I was with my x-boyfriend for about a year. We currently still live togethor and do some of the things couples still do but there is a lot of things that we dont do. Lately e has been having bad attitudes towards me and is secretive. Sometimes he doesnt want me to be where he is at because he feels that i am watching him. He has been staying down the appertments at his friends alot to hang out until early in the morning and now he dont kiss me as much or anything else. He said that he dont want to rush back into things towards us getting back into a relationship. I am really starting to wonder about him cheating and I am really starting to get lonely. What should I do?
2006-07-19 06:42:51 · 4 answers · asked by Sonya 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is obvious your "x" has moved on. Perhaps it is time for you to move on also.
2006-07-19 06:46:43 · answer #1 · answered by imnotbtami 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What has happened here is that the boundaries have been blurred. When you broke up you continued to "live togethor and do some of the things couples still do but there is a lot of things that we dont do", so now you don't know where you stand.
The easy way to fix this is to establish this is to stop being physically intimate with him. This way when he asks why you don't want to kiss him or whatever you can say, "well we're broken up and if you want to continue you need to get back together with me". Let's see how slow he REALLY wants to take it getting back together with you.
One of two things will happen.
1. He will want to get back together with you.
2. He will realise the free ride is over and you will find out what's going on.
Either way you will be better off knowing.
Then if he wants to get back together with you, you will be able to make him commit and be more open with what is going on in his life. If not well he won't be getting anything (physically) from you anymore so you'll just find out, (unfortunately maybe the hard way but still..)
In the end you have to put your foot down!!! You have to tell him either I want you to get back together with me or we can break it off COMPLETELY and until then HANDS OFF. You can't go on like this.
For better or worse I hope it works out for you
Take care.
2006-07-19 07:09:45 · answer #2 · answered by Ben R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He likes your security but it sounds like he found himself another person to be with. espically when he starts getting secretive
2006-07-19 06:57:40 · answer #3 · answered by dtammyus♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love myselfFucker
2006-07-19 06:47:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋