Ok, I have a slight issue regarding tuxes. When my fiance and I first started planning our wedding, my bridesmaids (which are my sisters and my neice) paid for they're dresses. I didnt ask them to, but they knew I didnt have the money, and my parents are putting out alot of money for the wedding, so they thought it was only fair. OK, no biggie. Well, we thought to make it fair, then the grooms men should pay for their own tux. At first, my fiance and I both agreed... well then my fiance brother got married a few weeks ago, and my fiance was in it, and he didnt have to pay for his tux. now my fiance says he would feel bad if he made everyone pay for their tux (we will need 7 tuxes total, each at $129 to rent!) Thats $903!!!! What are we going to do?? I cant ask my parents since they are paying SOOO much... and we cant, we dont have the money. Any advice PLEASE??
2006-07-19 09:19:19 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
bridesmaids are suppose to pay for their dresses since they accept the honor of being asked to be part of the wedding.
and what's good for the goose is good for the gander, get me?
the men accepted the honor of being in the wedding party and therefore accept the responsibilty for paying for tux rental.
explain that to your fiance, and add that, where are you going to get the money from if you rent them? and would it be fair to the bridesmaids?
2006-07-19 09:24:21 · answer #1 · answered by Laura 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Keep in mind that each wedding is different! It is great that the wedding your fiance was in could afford to pay for the rental but not everyone can. If you don't have the money, how exactly does your fiance propose to pay for the rentals in your wedding? If he's smart, he won't suggest your parents. If he's not, make him realize that isn't an option. If the groomsmen have a problem with it, explain to them that your bridesmaids paid for their dresses, which probably cost more than the tux rental, so it is only fair that they pay for their rentals.
2006-07-22 21:09:21 · answer #2 · answered by Patricia D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a bride and the groom ask friends or family to be in the bridal party, they have a right to reject the offer. I have never heard of anyone paying for the bridesmaids dresses and the groomsmen tuxes. WIth being part of a bridal party most people understand it will not be cheap for them. You should not have to pay for them especially since you are getting married.
2006-07-19 16:37:27 · answer #3 · answered by Math Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm honestly, If you pay for the whole groom's men's tuxs that wouldn't be fair for the bridesmaids. I mean you have to get gifts for the attendants anyways, So that should make up for it. If your fiance is still bothered by it.. then just offer to pay for his brothers tux. Its your wedding so if you can't afford it , the groom men should understand. and if not.. kick em out!
2006-07-19 16:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should have to pay for their own tuxes -- that is not the responsibility of the bride and groom.
Some places will give a discount on the tuxedo rentals -- maybe try that way to help alleviate the costs.
2006-07-19 16:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by Scarlett 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All attendants are expected to pay for their own attire and travel expenses. I've never heard of the bride and groom paying for the tuxes, like you said it's almost a $1000. Print out this question and all the answers and give it to your guy and tell him, we can't afford to pay for all this.
2006-07-19 20:21:03 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nowadays, it's normal for the wedding party, on both sides, to pay for their clothes. If you had the extra cash, you could make that gesture, but since you don't, nothing says that you have to. If your fiance wants to pay for them, tell him to find a way to pay for them, and the BM dresses. Or, he'll have to pay for $129 worth of BM dresses, too.
I've always paid for my own dresses at wedding and my husband has always paid for his own tux.
2006-07-19 17:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
traditionally, the bridesmaids pay for their dresses and the groomsmen pay for their tuxes....so anyone who is in the wedding should expect it.
we didn't stick to this ourselves...we paid for everything. it sounds like your fiance's brother did as well. however, he should expect to pay for his tux. also, check with whoever you are renting the tux from....where we got ours, when there were 6 tux rentals, the groom got his free.
2006-07-19 21:46:32 · answer #8 · answered by beckyg_98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a well known fact that the bridal party pays for their own attire. If his brother could afford to buy everyone's attire then good for him! He must have added that on to his budget. Tell your fiancee that if he feels the need to pay for everyone's tux then he should then reimburse the bridesmaids as well.
2006-07-19 23:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by Dana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They're going to have to pay for their own tuxes - I'm sure once he realizes the total cost, he will agree. Then you'd have to pay for the girls too. It's too much. Tell them u just can't afford it - nobody can argue that.
2006-07-19 16:23:19 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋