I was riding with my boyfriend in his truck. I picked up his phone just to be a little nosey. Years ago when we dated he cheated and I have given him another chance. I figured he didn't have anything to hide this time since he always says he does not. He snatched his phone from me and yelled at me even after I handed mine to him. Should I be worried that he is still hiding stuff?
2006-07-19 07:44:21 · 5 answers · asked by movu101779 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
He also didn't let me on his computer last time and he won't even take me to his home now...
2006-07-19 07:45:30 · update #1
I love him and want to trust him but just not sure if I can..
2006-07-19 07:46:09 · update #2
jlf74464 - I understand where you are coming from believe me. The main reason I want on his computer is cause he was hooking up with girls from the computer the last time we dated.. That is why he would not even allow me to do anything on his computer even when I needed it.. Also the last time he dated he always got on my computer with me..
2006-07-19 08:18:09 · update #3
This is kind of tricky. One the one hand, if he's cheated on you before, it's understandable that you would be distrusting & he should want to be open with you to make sure you know you can trust him. On the other hand, & I think a LOT of women don't realize this, we men often have things we consider as personal to us as many of you women view your purses. I wouldn't want my girlfriend screwing around in my wallet, because she has no business in there. I wouldn't want her messing with my computer because I tend to be very protective of my stuff, & not want it damaged. I had an ex-girlfriend who accidentally downloaded a virus on my computer once. If I had a cell phone, I wouldn't want her messing with that without my permission, either. I've seen a lot of women are very nosy when it comes to their boyfriends, & some aren't as rightfully so as you. Still, just because he has cheated on you in the past doesn't give you license to do something I would view as rude. The polite thing to do if you need to use his phone or his computer is to ask his permission. If you don't need to use these items, leave them alone. This is just common courtesy, & if you can't extend it to your boyfriend, then this isn't right. If you are suspicious of him, you should communicate with him rather than attempting to spy on him & snoop around where you don't belong. He's cheated on you in the past, so until he can earn back your trust, he should expect you to question him from time to time. I hope I haven't come across as rude, because I haven't tried to be. I've just tried to point out for you & all women who exhibit this sort of behavior that it really is very impolite to behave in this fashion, & very disrespectful.
2006-07-19 07:58:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should, but just in case don't stick you're head in his bussiness to far. If starts to be far far away from, or seem like he wants to be seperated, I addvise you to just ask him, if somethings going. If you know by the look in the poor guys eyes, that he is not telling the truth...start crying and make that sucker feel guilty!
2006-07-19 14:50:52 · answer #2 · answered by kh.girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you both need to talk about the past and present. The past usually has a way of repeating itself.
2006-07-19 14:49:14 · answer #3 · answered by BbyGrl80 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he lost your trust, once the bond is broken, there is no way to not keep from thinking about the mistrust ever again, so if you love him then just try not to remember the mistrust and move on, if not it is a no win situation! love roccks!
2006-07-19 14:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say it but he is acting very defensive and that isn't a good sign... just be straightforward and tell him your concerns and talk it over with him....
2006-07-19 14:49:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋