Don't like my kids.?

Question

My little boy and girl are bad kids. I want to drop them off in the ghetto so they can be raised by capable ghetto parents who will love them for who they are. Should a drop them off in a housing project or a crack den? I can't wait to not have to wake up to little brats screaming their heads off. They belong with people who will raise them right.

Answer 1

Bring them to me I will take care of them.

Answer 2

First of all I have to say that this feeling does not make you a bad person. Of course that's assuming that you don't abuse your children and don't really mean what you said. That said, I know exactly how you feel and I think every mother on this earth does too, they just may not admit it. I have a 6 year old and a three year old, with one on the way and believe me there are a lot of times when I don't like my kids. In fact, almost every morning, they wake me up because they are screaming and fighting. It is so annoying. I amy not want to drop them in the ghetto or a crack den, and I am guess that is not what you really want to do either, but I do feel like I want them to go away sometimes, well basically just when they fight and whine etc. I love my kids very much and we have fun together too, but they are so damn difficult at the same time. If you really don't want your kids, you can give them up. However, everytime I feel that way, I take a second and picture my life without them, and I mean, really picture it. I couldn't handle it. They may get on every last nerve, but htey are my kids and I love them no matter what. Please don't ever hesitate to try and catch a break whenever you can. Every mom needs that no matter how committed you are to your children. Hell, there are times when my parents will take them for the weekend and I am almost begging them to keep them for a few extra days. It never works of course, but I can hope. At any rate, just try and relax, seek a little bit of help from a friend, parents whoever, but don't actually ever go through with that. There are other options. At the same time, don't ever feel ashamed for feeling like you don't like your kids. As long as the feeling doesn't linger, then it's normal. Also, take into consideration other areas of your life as far as stress. That can make a big difference in how you feel towards your kids. I know all about that. You may want to check into info about depression and maybe get some help in that area. It could really make a difference in how things happen in your life. I hope I helped you. Good luck. And by the way, don't let everyone else make you feel guilty for feeling this way.

Answer 3

Sounds to me like you are fustrated with your kids behavior and don't know what to do. Being frustrated and indecisive in the presence of a child gives them free range to act up because you already don't know what to do. First you need some time away from the kids, second you need some parenting classes from a ghetto mother like me, and third you need a reality check. Your kids are not bad, they just have bad behavior and that can be fixed.

Plus, dropping your kids off in a crack den wouldn't accomplish anything and no one who is a crackhead is gonna raise a kid, hell they don't raise they're own.

letting someone in the ghetto keep them for a little while isn't a bad idea though. I live in the ghetto and we are some of the firmest parents I have ever seen. "Time out" is for wimps, spankings is where the meaning of "upper hand comes from." Most people in the ghetto would have good kids if children and family services wouldn't hop into peoples business about spankings. spanking a child for discipline isn't bad, beating them is. That's why I hate that show "super nanny". Stupid woman talking about naughty chairs and reward boards. Pop them on their little *** with your hand and give them some firm explanations behind it and you won't have little monsters.

Terrible twos never entered my house. terrificaly trained two is all I have. Hell if they are still in diapers the spanking won't even hurt because they can't feel it just the sound scares the hell out of them, LOL.

Answer 4

People who ANSWER questions on this site are so stupid!!!

Girl, don't feel bad. Sometimes, I wish I could drop my daughter off somewhere too. But the thing we have to remember is, they didn't ask to be here. So, we have to have patience. When your patience is thin, go outside and take 5-10 minutes for yourself and then go back and address whatever the situation is. Solicit help from friends/family for an occassional break if you can.

Set some rules in your house and (if they're old enough to read) post them on the refrigerator and on the inside of their bedroom doors. Don't stray from the rules you establish. Don't give in because you're tired. The kids only do what they know they can get away with. My daughter is two and she tests the limits every day. But I let her know that I am the mommy and I am in charge. Also, temper the discipline with love and rewards. When they are behaving give them a treat... Stickers, bubbles, sidewalk chalk, a day in the park with mommy. Little things make kids so happy.

Answer 5

It might be time to address what's going on with you and your interaction with your children. Step one would be to get some serious counseling through a psychologist or psychiatrist.

The sound, logical and responsible alternative to "dropping your kids off in a ghetto" would be to consult a foster care program. It would be better for everyone involved to voluntarily relinquish custody than to have CPS come in and take your kids from you. Is there a family member that can help out, or would be willing to accept custody - even temporarily?

Answer 6

Sounds like you need a break. Contact a relative or close friend and see if they can watch your children for awhile. During that time I would also seek some counseling and check out some parenting guides like 123 Magic at your local library. Also once your children come home make regular plans to get away once in a while. If you don't do something soon social services will take your children away. If that happens you may never again get to see your children again.

Answer 7

First of all how old are they? 2nd, don't just drop them off especially in the ghetto, they'll only turn out worse. It states in the bible "spare the rod, spoil the child", DO Disiple them, (not child abuse).! Also love them and hug them as much as possible. You may also want to have them checked out by a doctor to see if they have ADD or ADHD.

But, please believe me, I do understand where you are coming from. I have a 11 year old stepson who refuses to accept the fact that he is a child and I am the adult and he has to listen to what I say.

I'm trying as hard as I can to keep my family together, but he more than goes beyond tempting me to jack him completely up. So, I do feel for you.

Just breathe and pray! I do, ERRRVYDAY!!! Good Luck and God bless.

Answer 8

wow. what ever happened to loving and protecting your child. I have four and I couldn't live a day with out one of them. No one has perfect days with there children but you deal with it as a parent. Sounds to me as if you dont spend time teaching them right from wrong. You must just let them run around and do anything they want and now they are driving you crazy. You didn't mention a father so let me guess he must be down at the crack house. Get yourself up out of the gutter and take a little responsibily for your children. They look at you for guidance. Lift your head up, put a smile on your face and set some goal for you and your children. You think you can just go screw around get pregnant and get rid of them when you are tired of it. Keep your damn legs closed before you have anymore.

Answer 9

It takes a lot of guts to acknowledge that motherhood isn't the "best job ever!!!" or "makes you a complete woman". I know that there's a lot of frustration involved with parenting that no one ever tells you about. In fact, probably every parent you know has these but it's such a taboo to talk about being mad, frustrated and frankly not liking your kids so much sometimes... Maybe you can talk to another mom you trust about this, and maybe she'll confide in you too.
From your question I sense that you're just frustrated, but if you see it's much much deeper than that, and you really think they'd be better off with other people. Or you consider yourself to be unfit as a parent, there are more serious ranging from therapy, to adoption...Good luck and temperance!

Answer 10

Let me tell you something. I have been trying to have a baby for two years. I would give almost anything to have a baby. It makes me so angry to read something like what you wrote. You don't want your kids just because of how they behave? HELLO! Wake up mom! YOU made them this way. Try a little something called discipline!! You don't want your kids? Well, I would take them in a heart beat!!!! I mean that, in a heart beat.
Children are a gift, and you obviously don't deserve the gift you were given. You should be ashamed.

Answer 11

The question is... Do You Like Yourself? If you don't Love yourself you can't Love anyone. I Pray that your children aren't victims of abuse either verbal or physical.
Get some help , I know you are concerned otherwise you would not be here. Can you call your Mom? Dad? Mother in Law? Do you have a Doctor.......Call someone today...and be as honest with them as you have been here. God Bless You and Your Kids!