i REALLY like my best friend...but should i tell him?

Question

i never noticed him at first, but then we started talking and we became friends.i told him EVERYTHING. and he never lied to me.always he told me what he sincerely thought would make me happy. and i thought it'd never work so i never told him i liked him. i talked myself out of it so for a few months i only could see him like a friend and then i had a small crush on this guy. and my friend helped me out w/ him, b/c he had a class w/ my crush. so he helped us get together, though it always seemed like he thought it wasn't a good idea. and he was right, it wasn't. he never wanted to get involved in anything having to do w/ my bf because he said "he didn't want anything he said to influence what i did".but i always asked him for advice.yet, i always knew it was him i wanted to be w/.i guess i saw it so impossible that i tried to get it off my mind. then my best friend told me that he'd be moving to another skool next year. but he's not anymore, for me. should i finally tell him how i feel?

Answer 1

yeah, tell him before you freakin' explode.

Answer 2

man I've answered so many questions with the same stories but you have a great foundation already.

I always suggest that the person create a strong friendship before moving on to anything more.

Well in my opinon it depends on how old you both are.
Now a million people will dissagree on this next statement but

All highschool relationships exept one or two have failed.
Most all posthighschool relationships within the range of three years have also failed. In my opinon that age range is just too young and still not mature enough for a real commited relationship. My sister's marriage was right out of highschool and she and her husband now have five kids and live here in town and are an intricate part of the family BUT, they both had a strong frienship prior and strong moral and Biblical upbringing.

Now, In my opinon if your under the age of twenty one I would wait, why? because every other relationship I've seen under and including that age range has failed. Isn't it best to wait for better results than to rush into something that is more often than not going to fail? Now you can't steriotype everyone But these are real facts.

I think when you are both ready to have a real, commited relationship as adults then you should. If you don't think you are, than you will be great friends until you are. It's a win win situation if you are patient. If you rush it could make things uneasy and if you did have a relationship with this person and it dissolved it could have bad bearings on your friendship.

Yes I readily agree with the people above about do it or you'll always regret it, BUT, timeing could be wiser. Theres nothing wrong with waiting for better conditions. But eventually you should tell him. But there is no rush on life to where you have to make fast rash decisions in fareweather conditions that could change at any moment.

Hope this was helpful.
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I hope all goes well for you both no matter what way you choose to go.
Rambo.

Answer 3

I know exactly what you mean . I now have a son with my Brother/best friend. The good thing is that we are close. We stayed together for 3 yrs. We get along very well . I mean its some good and some bad to it. If you know his bad habits , don't think they will change because it's you. He will be the same way he was with the other girls he has Every told you about..REMEMBER!!!!! But overall...the relationship was WONDERFUL!!!

Answer 4

Tell him, give it a shot but if you do decide to date, start slow so if it doesnt go well, you can go back to being friends again with no harm done. I had the same problem about 5 weeks ago, I told her and she and I are now taking it slow, and its going great. Trust me, if you truly feel for him, you should tell him and not let it get bottled up inside or else being around him may get to be awkward.

Answer 5

Yes tell him. When you care about someone that much and don't do anything about it you will just end up regretting it for the rest of your life. Now you probably think that telling him how you feel will ruin your friendship but it really doesn't. Now from what it sounds like is you 2 are alredy really close so it shouldn't be to hard to tell him. So if you dont tell him how you feel you'll regret it later so just tell him.!!!!! =P

Answer 6

That's a tough call...young romances don't tend to last too long...and getting romantically involved will likely totally change the nature of your relationship...then, should you split up, it may be tough to regain the friendship you had prior to being a "couple"...

If you are willing to risk the friendship, to see if romance might blossom, then go for it...otherwise, be happy with what you have with him, and keep your feelings to yourself (besides, he may well already know)...

Answer 7

okay i am sort of in love with my best guy friend too. i told him. what i said was: Colby i have a huge crush on you. he replied, I know. than he went off ignoring me and blushing for awhile. than we got back to being friends. i have done that to many boys. but it will never destroy your friendship. if your not sure to tell him yet. wait until you feel closer. and there is a sign. Good Luck!!

Answer 8

well if u fell a strong pull towards him and u known him for a long amount of time and there hasnt been any trouble when he is arounf i thing you should go for it. It doesnt matter if every one says he is a nerd, if u really like him for who he is then ull take a chance

Answer 9

You have to tell him, caus eif you dont, you will regret not telling him.

Answer 10

yes tell him or you will never know what could be.