OK I didn't know my friend when she had her first and second babies. And I'd like to do something nice for her as I couldn't when the first two were born - so what is the ettiquette on baby showers for 3rds???
I do know that they don't really need anything, they have planted a tree in honor of each of thier children, and would like one for this new baby (due around labor day) -
So do I just throw her a party and tell folks this is for her and NOT a shower -
Do I throw her a traditioinal shower and ask that $$ be given toward the purchase of a tree for the new baby??
WHAT should I do - or even better what would YOU do???
2006-07-19 08:33:48 · 7 answers · asked by Triddine 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Sadly you are only supposed to have a baby shower for the first child. You can through a mommy party though. It gives the mother something to perk up about. Don't worry about gifts or money if they want to give her something they will but other than that get a card and have everyone sign it.
2006-07-19 08:59:28 · answer #1 · answered by Kota 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
A baby shower is not about getting gifts - it's about celebrating the birth of the new child. EVERY child deserves this celebration whether they are the first or the seventh. First, I would ask the mother-to-be if she does need anything. If her first and second were several years ago she may have gotten rid of most of her baby things. If she has, say, two girls and is expecting a boy she is going to need boy clothes.
I like the idea of having everyone over for a bbq or something to that effect. It's alway nice to include Daddy in these things - it's his baby too! :)
2006-07-19 18:55:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think a shower is good thing. They have everything they need so it would be a waste of people's time and money. Just have everyone give a donation towards the tree and when the baby is born and you go to visit them at the hospital present them with the check for the tree.
2006-07-19 15:42:55 · answer #3 · answered by BeeFree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A party would be a great idea! Since she doesn't "need" anything (though there's always something that might need to be replaced from the first kids), it is still nice to gather your friends & family together to celebrate this child ... every baby should be celebrated!!! When people RSVP (assuming you're the one handling that) and they ask what she needs, simply say either nothing's needed or tell them about the tree idea (which I think is VERY nice!).
Have the party - call it what you want - and help your friend celebrate her newest little one.
2006-07-19 15:47:43 · answer #4 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would host a nice BBQ or something like that where families attend with kids. That way everyone is included...the theme of the party is to celebrate the 3rd baby, but it's in a more casual and non-pressured way.
Ask in the invitation for donations to the tree in lieu of gifts.
2006-07-19 15:43:37 · answer #5 · answered by Shay Shay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
PLan for a get together--BBQ,when you invite people ask for donatoin for tree or flowering tree/bush,have each sign a card.Go buy iether--day or two befor takk it to the party and plant it while your all together.
Id love it,thats my oppinion anways.
Or instead of BBQ do an ice cream party or banana splits,itll be in the cooler part of day,evening but still light out,that would be better for the plant instead the hottest part of day.
Have fun!!!!
2006-07-19 16:02:27 · answer #6 · answered by kelly j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always give a shower and tell people that it is a daiper shower or donation shower. Have the theme of the shower to do something with trees. They are definately going to need daipers.
2006-07-19 15:41:18 · answer #7 · answered by surfergirl77550 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋