Why do "some" but "not" all Hispanic families show very little consideration for their neighbors?

Question

My wife and I have been living in apartments for the 5 years since we've been married, we've had very lousy neighbors off and on. most to all being of Hispanic orientation.

They blast their Mexican Polka music with base all the way up any hours, day or night. They let their kids roam freely around the apartments with very little to no supervision at all. We have seen thier kids letting off fire crackers in the hall ways. Playing around the Dumpsters, kids as young as 3-4 years old riding their bikes and walking in the middle of the street not paying attention.

Not paying attention to their younger ones because our door has been opened or attempted to be opened on many occassions. Recently found out that we were having roach problems because our neighbors weren't being very clean in their own place next to us, the roach inspector said they had em everywhere and they were coming through the walls. We keep our place pretty clean too.

just wish some people were more considerate

actually the neighborhood we live in is very nice compared to where we used to live. And if some of you read my original post. I had nothing racist to say. It's just that I noticed a majority of the rude and inconsiderate people we have come across have been hispanic.

I agree that there are White and black rude people as well, but the complaints aren't nearly half as bad as the ones that come from hispanic families. I know a lot of Hispanics that are clean hard workers, but there is a laziness about them I will never understand.

I don't think family size has much to do with how you raise your kids either. It has to do with upbringing and lack of understanding of how to raise kids in an ethical manner.

So it really isn't fare that some of you got pissed off and assumed this was a racist comment right off the bat without thinking about the question first.

Answer 1

Thank you for asking this! I was thinking the same thing myself, and have for quite some time. I live in San Antonio, Texas, and I also have hispanic neighbors (who just moved out yesterday as a matter of fact) and they had a big screen tv with surround sound and my apartment complex is old (built back in the 60's) so there is no real good insulation or sound proofing between the walls and they would BLAST tejano music on the tv at 2 in the morning, let their kids run around with no supervision, and yes, I've had pretty much the same experience as you have.
I'm orginally a midwesterner (from Illinois) and I'm not racist or anything by any means. I have gay friends, hispanic friends, straight friends, black friends, white friends, disabled friends, and I've worked with the mentally challenged, so please dont' call me a racist or a bigot. But I DO take into consideration what I see as a general consensus of groups of people around me.
I told one of my friends back in Illinois, I was like "what happened to the idea of the "good ol' Southern hospitality?" and she was like "what do you mean"? And I told her, ever since coming to San Antonio, it seems I run into the RUDEST people, and I'm sorry, but most of them are hispanics. They seem only concerned for themselves and their family, and have no regards for anyone else's feelings and they do not teach proper manners. I have had children stare at me, and when I look at them their parents look at ME like "why are you looking at my kid like that?" and I tell the parents "maybe because their parents didnt' teach them it was impolite to stare". I've had experiences in grocery stores where the hispanics will park a cart on BOTH sides of the aisle and carry on a conversation with another hispanic friend or family member and block everyone's path and KEEP TALKING! Like they don't even SEE you. I've been cut off NUMEROUS times, and have had people butt in line in front of me. And I'm sorry, maybe it's a San Antonio thing, but they've ALL been hispanics.
But they get PISSED when you're rude to them, or say something to their children or get confrontational with one of their family members.

Answer 2

I'm sorry for your woes, but I don't think adding the word "some" to the question makes it not racist anymore. You can have lousy neighbours of any kind, you just happen to be next to all Hispanics. Yes, some of it could boil down to a culture clash but you can't write down everything you hate about your neighbours and pin it on race. That will only breed racism. Try being more open minded and make friends with some of your neighbours, traditional US culture tends to be a little on the uptight side. Maybe they come from a trusting area and go by the notion of "the village raises the child" which isn't that horrible of an idea. If you feel like you truly don't fit in, move to another area. And btw, you can still get cockroaches even if you keep your apt pretty clean (as you've apparently found out) so whether your neighbours are slobs or not I don't know, but they could've gotten them the same way. There are sh*tloads of non-Hispanic slobs, I don't think you can deny that. Try relaxing about some of the things, if everyone was exactly like you the world would be a boring place wouldn't it?

Answer 3

I think your problem is just the type of people moving in by you and not their ethnicity. I live in a townhouse with my husband and 3 children. We have been in this complex for going on 3 years. We have had lousy neighbors as well. The neighbors to our left crank their music up as well till all hours of the night. Run up and down their stairway which we can hear all the time. The neighbors across the street from us allow their children to run free as you mentioned as well and I often see them running around looking for them because they haven't paid attention to where they were at...these are kids that are all under 5. None of these neighbors are Hispanic. It's just like everything else...there are good parents, bad parents, careless parents....good neighbors, bad neighbors and careless ones as well. You still wouldn't appreciate their behavior if they were white, right? Or African American? Chinese? The real question should be why are so many people in general lousy neighbors?! If you are going to live in a community, like an apartment building, then you should understand that you need to respect all of those living around you as well as yourself and your property.

Answer 4

Oh please...I'll bet that I know many hispanic couples that live in a nicer place than you! Get out of the ghetto if you don't like your neighbors. While I agree that ALL races have their "Trash", you just happen to live in the "Hispanic" trash area. Thats too bad and you should move to a better neighborhood.

Hmmmm, but then you might have to deal with the white or asian kids racing their BMW's up and down your street, or your neighbors pot-head kids smoking dope. Or you'll have to clean up doggy poop from your pretentious neighbors poodle!

Either way, the point I'm trying to make is that one race is not any better than the other. They ALL have their faults!

Answer 5

I don't think this is a particularly Hispanic problem, although that is what your experience has been. You don't say where you live, so I can't give you any specifics, but there may be an organisation that could help to intervene. Many Hispanics are Catholic, so you might ask the local priest to visit them. I'd suggest you go visit them to make friends, but I am afraid that if I were in your shoes, that would be totally inappropriate. So try the route of churches, charities, and even our dear government, if there's any social services left.

I wish people were more considerate, too, I am really trying hard not to shoot the neighbours behind me - its techno-rock, but, really, does it have to be that loud? And we are all Caucasians.

Answer 6

I think some people (like this person who commented right after the post) live with rose colored glasses on. It is not racist to recognize a behavior that seems to exist with a certain group. I will attempt to choose my words carefully but I believe there are people that wait to pounce on anyone with something negative to say like the right to lifers rallying to defend a death row inmate who's killed several people without remorse. I too have neighbors of simingly Hispanic decent with all of the behaviors displayed that you've encountered. I live in an HOA one way in and one way out community that I as the father of a newborn baby girl and someone who had grown up in a dangerous urban environment am glad to call home. Yet we are disturbed by these neighbors who are the only disruption in our neighborhood as well as the tenants that seem to live in the basement and come home when there is little to no people to see them come and go. I will finish in my next response.

Answer 7

Because in hispanic countries people arent as anal as they are here. they dont call the cops when someone has a party. Also the roach thing does not depend on your neighbors, in apartments roaches move in and never leave. They spray for them and they move to another apartment. It does not mean that they are dirtier than you. Roaches grow an amunity to the spray sometimes too. There will always be people that get on your nerves in an apartment. My suggestion is that you dont blame it on one nationality and just buy a house.

Answer 8

How much do you pay for rent? You get what you pay for! You need to double what you are now paying and move.

As for Hispanics showing little consideration:

They are so happy to be on this side of the border that little else matters to them, weather legal or illegal.

They bring their culture here and don't adapt. Loud music large families and a sense of entitlement. It doesn't help that the government goes out of its way to make special consideration for them, by providing free health care, grants, welfare, laws and what not!

My husband and I nearly pay $2,000 a month for rent and we have no problems like the one's you mention. Our apartment building has regulations and rules that everyone must follow.

They don't care and have no values, manners or respect and bring their own problems here. This is how they turn nice neighborhoods bad.

Answer 9

When I was a teenager,I lived in low income housing with my newly divorced mom.I remember her always complaining about our Spanish neighbors being rude and inconsiderate.I always thought she was just being racist.Now that I am an adult and have my own children,I,ve noticed exactly what you and my mother were saying.How rude and inconsiderate can people be?I've especially noticed this at the beach. I refuse to take my family to well "populated"beaches because of this .I guess politeness and respect are only important to some people.

Answer 10

I'm sorry you've had such terrible neighbors.

I live in the Southwest, and have had many Mexican families as neighbors. Most have been very nice, took good care of their children, did not play loud music between the hours of 10PM and 7AM, and did not have any roaches.

I am of European descent, and the last neighbors I had (also of European descent) were just awful. They would be up and roaming around at all hours, throw trash from their yard into mine, knock on my door at midnight and beyond, smoked their pot in front of my open window (don't need it in my house).

Answer 11

Do you honestly think all most hispanics are like that. Thats like me saying most white people are racist idiots. Which would be basically true because of where I live, Southeast Ga. Yet that does not mean that most white people everywhere are that stupid and racist. Your surroundings dont determine a majority of anybody let alone hispanics. Your kinda slow.