what do you do when you are in love with two men?

Question

i love my boyfriend but iam in love with my son's father they both treat me good how do i decied without hurting anyone's feelings

Answer 1

You stop being emotionally attached to someone and thinking that you are in love when you are not.

Answer 2

Each of them have something that attracts you. Probably one of them is better at sex than the other while the other may have a better potential for career growth. Pick the one that will be able to give You and the son the bet life. You may be assuming both of them really want you. That could be a fatal mistake. Most men will jump anything that lies still long enough. They will also work a relationship until they get tired of it. The son you have deserves a dependable man in his life. Will the other guy treat him right?? It is up to you to list all the good and bad things about each of them and look closely at how they really feel about you. Then You decide because only you know all the factors involved.

Answer 3

You use to love your sons father ? You may love the boyfriend ? If the father treated you so well , my guess would be the other wouldn't have gotten close .One might be love , one might be pass memories of love , But I don't know all the facts .You may really care for both , but LOVE ? If you love a companion there is no choice , it's just known in ever thought , feeling and state of mind , body and soul .When you find him (inwhich it might be one of them ) , but you honestly will not wonder and stay faithful to the one .Now we have found love and it isn't always welcomed or returned .If you feel one of them are the one you'd marry I suggest you get rid of the other before you can't change the out come.AndIf they know about each other it might be their pride or game ( win or lose) ECHO .So down the road you might just find someone totally new and someone you won't hurt . As this reguardless of how you decide , someone will feel hurt and deep down you know this ! Becareful about love , it isn't guarneted to anyone nor is life .Allow the other man to begin to find someone that he can spend his life with , since truily you are not in love . Think of the love of your child , you love your niece or newphew , but as they get older " teenager or Adults " and change you may not care to visit them or like them but you'll love them as family .But your child no matter what has happened with the choices made , you will forever forgive , unconditionaly love forever ! That love !

Answer 4

You need to think long and hard. You are always going to love the father of your child and every once in awhile you will see some of the things that made you fall in love with him, but there is a reason why is your ex. Your new boyfriend is kind of trapped in the middle and he knows it the other man is the father of your child and he will always have to put up with him if he want to stay in your guys life. You are putting yourself in a tough situation. I do not think you should cheat on your boyfriend if you decide to go back to your ex you owe it to yourself to be honest. A relationship needs to be built on trust and if you do go back to the ex what would he really think about you cheating. He would probably think that you would cheat on him. What ever you decide you are going to hurt one of them. You can also try suggesting they share you I guess if you are into the threesome thing.

Answer 5

well i'm in the same spot. i juess you have to decide for what ever is best for you without hurting your son. think aout the future and the odds. Have your ex treat you good or bad? where do u feel you belong. sometimes being with our kids father is not the best option. dont let your heart decide

Answer 6

No matter what you choose, you're going to end up hurting someone's feelings.

But I imagine that if you end up choosing your son's father, your boyfriend would have a better time understanding especially if you make up some excuse like "It's for the well-being of my son."

Answer 7

if u don't know the answer than obviously neither is for u BUT if u wanna play this game then i say this. what benefits ur son the most??? having a good father. pick whichever one would be a better father hopefully the one that helped make him

Answer 8

I would think that you would be in love with your boyfriend and love your childs father. it is obvious you still have some very strong feeling for your shild father. it's cool, you share something that is so special. (your child). if that is where your heart is go for it. I just advise you be hones with your "boyfriend" as well as your childs father,or you can be the one that ends up with their feeling hurt. Also think about if the feelings are mutual with your childs father.It could be just a one way feeling.Good luck

Answer 9

well i think it to late you are going to end up some one sence your realionship is over with oyur son father and you have a bou friend i would go with the son father but you are such a ***** for doing this to these guys

Answer 10

well in my opionon, you don't deserve either... all the girls on this site that ask which guy they should be with are cheats and are playing games. If you really loved someone you wouldn't have fallen in love with someone else. Simple as that.