but things arent working out bcuz things are ******* up lately what should u do, i love my girl, but i just feel so horrible, i cant trust her, i dont know why, i just feel like im losing my mind, im overreacting of course, but im freaking out, i wanna die and have no worries
2006-07-19 08:54:23 · 12 answers · asked by My B 1 in Health ➔ Other - Health
me and my man are having a totally similar situation.
he cant trust me ( i cheated ) and i am doing everything in my power to gain his trust back. i really truly believe that if the love is there there is a way to make it work...it takes time, patience and a lot of communication...we had other issues too...one key is to go out of your way to be ovely nice and sensitive to each others needs...this is of course if you WANT it to work.
2006-07-19 09:02:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dying is not going to solve your problem. Every problem has a solution. You just need to solve it.
No matter how you feel today, it will not last. I have 3 kid's from a man i loved with all my heart but he left me pregnant with my last child. I felt so so so damn bad after he left me and my children for a life of drugs and another woman.
If it weren't for my kid's I' would of thought about suicide, too. But the kool thing is that a few days of adjusting to life without him, I realized life was so so so much better!
I believe all things happen for a reason. it may feel bad now but trust me it gets better, you just hang in there and be strong. Take a nap, watch some movies, and you'll feel better in the morning!
Remember what don't kill us makes us stronger!
2006-07-19 16:06:37 · answer #2 · answered by erinjanae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard one. I've been through this. Still am going through this. You can't give her a hard time if she hasn't done anything wrong. You need to find ways to love her, but not be paranoid. This starts with you. Try to find ways to improve yourself and your self-esteem. Excerise, write, meditate. Make an effort to have special times just for the two of you so you can become closer.
2006-07-19 16:05:41 · answer #3 · answered by rhonda y 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask yourself whether you have any valid reasons to mistrust your gf. and if you're unsure, you ask her. sometimes we can think something over and over in our heads, and the tape just doesn't stop, we feel crazy....you said it, you're losing your mind. you need to stop the tape. you may be overreacting as you said. my ex and i broke up half year ago because he couldn't stop the tape, completely. in his mind he said he trusted me, yet he sometimes couldn't....he thought i was with other ppl, that i was using drugs. the tape would start, and stop, until he couldn't stop it, and we broke up. i told him that it would be his lack of trust that would make or break us. i had saved the relationship many times before, and he knew this; but like he said, it was so hard to stop the tape. if you find out for certain she can't be trusted, then break it off. if you realize that you have trust issues, just work on them slowly (you say to yourself, what IS the reality of the situation?) she'll have patience for you; i know i did with him.
2006-07-19 16:32:15 · answer #4 · answered by gurrrly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if it makes u feel so horrible than it cant be healthy for u nor your girlfriend. Love is not jealous and it does not hold back from expressing joy and happiness. so rethink your situation and talk it out with your girlfriend and make a decision and on the matter.
Your happiness depends on you now
2006-07-19 16:03:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to find a way to work through ur anxiety first! go to the dr or someone u can feel free to talk to openly. find out what's causing this first, before loosing the gf. if u have reasons not to trust her, then u both need to talk through this to work it out. or, u need to move on if u cannot do this!
find a way to deal with ur feelings first. like u said u feel like ur overreacting yourself. wanting to die is not good either...seek help!
2006-07-19 16:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by thundakat312 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u know what....i dunno what the reason there are 4 u not 2 trust ur girl but me and my bf have had this problem b4.....things started goin horribly bad and he didnt trust me but we both decided 2 stay together because we love eachother and that love is tronger than all the problems we've had. so if U love ur girl and SHE loves you there are a lot of ways out of problems. u both have 2 look 4 a way so that u start trusting her (thats wat we did) and hopefully that will help u. good luck
2006-07-19 16:01:08 · answer #7 · answered by sxc115 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i kinda had a similar situation with my fiance..and i spent a whole day with out him..no contact what so ever..no phone..texting..and all i did was sit and think..what was bothering me..why do i assume this..what ever and at the end of the day..i knew what i wanted to say..so the next day at night i wound up speaking to him and stressing my concerns and we talked and worked things out..so maybe you just need to talk and go see a doctor to talk to
2006-07-19 15:59:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor..
there are a lot of good drugs against a depression
2006-07-19 15:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by Preykill 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let her go - theres others out there. love hurts been there twiced and lost both of them.
2006-07-19 15:59:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋