I just received an invitation to the V.P.'s daughters wedding. I do not work directly with the VP and I do not know his daughter. I know I do not wish to attend. Would it be tacky to send money or would it be better to send a gift card or purchase a gift and have it delivered to the reception? I don't know where she is registered and since I don't know them at all I don't know what they may need. We will do something of course, but what is the best thing to do under the circumstances?
On a personal note: If you don't know the person then you really shouldn't invite them to your wedding; yes, I know it's become a free for all, get all the gifts/money you can but, I still think it puts the other person (recipient) in an awkward position.
2006-07-19 10:28:26 · 7 answers · asked by Stephie 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I would suggest asking around the office to find out where she is registered. I assume other people will be in the same situation that you are. I think it would be better to send a gift as a monetary donation might be tricky (the guy you work for is dad... send too much and he thinks he's paying you too much; send too little and he thinks you're cheap).
As for your personal note: I agree. However, did everyone in the company get invited? If so, they probably did it out of courtesy rather than only invite some and not others. If you don't want to send a gift and you don't attend, you are under NO obligation to send a gift.
Plus, gifts are just that. GIFTS. They are not obligations or requirements.
2006-07-19 11:00:15 · answer #1 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would suggest just sending a card. But, if you think the VP will judge you, then send a check for a small amount, like $10. I agree with your personal note, but it could be that they were afraid that if they invited only certain people, others would find out and feel slighted, so they sent to everyone.
2006-07-19 17:33:26 · answer #2 · answered by jboatright57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure they invited everyone so they wouldn't have anyone feel left out. Don't even worry about going or sending a gift. There will be so much chaos they'll never know the difference
2006-07-19 17:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by mamimia80 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont have to go and i wouldnt send a gift. If the bride or groom doesnt know you then they wont expect a gift. I'm sure everyone got invited so that no probs were caused in the office.
2006-07-19 17:32:53 · answer #4 · answered by smalltownangel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you are obliged to attend or even buy a gift for such wedding. It's awfully pretentious of them to invite everyone including people who don't even know her! They probably think they are being nice. I say, send a card and no more.
2006-07-19 17:34:32 · answer #5 · answered by angib18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you decline the invitation, you have no obligation to send a gift.
2006-07-19 17:32:28 · answer #6 · answered by christian_lady_2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid it like the plague. I do not mix work and socializing at all. I have enough family and friends outside of work that provide me with ample excuses.
2006-07-19 17:33:02 · answer #7 · answered by EG345 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋