Ok, I copied this question but I'd Iike to know too. This guy has 50% custody of kids for 5years now, debt free, no problems with ex spouse, good steady employment.
2006-07-19 06:48:27 · 13 answers · asked by fortuitousoppty 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
No problem. If the connection is there and I want to date this man then him having kids doesn't deter me at all. I think it's rather admirable for a man to take his responsibilities seriously and look after his children.
My children have a deadbeat father so I value a father who is active in his childrens life.
2006-07-19 06:56:59 · answer #1 · answered by Cheryl K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a deal breaker @ all. I mean C'mon how many people do U know @ Ur age that DOESN'T have an ex with kids.
It's a part of life. Sure it adds complication but if the person is worth it who cares.
I have a bf that is divorced and has FULL custody of his 2 kids and I like him even more for that fact alone. He stepped up to the plate and handled his responsibilites. Thats Fantastic.
So if a woman is really interested in U she will except that a relationship with U could pose a challenge but C'mon as a woman I will tell U "WOMEN LUV A CHALLENGE".!!!!
Good Luck too ya......She's out there.!!!
2006-07-19 06:58:33 · answer #2 · answered by HeartsOnFire 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She would be blessed. My husband had joint custody (every other week) of his four children with no child support or alimony or hard feelings with ex. He was 33 and I was 22 when we got married. We now have 2 more children, and I could not be more blessed. I am a stay at home mom to OUR children, and actually fell in love with his kids first. His ex and I have good relationship, we talk almost daily about who has doctor apts, birthday parties, or a break up. Just make sure anyone coming into the relationship knows the kids are most important and you are a package deal, and they will respect you for it. Once you are married though, you and the new wife are joint cheifs of staff, and the kids have to know you support her decisions when you are not home. We have been married six years, and I can honestly say I love all my kids the same, they are my "First" kids, not my "Step" kids, and they know that I love them 100 percent. Your ex will have a few problems with another woman raising her kids, but if you marry a woman of integrity, your ex will be grateful and grow to appreciate her. Hope that helps.
2006-07-19 06:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by Jessi B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends where a woman is at in her life I suppose. Personally, being 23, a divorced man with 3 kids is a definate deal breaker. Even one child is a deal breaker.
2006-07-19 06:57:05 · answer #4 · answered by ms mystery 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a deal breaker at all. I prefer to date a man that already has kids. Being debt-free and no problems with the ex are bonuses. Shows respondibility and maturity.
2006-07-19 06:53:36 · answer #5 · answered by Andi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a big time deal breaker! I've got one kid myself and would like to have another one at some point. But I'm not interested in having a basketball team. I'd probably go out for fun, but this one would never get serious.
And don't start slamming me because I'm honest.
2006-07-19 07:10:12 · answer #6 · answered by HappyGirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a deal breaker at all. I 'm a single mothe and i feel your pain. some people are cut out for kids some are not. I would not be freaked out by that at all.
2006-07-19 06:59:45 · answer #7 · answered by SWEETCAITY 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wager its no longer a huge deal if thats what u say he's like I only couldn't bypass with a guy that has had youthful ones, youthful ones are beautiful yet meaning he's connected to a distinct woman in a roundabout way thats only me
2016-10-14 23:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not a deal breaker. If hes a good person and dependable and good father.
2006-07-19 06:53:39 · answer #9 · answered by bree30 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im not tryin to be mean or anythin, but my thing to guys that they cant b divorced or married or have kids.
i wanna single guy that would have no problems with his status. i mean i would never want to come in contact wit my boyfriends kids. its just me.
i mean there r women that dont care if a guy has kids or somethin, but naw im not one of em. have fun! and wish u the best!
2006-07-19 10:31:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋