Should I dump him or let it ride?

Question

Last night a web browser open to myspace.com was open on my laptop that my boyfriend was using. When I walked over he closed it. I was like, "why'd you close that" he said "oh, your brother must have been on myspace, so I closed it for him" I was like "ok". But today, I checked on his myspace page and he was on last night at that time, and left a message for a girl that i don't know. It was an innocent message, so why would he lie about it?

I told him that I knew he lied to me, and he "didn't know what I was talking about"

k, thats the thing, not only is he my b/f (which I always call him) he is my future husband-- we are getting married in about 20 days!

Answer 1

You poor dear. Of course he's going to say that he doesn't know what you're talking about that's his way of saying "oops, you caught me, and I don't know what to say", and I'm sure that the message he sent appeared to be innocent but it ALWAYS start out that way. You probably have not had many relationships, but let me just assure you, just in case your friends or parents haven't; If you began to SETTLE for any ole thing from any ole person, then you are setting yourself up for total heartbreak, and low self-esteem, and self worth. You had better decide now whether you're going to allow this fabricator to remain in your life or not . It appears that you are not an idiot by far, and like you said if he was innocent why did he have to lie.....girlie you know you know the answer to that! Do yourself a favor, lose the dead weight before you're in too deep. Good luck.

Answer 2

Why would he lie? Well first maybe because if he told you he was sending messages to other girls it would then most likely turn into a fight, and second if there was trust there why would you have to go and spy on him on what he is doing online. You guys seem to both have some insecurities and should talk about what happen the night before. Definately reassure each other that neither party was right or wrong. But make sure the trust line keeps open and stays open for the fact once that is reallygone why stay in a relationship.

Answer 3

tell him to tell you the truth and only the truth and nothing but the truth besides thats what a a relationship is about being honest if he loves you alot and is really and trully honest then if you asked him what he was doing and who was that girl he should be able to tell you openly but slowly watch his behavior this could be a sign that he is cheating on you with another girl watch and observe him and his behavior for a couple of days and if you notice any changes in behavior than you can take it from there

good luck

Answer 4

Talk to him about it. Tell him you know why he was on the computer, and make him explain himself. I f he doesn't want to spill, dump him because he can't be honest with you. Relationships can't survive without honesty. But if he does come clean about the girl, give him another chance if you really like him. Just talking about this should help, and if things were meant to be between you, then you'll be fine.

Answer 5

You should be honest and ask him why did he do it. It is the only way to find out. Also, before asking him about it, have your brother there and ask him was he on my space in front of him. If your brother says no, then he is caught out there and you could ask him why did he lie about the situation. I hope he isn't doing anything behind your back and I hope everything works out for you. Good luck.

Answer 6

Because his intentions are not innocent. You can either get this over with now and confront him about it and see what he has to say or you can let it ride and keep checking up on him until he either hangs himself or proves to be innocent after all. I'm voting for the later. I do love intrigue.

Answer 7

It all boils down to trust, if you can't trust his then don't put yourself through the "what ifs" if you love him and want to make it work, maybe he just has a friend who isn't a guy and he's afraid you'll get jealous, make him explain himself, and tell him that he shouldn't be hiding things from you, or lie to you. It's about trust in a relationship.

Answer 8

cuz he was doing somethin he wasnt suppose to even tho you say the message was innocent why would he blame your brother fro being on the comp when really it was him it seems to me he is up to something you can flat out ask him cuz he has already lied to you so become a cop and find out what you need to know and dump him cuz i think he is cheating good luck

Answer 9

Seems like you lack trust in your boyfriend. He also lacks trust in your ability to trust him! In a relationship communication and trust are key. Nobody can be all things to anyone else. You and he need to have relationships outside of what you share together. If you are compatable then nobody else can take him away. You both are free to choose who you want to be with unless you decide to marry. So lighten up!

Answer 10

Dishonesty is not a good relationship and doesn't make one. Obviously, he isn't owning up because he knows what he is doing is wrong or that you would be upset. He needs to own up and quit lying......lying creates distrust and we all know where that leads.

***After reading additional details.......ask yourself if you want to begin a marriage feeling distrustful toward him? Do you want to spend your life with a man that is comfortable lying to you? I would postpone marriage until the feelings you are having are resolved.....much easier now than a divorce later.