please, only send invites to the people's homes. No handing them out at work and no sending them through company mail or to the office. : )

Answer 2

NEVER take advice based on the idea that "it's your day and you can do whatever you want." You're a bride, not a deity.

The principle here is that your guest list shouldn't give the world clues about who you like and don't like, who you approve of and don't approve of, and so on. It should be based on some objective criteria. For instance you can invite only the people in your own department, but you must invite everyone in the department including that person you don't like. Or you can invite only those co-workers with whom you associate outside of the workplace, but again, you can't cherry pick between those members of the group whom you like and those you'd just as soon forget.

You might consider the alternative having a small office party, giving everyone cake and ice cream, as an alternative to including co-workers in your wedding. Better to leave out those 3 or 4 people you'd like to invite than to risk offending the other 46. Don't start wars at work unless you like working in a combat zone.

Answer 3

Something that several of my friends have done: Invite only a select group of people to the wedding, then have a reception several days or weeks later for "everybody."

A couple we know did this, inviting basically just family and a few super-close friends to the wedding, then went on their honeymoon. When they returned, they had a BIG reception in a park near their new home, set up as a social/mixer event. It was a great way to get the bride's friends and the groom's friends to meet and mingle, and nobody had to have their feelings hurt because almost NOBODY at the reception was actually at the wedding.

Or you could do what my wife and I did -- we knew we were moving out of state for at least two years, so we only invited people we liked. Including relatives. It was the best wedding I've ever been to!

Answer 4

You can invite who you want to but I will say this that if everyone knows who you are then there are going to be some grumpy people at your work. Another thing to keep in mind is that only 70% of the people you invite are going to show up. Hey one more thing more people means more money and gifts cause no one goes to a wedding with out at least a $50 gift and some cash for the money dance. Have fun!!!

Answer 5

No, you don't have to. However, it's probably not a good idea to make people few excluded at work.

My suggestion is to just hang an invitation in the break room where everyone can see it. You could also send private invitations to the homes of those you are close to. Most likely, only those who are close too you will RSVP anyway.

Answer 6

Invite the ones you want.

Answer 7

It is your wedding and you should only invite the ones you want. If someone is so shallow that they will get their feelings hurt because they aren't one of the ones invited then they aren't the type of person you want to associated with any how.

Answer 8

It is your wedding only invite the ones you want.

Answer 9

Only invite the one's you want to come. Most of them will not show up anyways!

Answer 10

no u don't have 2