but i caught him ...he was online appearing offline to me ...n when i send him msgs he immediately closed the messenger....he never rings me up! that's only i who keeps on calling him.....i love him and don't wanna loose him at any cost njust can't afford losing him....he means the world to me...i can't even question him that why he is lieing to me....but when it come the matter of sex he is always ready for sex......i don't know what i mean to him but he means the world to me.....what should i do to live a strong trustful, lovely relationship with him??? i don't wanna break up with him!!
2006-07-19 06:55:31 · 35 answers · asked by tania 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweet heart its only but so much what a guy can do to you, and the way you sound he have done alot to you. If a guy is going through so much trouble trying to avoid you hello he is just not that in to you. Its sad to say it but its the truth. I know you love him way more then what you could have imagined, but it is time to let go. ( easier said then done I know) Look at this way would you want a guy in which you have to wonder wether or not if he love you? or would you want to be with some one who shows he Love's you under all circumstance? It's not that much love in the world for you or anybody else to be treated the way he treats you. Trust me I've been in the same position you are in and I'll tell you it hurts to death,but i stayed true to myself and did what i had to do. I kept myself occupied and opened up many doors to other guys, and i'll tell you i couldn't be more happier. I know that it may take some time but ask yourself. Dose he love me? am I happy to be with him? and if you have to think about it sister then you should be on your way out the door. Much love and Good luck!
2006-07-22 03:14:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you kidding me? How old are you? I'm not usually this harsh with people, because I realize we all need advice from time to time but come on. "You don't want to lose him at any cost". Sweetheart you don't HAVE him. All you are to him is a booty call. He only wants you for sex and only when HE wants it. IF he's hiding from you on line and not calling you and you are doing all the calling, he doesn't want you.
Do yourself a favor and save your pretty because he doesn't want it. Move on and keep you head up. You seem like you have some emotional neediness issues that you have to deal with. You will keep repeating this same kind of one-sided, selfish relationship if you don't get yourself together. Spend time on you, on finding your own self worth. See counseling if you must, but right now you aren't capable of handling a relationship. I really don't mean to be harsh, perhaps you are just young, but seriously forget this guy and get yourself together.
Good luck.
2006-07-19 07:08:11 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ASk him if hes lying, If he says yes what about ,act clueless at first then say I caught you ,an ask him why he's doing that, but before that refuse to have sex or act like you don't want it you can take being ***** for at little while can't you? I'd say he'll get suspious an ask you whats going tell him, trust me not having sex with a guy they go crazy. find whats wrong, maybe he just using because the sex is good maybe he doesn't love you if so let go, unless you're ok with that find someone else if he's just using u.
2006-07-19 07:08:26 · answer #3 · answered by I like to no what guys think h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what hurts is letting go, but there you also have to think how unhappy you are not talking to him or even seeing him. i have been there and done that, it hurts like hell to let them go but now I have a better person that treats me right, that will listen anytime and talk to me anytime i need him. MOST NOT ALL men are always ready for sex, i would cut him off ~ that might sound mean, but let him know that how you might feel about your relationship is based on sex, girl you should let him go and he will find out how much you ment and how much you did for him. my ex still calls me after we have not been together for almost 2 yrs, but dont worry if you love him you will let him go and let him do what he thinks he needs to do in the world, then when it hits him he will see what he has missed out on. that will give you time to explore and find better as well. i wish you the best of luck!
2006-07-19 07:02:03 · answer #4 · answered by funandfaithful 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just baffles me how women can spell out for themselves reason after reason why its obvious they need leave a certain guy alone but, simply because they say they don't wanna lose him or love him dearly and they want to hold onto something that's not healthy.
Its obvious this guy doesn't care about you or isn't interested in you except for the sex. So, if you're naive enough to give up your body when he wants and go on allowing him to emotionally abuse you otherwise don't blame anyone but, yourself.
2006-07-19 07:01:21 · answer #5 · answered by oneluv66366 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you care too much about this *** but he does not want to be in this relationship. Confront him about this, no matter how scared you might be to do that. It has to be done. Tell him how much it bothers you and if he does not care about your feelings, leave him NOW! There are plenty of great guys who would love to have you as their girlfriends... All I am sayng is that you need not waste your energy and time on someone who does not want you be with you! Good luck girl!
2006-07-19 07:03:23 · answer #6 · answered by italian_princess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are being used. I think you need to confront him face to face, and if he cannot give you a straight answer as to why he's being so shady, then move on. It's not worth it to be hurt every time just because he likes sex but won't give you the time of day otherwise. You'd be better off, and you'll find someone who truly appreciates you.
2006-07-19 06:58:53 · answer #7 · answered by plcarnrike 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do no longer relocate until eventually you seek advice from him. stop calling him he would be relatively busy. no longer all men are liars they extraordinarily a drill sargent come on now you recognize it is various artwork and time.he will call you while he has unfastened time despite if that's over 2 weeks then provide him a decision and no answer then enable him be.yet I wager he will call, what guy will check along with his woman on an identical time as she is on holiday?
2016-10-08 02:27:06 · answer #8 · answered by vanderbilt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't wanna hear this but you need to. He is using you for sex. How long have you been together. How do you know you're the only one in his life? It's obvious that he only wants you for sex and nothing else. Now I could be wrong and I hope that I am, but you need to let him know that you know he is lying to you. And see his reaction. You could do much better and you deserve better than him,but it's your life not mine. Good Luck
2006-07-19 07:07:07 · answer #9 · answered by jess_brenda_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man who does not like talking to you, spending time with you, lies to you and the only thing he ever accepts doing with you is sex!
You should be smart enough to figure out your role in this relationship.
Lift yr chin up, shake that low self esteem off yrself and find another guy ASAP!
Then you can leave yr lousy bf.
2006-07-19 07:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋