i cheated on my boyfriend?

Question

i was drunk at his cousin's party last night
and he was supposed to be there
but he didnt feel well
so i still went and his cousin is my ex
memories came back from a past party
and before i knew it we were making out
it didnt go past that
he asked me if we could go farther but i said "no"
he also knew that i was with his cousin
and this morning he called me asking if i was going to break up with my boyfriend
i said dont ask me that
then he messaged me on myspace
and asked one last time if me and him were going to hook up
i had gone out with the guy off and on for 3 years
i thought i had loved him before
but then i got over him
and now im in love with his cousin, my current b/f
but we've only been going together for 2 months and only known him for a year
they didnt even know that they were cousins til this year
i dont know what to do!!
and please only real comments, none like u s**t or that im a wh0re im really confused

Answer 1

you got yourself into a bind. here is what i would do. tell the cousin it was a mistake, you were really drunk, it shouldnt have happened and you regretted it.

Also, you NEED to tell your current BF. If you dont, his CUZ will.

Be honest, be upfront, tell him the truth.

and dont ever do it again, cheating ruins lives

Please tell both guys this

Answer 2

This is a problem? You should be pleased with yourself that you can be with someone for three years and then meet someone that enjoys you (if not loves you) a lot! I know you are perplexed, but it would not be an issue unless you are wondering if the guy that wants you back is still in your heart. That is something only you can decide. If you don't feel strongly about the new relationship, I would back off from both of them. Tell the old guy you need time to think -- not to push you. Because the truth is that if you are asking this question on here, you should not be with either. The b/f #2 might break it off with you if he even knows you're communicating with his cousin (or anyone). He may want you all to himself. Then again, if he doesn't care, maybe it isn't a strong relationship anyway. Can you trust b/f #1? Will he tell his cousin about you and him? YOU need to think! Get away from both for a while... until you make an intelligent decision.

Answer 3

I understand how you're feeling. Guilt is as hard as it is harmful to carry. In all relationships honesty is really the best policy. I don't condone what you've done but the truth at the end of the day is...we all make mistakes. Tell your current b/f what happened and then tell him exactly how you feel and the remorse & regret you feel for betraying his trust (& love if he's told you he loves you). If he really cares about you (i.e. loves you) he'll feel honored that you confessed and told him the truth. Then its up to him if he's willing to forgive you & give you another chance. Now, "forgiving" doesn't mean "forgetting" so its going to take a while before he will trust you again but you have to be honest and earn a person's trust in a relationship. Relationships are not easy. I know from experience.....but honesty & trust are surmount to keep one going. You have to be willing to really change yourself, like: if you know you can't control your urges when you're drunk be wise beforehand and stop yourself from getting drunk around temptation....compared to what's really important in life, its not worth it. I hope that helps & I wish you all the best.

Answer 4

Big deal a little action at a party. Let it in the past and give this guy a chance to show You if there is really something there to build on. Do not be so quick to jump from guy to guy. The party guy should be left in the past. You tried it before and it did not work out why make the same mistake twice??

Answer 5

gruesome dependable Boyfriend. i got here upon the better I fell in love with him, the better it replaced how I observed him. I went for a great number of fellows that were warm that were no good at some thing i wanted. yet I gave this one medium searching boy a probability and It became the perfect ingredient Ive finished in my entire existence. He acted so much better than the nice and comfortable boys and now by potential of my eyes he's the most proper ingredient.

Answer 6

Well, the worst part is that you did make a mistake and maybe you should tell him before someone else does. You have a new relationship and he deserves to know what happened so that as time goes on this doesnt continue to be held over your head or his. I think you really need to figure out what you want and if you want to really be with your new boyfriend.

Answer 7

Well, I know I don't have to tell you your WRONG! I know how it gets when drinks are up in you. I am glad that you didn't go any further. Are you going to tell your B/F? Do you think the cousin will tell? Who do you want to be with? I hope you know that this may cause a lot of confusion..Good Luck!

Answer 8

You suck! And you might have said NO to going further at the party but now you are screwed! Might as well tell the boyfriend the truth because believe me his cousin will make sure he hears it!

Answer 9

First of all I think that you should be honest with your boyfriend and tell him what happened and what his cousin is now doing. Just explain the situation and let him know your intentions and apologize. He will see that your ex and his cousin is just trying to manipulate you and take advantage.

Answer 10

If u really have no feelings for you ex anymore... stay with ur current bf... try to stick it out with him.. and he doesnt know u might want to tell him, because im sure he will find that out and it will only make things worse if he finds out from anyone else but you.