2006-07-19 07:12:45 · 23 answers · asked by sara h 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
16 and younger
2006-07-19 07:15:11 · answer #1 · answered by Indiana Girl 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it really depends on the couple and theyre maturity level. Im 20 and my fiance is 24, we've been together 5 years and have a 2 1/2 yr old son. We're getting married next month. I hear people say to me all the time "your too young to get married" but really, its not all that young. To some it may be, but thats just because theyre not mature enough to respect what marriage is.
Good luck and congrats!
2006-07-19 07:21:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should wait longer. You are so young and true love is hard to find. If you are in college, there is so much more still waiting for you. It also depends on how long you have been with your man and how well you too get along. There is a lot of compromising involved in marriage and love and you definitely want to make sure you two are right for each other. In addition, a wedding is very expensive and the average cost is $28,000.
2006-07-19 09:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by Math Diva 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you are in any way too young to get married. Don't let people persuade you either way with horror tales about divorces and wishing they had waited, or fairy tale stories about how people are still together a hundred years later.
This is something that you know in your heart if you are ready for. I know you are ready for all the good parts of marriage but are you ready for the bad? The gross parts? When he's sick and disgusting and you have to take care of him? When he loses his job and you are really strapped for cash? If you are ready for those types of things, then chances are you're ready for marriage. Just be responsible about it...but also be happy and enjoy your engagement.
Sorry, one more quick thing. People in your family or in your life who say you're too young, they probably are just trying to help. I know that a lot of what they say might sound condescending, but they just want what is best for you and in time they'll understand that YOU are the best judge of that - not them! Good luck!!
2006-07-19 07:51:58 · answer #4 · answered by ykokorocks 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, You have to be mature enough to handle finances.. Most marriages end because of finacial problems. And not only that, marriage is a life long commitment. If you feel that you can do it, I say go for it. And im really tired of some people saying young people won't last in a marriage because honestly there are older people that are not mature enough to handle things in a marriage too(believe me i know some older people that are way more immature than i am. So DO what your heart tells you to do, Don't let age get in the way.
Oh and for anyone that wants to know what maturity is..
I got this out of Dear Abby.
"This is maturity: To be able to stick with a job until it's finished; to do one's duty without being supervised; to be able to carry money without spending it; and to be able to bear an injustice without wanting to get even."
2006-07-19 09:13:06 · answer #5 · answered by Sarah D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would wait till you're about 24 at least. I find that women and men hit and nice mature stage at that age, and are quite set on what they want in life and in a mate. Studies have shown that many people who get married too early head down the road to divorce.
2006-07-19 12:58:43 · answer #6 · answered by english_argie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom told me when I got married at 20 that I was too young, and that I should finish college, and find myself before I settled down with someone else. She said that would probably take 10 years, and then I'd be ready. I didn't listen, and am now divorced.
2006-07-19 07:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am 23 and got married when i was 21. A lot of people told me I was to young but I felt I was ready. So if you feel like this is the one for you...then go for it!!
2006-07-19 10:36:12 · answer #8 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I got married at 19 and wish I'd waited (I'm 41 now). I missed out on a lot by deciding to settle down right out of high school...what's the rush? I wish I'd given myself time to know myself better as an adult...to have had more dating experiences...and to have decided what path *I* wanted to travel in life (instead of the Air Force telling us where we had to travel)...
It is your choice...you are an adult...but speaking from experience, I tend to usually suggest people wait a few more years...
2006-07-19 07:17:07 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that depends.....
Have you done everything you wanted to do in life and are ready to settle down?
Are you ready to handle the marriage responsibility of paying a mortgage/rent and a car?
Do you have money to support yourselves and or a good job or career?
Are you also mentally and physically ready for the responsibility and time of a marriage and children, if they come along?
Marriage is alot of work....I should know....but I will tell you I educated myself, traveled, had fun, dated and found out what I truly wanted and did not want in my lifetime mate before I took that step. It is no guarantee, but I am glad I took the long way and took my time before I took that step!
2006-07-19 09:39:36 · answer #10 · answered by Millie A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me like you might be having second thoughts. You need to explore why you're feeling hesitant. Is it just cold feet, or do you have serious and legitimate reasons for doubting your desire to be married? The answer to that will give you the answer you need.... We can't help you know your own heart, and that's what needs to happen - you need to do some serious soul-searching, and that's something we simply cannot do for you.
2006-07-19 09:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋