Good Manners???

Question

Is it good to teach kids good manners??? I have a daugther of 5yrs I remember teaching her to say thank you, she didn't speak at that time but I knew she understood, and as she grow I started to teach her good manners. like no thank you , yes thank you & all the good manners & she learn little by little, now I have a boy who's 20 moths I he has learn some good things specially from his sister, he say thanky you in his own words, my hubby says he is too little to be learnig good manners but I don't agree with him.. I think It is better for their own good that way they will now how to respect other's.... U as a parent do you think it is okay for them to learn so little or do I have to wait more ....

Answer 1

My daughter is 21 months old and says "thank-you" when she is handed things, "bless-you" when someone sneezes, and says "hi" and "bye" to people all the time. We are still working on please but she prefers to say "this" and points instead (but we are working on it). Children are able to learn far beyond their ability to communicate so even though they may not be able to say the word, they will learn what is appropriate to say and do by being exposed to it, and will eventually mimic the behavior once they are able to.

Maybe your husband just feels that he does not need to be made or forced to learn manners yet (like waiting for him to say please if he wants something before you give it to him), but there is nothing wrong with encouraging him to have good manners.

Answer 2

It's definitely good to teach children manners because manners are all about being kind and considerate to other people, whether that means showing your gratitude by saying "thank you" or opening doors when somone needs a hand.

20 months is NOT too young to begin teaching the rudiments of good manners. I have a son age 3 and daughter age 24 months. She already says "please" whenever she wants something, she says "bless you, Mama!" when I sneeze and "thank you" almost always.

You always have to keep after them, and issue gentle reminders, but good manners should be like an ingrained habit....they should come naturally to children. The way to instill a habit is with repetition.

You're doing a great job!

Answer 3

It is never too early to teach children good manners. Just like everything else you teach them, they will absorb a little or a lot, but they will learn. So many young children these days have no manners at all. It is very distressing, as the world is getting crazier, people seem to care less about their fellow man. Manners are still one way in which we stay civilized.

Answer 4

I have 4 children ages: 6 years, 4years, 2 years, & 1 year. It is never too early to start teaching your children good manners. You do however have to keep in mind that they won't always use them until they get a little older. But even when they are really young if you encourage good manners AND set a good example yourself they will retain that information. So then when they do get to the age that they will use the good manners it will kinda come to them naturally. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think the younger they learn manners the better. My 7 yr olds first words besides mama and dada were thank you... of course it sounded more like tank you. Everytime he brought me a toy or anything, I said thank you to him, he very quickly at one year old learn the meaning behind the words thank you. I fully intend on teaching my 3 month old daughter the same concepts. My son now at 7 years old will even open doors for other people. I don't know many kids in our area that will do that for others.

Answer 6

Children live what they learn and it sounds like you are doing a good job. As a mother of three kids myself, I know that when you start teaching them things, like manners, at a young age, they might not understand at first but they will as they grow. Keep up the good parenting!

Answer 7

I taught my kids their manners as soon at they could talk, so around 12 - 18 months. They are 2 and 5 now and I get compliments every where that I go on my kids behaviour and manners. I would not expect him to use his manners all the time, but there is no harm in reminding him when to use certain words and model that behaviour yourself :)

Answer 8

yes it is a very good idea to teach manners to the young. That way there might not be as many drive bys as there are'
If you concider what the other people think and how they react to you then good manners are right and just.
Just keep a loaded gun handy.

Answer 9

I think it will confuse him. At 20 months he's barely learning how to say "yes" and "no" and it will be harder for him to learn "yes, thank you" and "no, thank you". For now just stick with yes and no. As for saying thank you when you give him something don't make him say thank you after every little thing. Just a few times a day ask him to say thank you before you give him something and he should have it down for when he's older.

Answer 10

okay first it's GREAT to teach children good manners, but you cant expect a 20 month old to say No thank you, or yes thank you. But as long as you are saying to them, they will be learning and understanding. my 18 month old can say thank you and he says it when we give him something. so they learn just don't presser them into saying it.