What do you do when a "christian" judges you?

Question

I was judged at work by a christian woman. I am a homosexual and I read metaphysical books. This pisses her off. I am just doing my thing. I don't give her **** about her actions. My point is that if you are a christian and you hear all of these people saying that there are christians judging people, and you disagree with it, why not start in your our backyard before trying to convert people in other areas. And I am sick of hearing that we are all individuals and have our own things to overcome. You guys left your individuality way behind when you decided to practice a religion. That might sound bad but **** it!

Answer 1

try to remind her to judge not lest she be judged. and ask her by what bible verse does she have the right to judge you. also ask her how it feels to be the only sinless person in the world, and when should you report for your stoning, and if she will be the one casting the first stone. i find a great deal of christians who are very good at pointing out the sty in others eyes and yet never seem to notice the splinter in their own eye. good luck to you.

Answer 2

I'm a christian, and I'm also a sinner, so am not going to be throwing stones. I'm sorry for what you've gone thru, but most christians wouldn't be giving you a hard time. Its clear in the bible that Jesus will be the judge, and He'll judge with His heart. Its not our job to judge anyone. We are to speak to other believers if we're doing something wrong, but that's only within our church. A lot of christians take the words of God and twist them around to fit into what they want them to say, instead of what they actually say. "We" did not leave our individuality behind. There are a few christians who seem to think they've been given Jesus's job of judge, but most of us have more sense than that. We are all individuals, which is why we argue among ourselves so much. You're labelling all christians together, do you want us labelling all gays together? Are you all exactly the same? I think not, so don't label us together. It's like saying we're all like that fruitcake on Trading Spouses or whatever show that was, and ran around saying everything was "of the devil". That crazy woman put christianity behind by a good 100 years.

Answer 3

I'm sorry your experience with Christians has been so bad. I am a Christian, and I know that others can be extremely judgmental, but it's pretty damn hypocritical if you ask me. In the Bible, it states that God doesn't care what your sin is, every sin is equally horrible, and since it is impossible to not sin, we are all equally bad people in the eyes of God. And please don't make stereotypes about Christians, because we are individuals. Why else would there be so much debate about minor beliefs in Christianity? Oh, and personally, I don't think it's a sin to be gay. The only things that are sins are anything against the ten commandments, and there is nothing in the ten commandments about being gay.

Answer 4

In matters of religion, the problem of validating metaphysical claims is most readily seen in all of the "proofs" for the existence of God. Like trying to prove the existence of a "soul" or "spirit" in the human, attempts to scientifically prove the existence of God and other nonobjective, nonhuman realities is seemingly impossible. The difficulty arises out of the attempt to scientifically study and objectify something which, by its very nature, cannot become an object of our scientific studies. This reigning belief that everything can be explained scientifically in terms of natural causes - referred to as naturalism - compels many to think that only what is seen or sensed, only what can be hypothesized and tested can be true, and therefore, meaningful to us as humans.

No matter what religion or practice you are in , who the hell are we to JUDGE, you can give an opinion and be all rightious about it, but if you don't take in the OPINION , who cares.Life goes on there are naggers everywhere and in everything. I say just wait till you die then everyone will have there answer...

Answer 5

Please don't put in the same group with the woman who judged you. I am a believer of Jesus Christ, I have read his book and I know that he is real, and he is coming back for us. Having said that I do not judge people, because for one thing it is a sin! I have no right to judge anyone, because I have sinned myself. My sin is between me and the good Lord. I have several homosexual friends, and they get very upset because people tell them that are going to hell. Why, and how can they know that. No where in the Bible does it say that. There is only one thing you have to do to go to heaven. Accept Jesus Christ as your savior, it doesn't say "he ain't going, she ain't going" Believers are going. I am also sick of hearing people group Christian together. Just like you are sick of people judging you. I don't want to be judged because of the name "Christian" I am a very open minded person, and I try everyday to be a good person. I live by His law, "Treat others as you would have them treat you" So, I certainly don't want anyone judging me, so how can I judge them. That's a sin, just as if I killed someone, or disrespect my parents. Bryon, my friend, who happens to be gay, doesn't like being called queer. he is gay, not queer. He says there is a differnece. So, that's why I say I am a believer. I am not Catholic, or Baptist, or any other named religion, but a believer. So, please don't judge us either by that one woman's behavior.
Sorry to preacher to you, but just wanted you to know we ain't all like that. I wish you well in you life, and hope she leaves you alone at work. And you are right, clean up your own backyard before you start on someone else's. God bless....

Answer 6

christians are only human. many christians who get baptized forget that they are. maybe they think that the holy water transforms them to the point that they are no longer on the level of the mere mortals! one becomes a christian to find a spiritual connection with God, his Word and how to incorporate that into one's daily life. some christians take it to another level!! to be christian is to be humble and non judgemental as Christ was. why some christians do the opposite and become holier than thou and point their finger at others, is beyond me. the funny part is that some christians have a bag load of stuff of their own that they are carrying!! i work with a lot of "bible page eating" christians. when they get on their soap boxes and start judging (they thinking their preaching and therefore helping the "non believers" and the "unbaptized"!!) i don't answer. if i did, it would get ugly!! in the end they are always right (in their mind!) it's sad to think that people are like that. don't let the judgement get to you. (and you will continue to endue more judgement from others!) those who project that kind of negativity are not happy people inside. you can't give what you don't have.

Answer 7

I am a Christian... and I think you would have every right to feel the way you do if you are judged. While we Christians are taught not to tolerate sin (we do believe homosexuality is a sin), we are also taught not to condemn others. When Jesus came across an adulterous woman who was about to be stoned to death, He said told the crowd of people that was going to kill her "let he who is blameless cast the first stone". Afterwards when the crowd dispersed, He asked her if those who condemned her were still around. When she said no, He said that He would not condemn her either and then told her to go on and "sin no more".

As a homosexual, you face many types of condemnation (not just from Christians). At the risk of making myself sound pluralistic, your lifestyle is your choice. You have a right to NOT follow God... after all, Christianity is about choosing to live with God more than it is about following His laws.

If I were you, I would ask her (in a pragmatic way) why she feels the way she does. Make her give account for the hope in her (as 1 Peter 3:15 orders us to do). Ask her to tell you why God has made sin be considered sin. Ask her to inform you rather than condemn you. Remind her that (as per Matthew 5:16), she must let her light shine so that God can be glorified and that it's the Holy Spirit's job to convict people... not hers.

Because of your lifestyle, you will encounter many dogmatic people who will condemn you just because the bible tells them so. While I agree with her in principle, neither of us has a right to condemn you. Now if you ask where we think you will spend eternity and why we feel that way, that's another issue.... lol.

I have found that many Christians tend to condemn some sins more than others, despite the fact that certain sins appear to carry the same weight in God's eyes. I recall one time a youth pastor told me he didn't allow his lesbian sister-in-law to touch his son for fear of transmitting a gay spirit to him. I asked him if he kept fornicators away from his son also (I knew for a fact that his brother, who cared for the kid sometimes, was tapping every pretty young thing he could get his hands on). He stayed silent. The new testament passage that condemns homosexuality also condemns fornication... you see why I took issue with his comment?

You can simply seek to have her inform you about her perspectives. Who knows, maybe you will cause her to think some things through... lol.

Answer 8

I'm sorry, sweetie. We're not all like that. Any Christian who judges anyone else is *not* behaving in a Christ-like way. You're right ~ everyone should take a long look at themselves before they decide to pass judgment on another person. Don't stoop to her level by passing judgment on her. Just continue to be you.

Funny and some-what related story: I have 7 women working for me and most of them are single moms or not married to their kids' father. Another girl who worked with us criticized everyone else for having "sinful relationships" and was very condescending and judgmental. Guess who turned up pregnant and unmarried??? Needless to say, she quit. Talk about about throwing stones in a glass house...

Answer 9

Unfortunately, homosexuality is a sin (Biblical speaking of course) but the bible also says "hate the sin and not the sinner" and JESUS (the guy Christians supposedly base their sh*t on) say "Those without sin shall cast the first stone". But Christianity is comprised of HUMANS and you can basically find justification for ALL hatred in the bible if you're savvy enough. Like HAM, whose sons looked at him naked and laughed and their children were cursed to be BLACK (like me) - So YOU my son will just have to be strong and believe in what you do wholeheartedly and NO ONE can JUDGE you (except the courts - take those judgments seriously) :)

Answer 10

I spout off a couple of scriptures from the Bible. Fight fire with fire.
Matthew 7:2 (NIV) For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

Matthew 7:3-5 (NIV) 3 "Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother's eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? 4 How can you say to your brother, 'Let me take the speck out of your eye,' when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? 5 You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother's eye.

I LOVE to use that chapter in Matthew to bumfuzzle Bible thumping hypocrites. How can they judge you for what is controversially arguable (in regards to being right or wrong, because that's in debate) but completely ignore something that is quoted OVER AND OVER again in plain black and white-- like judging. That's the true sign of a HYPOCRITE and that verse in Matthew is spoken words of Jesus himself. I know it's horrible when someone does you that way, but quote those and then ignore them. Keep your chin up... it's your life, not theirs.

Answer 11

As a Christian, let me apologize to you. I, also, am a sinner in need of God's grace. Neither the lady at work or any other Christian has any right to judge anyone else, because we are all sinners ourselves. If we say God has forgiven us, we must first acknowledge that we need to be forgiven.
Once again, I am sorry for the way you were treated.