We ended a 2yr relationship when I moved away from college. She is now with someone else but still calls me every now and again at random times. I never pick up because I feel like she f-ed me over. What is her motovation for calling me when she knows I'm still pissed at the situation. Is she trying to keep me around when her other relationship falls through. Or is she just wanting to be friends. Because I really have no desire to be friends with someone I once loved its too hard for me. Any advice? Talk to her? tell her again I don't like to talk to her? Don't pick up the phone?
2006-07-19 06:49:51 · 35 answers · asked by sackingsfan 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
XXXXXXXXXXXXX You are still her by your ex being your past relationship with her wasn't resolved. You need to talk to her seriously and get all your feeling on the table and make sure that when you hang up there is nothing more to be said. Good luck hun XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-19 06:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being that she messed the relationship up she is going through a guilty stage, for several reasons maybe, one can be that she isn't seeing your qualities in her current boyfriend and maybe finds herself comparing him to you. By doing so, she might be a little frustrated with the little things he does and that causes tension between them, when they fight she wants to be consoled, by you. Why, because she knows the feelings you had for her and she thinks if you loved her once you will love her again. That is one scenerio, another one might be that she might want to keep you "there" just like you said. That way if the time is right maybe just maybe yall can get back together. Her current bf probably doesn't go to college and if he does maybe he doesnt have any drive, and you do, that might make her think twice about their future.As far as picking up the phone..DON'T.... there is no reason why you need to talk to her. I am sure she is a normal person and a normal person understands the difference between right and wrong, I don't know what she did but whatever it was it was bad enough to break yall apart and I am sure she was well aware of the consequences. Now, she knows you had her on a pedestal...she wants that back. She is trying to get into a small corner of your life "just in case" don't fall for it. If you do, it is going to happen all over again. It's not worth it. When a person loves you they respect you. You deserve someone that will appreciate you and someone that will respect you and love you. Trust me, since you are in school now there are so many girls that have a future planned out and so you need someone that is well centered.
2006-07-19 07:04:32 · answer #2 · answered by Erika 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U better pick up the call once and tell her firmly that U further dont want to get her call anymore and just tell her that there is nothing to talk between U and her. Remember one thing, U dont make a call to her. U just pick up her call. b'coz this type of girls will blame others for all the cause.
As you feel it is right, she is trying to keep up with you when other relationship falls down... Surely, once if U've made it clear there'll be no problem. tell her strongly that U are not ready to hear anything from her and just inform not to make calls hereafter.
2006-07-19 07:08:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to say. I mean if you have been in a two year relationship people tend to move on at different rates. She might have trouble letting go and trying to hide it with dating someone else. She may also just want to apologize for what has happened. It is hard to say. It really is your call to talk to her or not. If you want to know what she wants, then pick up the phone next time she calls. If you don't care then don't pick it up. It seems that you are still hurt from what she did. Youo have to move on though and just let it go. People do stupid **** in there lives.
2006-07-19 06:59:30 · answer #4 · answered by talkshoe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will only know for sure when u ask her-- I can only speculate that she still cares and misses you and because she is the one that f*cked u over she feels sorry and may be regretful now- "you never know what u have until is gone" or until you're in a bad relationship!
Don't get me wrong she may just want to remain friends with you, especially if you were always good to her.... My advise to you will be to have a serious conversation w/ her and ask her the reasons for her sudden interest, if u feel comfortable enough to start a friendship w/ her then do if not then tell her to stay out of your life!
2006-07-19 07:00:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you will never know until u pick up the phone and talk to her yourself and ask these questions to her . To me it sounds like u still like or love her ! The true to the matter is if she was not willing to wait for you and is with another guy then best bet is to answer the phone get your answer from herself then forget about her !! Just remember if she did it once she will do it again . If not you will be a (dumken) what i mean is a yoo yoo for her you will come and go as she only pleases .
2006-07-19 07:09:33 · answer #6 · answered by regularge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to stop calling if you haven't healed from your breakup. She has no right to torture and/or tease you with random calls. You are a habit to her and she may not want to let go. Take the decision-making away from her and assert yourself. You say that she f-ed you over in the past, don't fall for the okie doke again. You do not owe her anything. You owe it to yourself not to submit yourself to her will again. You do not need to be her side kick when you once loved her hard. She should have recognized that you were a good man when she had you.
2006-07-19 06:56:41 · answer #7 · answered by intentionalmasterpiece 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband's ex fiance did that to him when we were dating. Yeah, she wants to keep you around as a backup when other relationships fail. She is playing head games with you. You have done well to not talk to her yet. Eventually though you may want to set things straight with her. Tell her you are moving on and she should do the same. Tell her it's been real, but not real fun. If she f-ed you over once, you don't want to go there again by getting back together.
2006-07-19 06:55:10 · answer #8 · answered by aprilc232 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your ex is calling you she wants one of two things: 1) She feels bad that your still pissed at your situation and wants to make up and maybe start to go out again. Or she is lonely and misses "the good old days" that she spent with you. I would answer the phone to talk to her. If you feel that she is up to no do just stop talking to her. But give her a chance to explain to you. It means the world to alot of girls!
2006-07-19 06:56:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She probably just wants to see how you are doing and what you are up to. I have had a couple of relationships were i ****** up, but still wanted to be in contact or friends with my exes. I think it is cool to be friends with your exes because it just goes to show that your a strong person. It also takes time for that. If u can't handle talking to her then don't. Do it when you want to. Also when you are ready to. You don't want to say something you might regret. Even worse you don't want to make a fool of your self. But I think you should talk to her when u are feeling well enough to. It might be cool. You just never know.
2006-07-19 07:01:09 · answer #10 · answered by Elissa D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One time pick up tell her not to call and hang up. Do not let her say a thing. Then go back to not answering the phone ,change your number or block her calls sooner or later she will give up. I agree she is trying to hang on in case the new love dose not work out.
2006-07-19 07:00:12 · answer #11 · answered by usserydog 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋