My boyfriend and I have been dating for six months, five of which we've been inseperable. I cry just thinking of him being gone or if he is away for more than two nights. How am I supposed to deal with a deployment of him going full time after his term is up?
2006-07-19 07:10:09 · 9 answers · asked by iman_tx22 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Military
I try to stay busy...I host quite alot of get togethers w/ friends and family. MOVIES, alot of movie nights. I also have a mantra that I say over and over ..."by this time in _months/weeks he will be home (sometimes I will even think like he will be home in 6 more pay periods..makes it shorter doing it that way)
Having great supportive friends, I utilize the FSC the programs that they have for spouses. Writing letters really helps.
I'm not going to lie and say that it's easy, it's hard especially if he's going into a war zone. The anxiety and worry is really bad, I recommend you stay away from the news....just undue stress watching it. And for the first week or so that he's gone you will feel out of sorts (seriously) you will probably cry and be depressed and falling asleep is quite hard, you just gotta keep your head up and stay strong....and whatever you do, do NOT whine to him (about how hard it is, or blame him for your lonelieness) or fight with him, while he's gone. It will totally bring down his morale (not good when he's in a war zone) and it will make you feel like crap. (trust me not a good feeling)
Remember just to be strong for yourself and him, send him surprise packages, steamy letters will really boost his morale and make you feel connected to him. Supportive friends really do understand and will help keep you busy. Start a project when he leaves (something lengthy) this really helps.
OH one other thing pampering yourself is a great stress reliever,,,,getting a good manicure, massage is (whatever you like) a great way to lift your spirits up.
I really hope you do ok when he is gone......
p.s. didn't mean to sound preachy.....(hope I didn't come off like that)
2006-07-19 09:34:05 · answer #1 · answered by Hold em Rox 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel... me and my boyfriend have been going out six months too... and we also were inseperable, so much so that my parents kept yelling at me about how much time i was with him... anywho, he's now in boot camp. And i won't be able to see him for a long time. Let me tell you right now, it's hard as hell, i won't lie. But all you can do is send him LOTS of letters. It actually helps you too, it kinda makes you feel like your talking to him. All i can say is keep your self busy... with anything! Workout, knit, go back to an old hobby, anything... just keep busy. And again WRITE HIM!!! it really helps... i promise. K? ok, i hope this helps, and if you need someone to talk to that is going through the smae thing, my E-mail and im address is.... country_fire_07@yahoo.com... ok? hope you get through it ok.
2006-07-23 12:25:29 · answer #2 · answered by country_fire_07 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We deal with it because we respect them and there mission to defend the U.S. It is hard. But you are not the only one doing it. My husband and I have been seperated for 3 years. We see eachother about every 2 months for about 2 weeks at a time. I tell you one thing though. I thought the 1st time was the worst part. Seeing him leave for boot camp. It's not. Everytime is just as hard as the first. But what ever doesn't break you will make you two stronger. He will need you while he is gone. So hold strong for him. Keeps his spirts up. Good luck to you and yours.
2006-07-19 19:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by nay 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my boyfriend is in Iraq right now and we only have 3.5 months left till we are done with his year deployment. it is hard and we miss each other terribly but we talk online and on the phone everyday.we both have web cams so we can see each other. we send letters and packages which makes us feel closer. i am friends with my bf's friends girlfriend and it is great to talk to someone who really knows how you feel. also keep yourself busy with work or a hobby. i am working on a scrap book of the two of us so i can show it to him when i get home. most important just keep an open line of communication with him. its ok to tell him if you are sad or miss him cause most likely he feels the same way. you never know how strong you are till you have to go through something like this. after that just count down the days till he will be back in your arms. hope this helped.good luck!!
2006-07-19 16:34:51 · answer #4 · answered by ♥ missing a soldier in Iraq ♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just try not to think about it. After all if he is beign deployed theres nothing you can do about it. My husband just got back from Irak and at first, whe i foud out he was leaving i was worried crazy, i would cry, couldnt sleep was sad all the time but then I realized that i couldnt doanything about it. So I prayed to God to keep him safe and to keep me strong for my family and himself. I ried to keep busy while he was gone. Wrote to him, emailed him pictures and made a journal for him. I would sent him care packages with lots of goodies.
Its kind of hard especially during the holidays but you will get trough it. Good luck to both of you. God bless.
2006-07-19 15:42:40 · answer #5 · answered by xadralix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try hanging out with the spouses and gf's of his buddies. They can help you out. Especially the wives. They have a support network and keep each other in the loop.
2006-07-19 14:19:36 · answer #6 · answered by darkemoregan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most go to the NCO club and take home the first available warm body they find, many will lie and say they don't but my numerous experiences says otherwise
2006-07-20 00:16:12 · answer #7 · answered by macdyver60 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we really don't deal with it, we just try to be strong for that special soldier and let them know that we love them. Don't think of what might happen because then you will drive yourself crazy and probably make yourself worry more than you already are.
2006-07-19 14:19:04 · answer #8 · answered by baby_white_orchid 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-19 16:54:34 · answer #9 · answered by thom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋