he is very close to everything i want but he has this annying lil things he does that drive me crazy
is it possible to change him?
2006-07-19 07:08:30 · 46 answers · asked by irena 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yeah if he really likes you. Otherwise forget it.
2006-07-19 07:12:13 · answer #1 · answered by jade20743 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Concentrate on the positive behaviors he has, then work on the little ones. No one can be changed unless they see a two way street. Think about what bothers you and have him do the same thing. Work on changing together. Most men will be stubborn and unruly, like children. But, don't mistake this as a solution. Don't get involved with a man who looks like a science experiment and a challenge. Don't expect over night change either, I've been married 11 years and just now see subtle changes for the good in my husband. Be warned, he will throw his dirty undies on the floor till the day that he dies, men have to drive women crazy or they wont get into heaven. It's a requirement they have to fill.
2006-07-19 07:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by LadyRed 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure you can. The ones who say it can't be done just weren't successful. Now mind you, you won't change elementary things, but little tics and habits can be modified. My husband is like my child, and many people have said it's like night and day, before and after being with me. He hasn't changed as far as his personality, and he has a great ego too, no wimp here! But certain habits needed changing, and he didn't mind doing it for me. For example, he was a total slob, but now does the housecleaning! True story! And he gets this big grin on his face, he's so proud... So depending on what you want to change, be smart and be positive, he might even thank you for your efforts.
2006-07-19 07:19:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one can "change" anyone else! he has to change it himself and because he wants to, not because you want him to. best thing to do is sit down and go over things about eachother that annoy each of you and agree to try to work on those things for each other. Make it one sided and it WILL blow up in your face. There has to be equality and equal oppertunity. Otherwise it's no good. Sit down with him and ask him what things yo do that bother him and promise to make an effort to change those things in exchange for him working on the things that bother you about him. Show him you are willing to give as well as take. It is NOT about the problems most often than not. It is more about how you handle solving it and communicating it and willingness of both parties to do things for each other. Pick your battles and do not be petty. Some things really are not that important. some should just be let go but it is important to be able to know which things are which and that is tricky.
I hope my suggestion works for you! Good luck to you!
2006-07-19 07:19:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would u want to change him, everyone in this world has some lil thing that annoys someone, u either love him for who he is and what he does or u don't. Just think of it as a special little trait that he has.
2006-07-19 07:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by lori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love the guy, you take the annoying parts and ignore them or accept them (which ever is easier for you). If you are still trying to change him, this relationship is bound to fail. People cannot be forced to change. One must change because they want to. Trying to make him change is likely to only make him angry and that will only further my point that the relationship will fail. If you are concerned with annoying little things, then you aren't truly into this relationship. If you can't accept his personality quirks, best start looking for someone who doesn't have them.
2006-07-19 07:16:50 · answer #6 · answered by Lanie Janie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not possible to change anyone but who you have control over, and that is yourself. Accept him as he is and know that anything you cannot get over is usually something in yourself you are projecting on to him as some issue he has. Would you like him to want to change every little irritating habit you have? And we ALL have him. If you want to be with him, be with him as he is. Don't ever try and change a person, they will only end up resenting you.
2006-07-19 07:12:17 · answer #7 · answered by In God's Image 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way, don't even try it. The only way that person will change is if he has the will to. If he doesn't want to change, then he won't. It's that simple. How would you feel if somebody tried to change you? Either accept the person for who he is, or end the relationship immediately.
2006-07-19 07:20:22 · answer #8 · answered by Green-Eyed Gal 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a man let me say"heelll no" just as we cannot change your ways,a good man (like myself) would do his best to be what his woman wants and needs,and what you are asking for is perfection and a woman will never find a perfect man as a man will never find a perfect woman,our little annoying things in both men and women are what make us individuals,he could be asking the same question on here about you right now,know what i mean
2006-07-19 07:16:38 · answer #9 · answered by cote8377 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and you should never try to change someone. Just remember the qualities that attracted you to him in the first place. How would you feel if your guy tried to change you?
2006-07-19 07:12:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how i feel about that. You dont get with a man to make him what YOU want him to be. Sounds to me that like you said he is close to everything that you want! Be happy with that! Its hard to find a guy even close to 1 thing that you like
2006-07-19 07:12:20 · answer #11 · answered by kristina N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋