My friend calls my boyfriend.Ims my friend and tells him how much she loves him.What should I do
2006-07-19 09:30:55 · 45 answers · asked by gymnastqueen111 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow. Confront your friend and then ditch her. I'd watch your boyfriend too.
You never know if he's making stuff up or if there's something going on behind the scenes. The whole thing seems a bit suspect to me.
Personally, if I were you, I'd call a meeting and confront them both at the same time. Watch their reactions/body language. If you can't figure out who's lying, you might want to ditch them both.
It's all relative to who you believe. Your boyfriend could by telling you this b/c he's trying to cover up something (like finally breaking it off with your friend who's gone psycho on him).
BTW - WHY does your friend have your man's number? That's too weird for me. I'd be mad as hell if my friends were calling my (husband).
Good Luck.
2006-07-19 09:32:20 · answer #1 · answered by Corn_Flake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With friends like that, who needs enemies? Confront them both.
She's engaging in some decidedly "un"friendly behavior, and she needs to know that you're aware of it and are NOT okay with it! That business about "maybe they're just friends & she's saying she loves him as a friend" is nonsense. Even if they are just friends, any moron could see that it's insensitive to your feelings for your friend to talk that way to your boyfriend, and if the she cares at all for your feelings, she'll stop. If she says they're just friends and you're overreacting, or that you're acting jealous of their friendship, or that it's not for you to say whether she can tell her friend she loves him regardless of you two dating, then there's your answer -- She's playing a game with you & whether she's after your boyfriend or not, if she pulls that crap, you'll know that she's trying to compete/manipulate/control you & your boyfriend to get some attention for herself.
You also need to find out how your boyfriend is handling it -- is he flattered? interested? UNinterested? trying not to hurt her feelings? encouraging her in some way, either accidentally or on purpose?
Above all, do not get caught up in some annoying, embarrassing drama such as threats, name calling, or a physical fight. If he wants her, let him go -- you should not have to fight for a guy to keep him -- if she can steal him from you, he's not someone you can trust & want around. Sure, working together, communication, and compromising are all important in a relationships, but never, NEVER beg a guy to stay. It devalues you & sets you up for more degradation in the future.
If he doesn't want her, he needs to step up & help you get this girl to quit. He has a responsibility here -- if he hasn't made it clear to her that he's not interested, then his silence could be mistaken for approval and actually be encouraging her. If he's been sort of hesitant & answers her with "Uhhh...gee...I don't know, I'm sorta dating your friend...so...hmmm" he could be making her think she has a chance if she just keeps calling & persuading him. He has to tell her to stop, block her IMs -- sure, try to do it without hurting her feelings -- but if that's not possible, then he needs to just let her know in no uncertain terms that her advances are not welcome. If he has a problem with taking responsibility or says that you're making a big deal out of nothing & are acting like you don't trust him, tell him Bullsh*t! She's disrespecting you & he's letting her, and it's not all that much different than if he disrespected you directly.
2006-07-19 09:50:08 · answer #2 · answered by visualizewhirledpeas72 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend that you don't like that..and your boyfriend should not even be excepting calls from her..What a werid situation...I would hate it...I def you should have a talk with the both of them...and ask how wouls they like it if it were the other way around!
2006-07-19 09:34:29 · answer #3 · answered by Princess 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your friend and your boyfriend. friends will often tell each other that they love them, and it is nothing more than friendship. find out what is going on. friends are important so don't throw the friendship away without a good reason.
2006-07-19 09:36:00 · answer #4 · answered by cutelea 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A true friend wouldn't be doing that to you. And your boyfriend would be telling her in front of you he cares for you only.
She sounds like a trouble maker.
2006-07-19 09:33:22 · answer #5 · answered by B D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Confront your "friend" and tell her it is unacceptable behaviour. If she doesn't seem to care, slap some sense into her and tell your boyfriend to not take her calls or talk to her if he sees her.
2006-07-19 09:35:28 · answer #6 · answered by Bev 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not your friend and your boyfriend should be telling her to lay off. If he's not, well, then something might be going on.
2006-07-19 09:34:24 · answer #7 · answered by The Kings 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep a close eye on him. If he f*cks up, kick him square in the nuts. As for your friend, shave her head when she is sleeping.
2006-07-19 09:33:49 · answer #8 · answered by Frank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who cares
2006-07-19 09:32:15 · answer #9 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new friend!! and possibly a new boyfriend if he is allowing this to go on..
2006-07-19 09:32:10 · answer #10 · answered by sea_sher 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋