the good guy is everything i could ever want but the bad guy is the love of my life. i known the bad guy for 7 yrs and we have been through a lot so i dont want to loose everything we have worked on. he dosent realize what he has yet...i know one day he will see but i know my worth and i know i deserve better. the good guy wants to give me the world but i want to give the bad guy the world. the bad boy isnt bad he just isnt good. my mind says the good guy but my heart says the bad guy. do i follow my heart or listen to my mind. please help me...xoxo
2006-07-19 07:51:26 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
OH HONEY PU-LEEZE!!!!!!! You need to dump both of them and discover YOURSELF and then get with a man. As women, we give so much to men and leave ourselves with NAUGHT!!!!! And if you have to say things like "he doesn't realize what he has...." GIRLFRIEND-you know when you want something and when you don't. You want this guy and there's no hesitation - If you didn't want him you would do what he's doing -BIDING TIME UNTIL SOMETHING BETTER COMES ALONG! Mr Baddy's with you because no one else wants him. It sucks - I was married to a guy like that.
But really - The same way you feel about the "good guy" Mr Baddy feels about you - "He wants you as long as nothing better is there"
2006-07-19 08:15:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lotus Phoenix 6 · 18⤊ 3⤋
I say go for the good guy. It is so hard to find a good guy that will care for you and give you the world. There are very few of them in the sea. If you let the good guy guy, good luck with finding someone else who cares as much as the good guy. I understand thsat you have been through a lot with the bad guy but you need to take some time to think before you act. Will the bad guy take care of you and always treat you right? Another idea is to make a list comparing the two guys. Write down all the things you like about each and all the things you dislike about each. This might be helpful to you. I hope you choose the good guy. I am 25 and will be getting married in seventeen days to one of the greatet guys. It took me awhile to find a good guy and he was it. Sometimes girls are drawn to bad guys because they are rebels; but true love comes from the good guys.
2006-07-19 16:32:10 · answer #2 · answered by Math Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have learned over the years that your other half should be someone who is positive in every way and someone that truly enhances your life, for the better. Your attraction to the bad guy may be part excitement of being bad for a while than it is love, so watch out!
If he does not make you an all around better person, but the good guy does: mentally, physically, socially and so on....then you need to ask yourself is it truly worth it in the end to be with a bad guy? What did you accomplish when you look back on your life?
My mom has an old saying.....tell me who your friends are, and I will tell you who you are, so pick the people in your life very wisely!
2006-07-19 15:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by Millie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your question because I was asking myself the same thing about a year ago................I was with the bad guy for about 3 years and we had been through a lot, he didnt' know what he had, and I didn't know what I had with the good guy, well I lost the good guy to a stupid whore and I was left with the bad guy, I thought he would realize he had something good with me, but never did until I came across another good guy and I left the bad guy, Well, the bad guy went psycho (literally) and kidnapped me at gunpoint and was threatening to kill me along with the good guy if we didn't get back together, I hope your situation doesn't go that far, leave the bad guy, guys are too dumb to realize what they have until they lose it. The good guy will make you happy and will treat you like a queen, but you have to really get to know him first to make sure he's not just pretending to be nice.......hope this helpsâ¥
2006-07-19 15:33:25 · answer #4 · answered by the*cellphone*chik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got a brother who's 5 yrs older than me yea he is the bad boy and the girl he was seeing said the same thing as you but he never got anything in life for her not even after 8yrs...I told her he will still treat her the same and never get anything I told her that after they was togther 1 yr and told her 4 yrs later.. now its to late she' sitting in jail because he talked her into stealing for him.. he told her if you love me you'll do this..she did and you know he has not seen her once since she's been in jail and it's been a yr, she's got another 2 yrs left and he has another woman he's been with now. You need to walk away for about a month and think what you want in life and for your future will that bad boy give you what you want? ask him and if really loves you he will give it to you.
2006-07-19 17:22:41 · answer #5 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose the good guy in the end youll thank yourself for it. The bad guy may never notice what he has no matter how long you try. Take what the other guy is offering and leave the bad one alone. Especially if you want a happy long lasting marriage with children.
2006-07-19 15:16:05 · answer #6 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, if he doesn't know after 7 years what your worth is, he never will. It's up to you who you choose, personally I would choose neither and take some time to figure out who you are and what you truly want. Or, marry the bad boy and be unhappy and divorced in a few years.
2006-07-19 18:14:03 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do yourself a favor and take the good boy. You'll have a happier life with someone loving you, instead of spending it trying to change someone and thinking he'll love you back.
2006-07-19 14:56:28 · answer #8 · answered by mariposapink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should follow your heart. If you don't have the strong feelings for one that you do for another then that is the route to go. Who knows what the future will hold?
2006-07-19 15:36:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went with the bad boy and it took us two kids and 13 years before we married (one month before #3 was born) . . . he's now a good guy!
Good luck!
2006-07-19 15:25:57 · answer #10 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go with your mind. If you go with your emotions, you will get hurt. Take the good guy, and leave the bad guy for stupid girls!
2006-07-19 14:55:43 · answer #11 · answered by Jenn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋