Okay, I went out with this guy 2 years ago for 2 years, but I was a chort fuse, and made him sad all the time. I didn't realize I was, b/c of the meds I was on. I left him b/c I couldn't make him happy and he thinks I bashed his mailbox which I didn't, and drew obsenities on his car in class chalk. they were cartoons, I thought they were hilarious but he didn't see it that way. I took him to NYC after we broke up, and spent a total of $1000 on him. I even let him do me in the bum, which is my no-no zone. But he doesn't want to have anything to do with me, and I realized what I've done 2 years later and I want to at least be friends with him but he laughs at me behind my back. I can't go home from work without driving by his house, I would wait 2 hours in the rain just to see him walk from class to his car, just to see him. I've tried not doing it, but it's like going without a cigarette, I CAN'T!!! It drives me insane, I can't eat or sleep anymore, I'd be happy even if he yelled. help!
2006-07-19 06:45:33 · 18 answers · asked by thebobguything 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
sorry I ran out of room and time on my break. The reason I'm asking this is because I realize that this is a potentially dangerous situation in which I get slapped with a restraining order. I'm not one of those idiots who insists they're in love and nothing else matters. I DON'T WANT TO BE LIKE THIS ANYMORE. It hurts, even when I satisfy it for the moment it hurts and I get panic attacks. blagh. Anyway, your help is much appreciated.
2006-07-19 10:45:20 · update #1
And no, I'm not on drugs, I'm a school teacher for christ's sake! I teach 3 yr olds of course I'm not going to take drugs!!! I'm a chain smoking borderline alcoholic. lol
2006-07-19 10:46:44 · update #2
I've told him everything i did wrong in the relationship and explained why and apologized over and over and asked if we could be friends, and he said that we were two different ppl now and this being friends thing "just isn't going to happen". I gave him money when he thought i bashed his mail box(which I didn't)! I just don't understand it... he's hurt me and made me cry as many times as i had done to him, if not more. Why is he still so hateful?
2006-07-19 11:41:40 · update #3
Whoa. You need more help than any Yahoo! Answers member can give you. You need help of the professional kind. I have included some links below that may lead you to the help you so desperately seek/need. Just remember stalking and violent acts can definitely land you in the place you wrote you didn't want to be. Please seek help immediately!
Guide to Affiliates in your area:
http://www.nmha.org/affiliates/directory/index.cfm
http://www.emergencypsychiatry.org/
Other helpful links:
http://www.who.int/mental_health/en/
http://www.mentalhealth.com/
http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/mentalhealth.html
http://www.mentalhelp.net/
http://www.nimh.nih.gov/
http://www.nmha.org/
2006-07-19 06:56:27 · answer #1 · answered by kcsilverlining77 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar question on this before. I realize now since everything is said and done that if they don't want to be with you, then your wasting your time.
You should just talk with him and tell him how you feel and what you think about him talking about you behind your back. If he cares then he will come around and if not then so be it, he's not worth your tears.
2006-07-19 13:51:17 · answer #2 · answered by WantToGoHome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is alot going on here, and Yahoo answers does not have all the answers this time. You need some help, some professional help. You need to let this man move on with his life, and you need to get help to move on with yours. Life doesn't have to be this hard. You have some problems that you need to work through- you're obsessing over him, you're invading his personal life, and you're vandalising his property. You'll likely find that when you seek help, you can move on, and both of you can be happier...
2006-07-19 13:54:02 · answer #3 · answered by Liza T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are describing is obsessive and stalking behaviour. The stocking could land you up in jail for sure if it escalates. It is probably about time for you to see a psychiatrist to get some help.
2006-07-19 13:51:47 · answer #4 · answered by Kenneth H 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something else to do. Like go on a trip somewhere far from him and move away. If he really doesn't want to be with then he's not worth it. But you have go get help from a docter.
2006-07-19 14:19:25 · answer #5 · answered by maxie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next Time Don't Commit The Crime, Cause You Will Do The Time!!!!!!!!!!!! Find A New Quack or Better Yet Find Jesus!!!!!!!!!
2006-07-19 13:49:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is everything in the world you can to get over this guy. Please honey, move on with your life and look for someone else. You'll be so glad you did.
2006-07-19 13:51:35 · answer #7 · answered by Mike M. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why would you want him after he used you? its better that he wants nothing to do with you, this way ou can cut the cord more easily, just find a new guy or whatever to take him of your mind, and this time don't get used!
2006-07-19 13:51:07 · answer #8 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
help . . . . . . help . . . . You got some serious problems baby! You need to check yourself into a program & get some help. Forget about your man & take care of yourself. It sounds to me like you got a meth or coke problem lying behind this...
2006-07-19 13:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to accept that this isn't going to work, and get over it. The harder he sees you try, the more he's going to push you away. all the best.
2006-07-19 13:51:01 · answer #10 · answered by mizzsquitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋