i need help asap!!!?

Question

ok Im 12 and live at home with my mom and dad, my mom got laid off a year ago went 2 school for medical coding and finishes that. Now she is looking for a job. She has turned in at lest 50 resumes. But my dad is sayin that she aint tryin and when he comes home he upset and u cant even get around him with him bittin ur head off. He has Never likes my moms brother sister none of my moms family. When they call or comeover hell snurl his nose. what can I do to try to get him to stop yellin at everybody adn start liking my moms family?

Answer 1

honestly there really isnt anything you can do, thats him and your moms problem, if I were you, from personal experience, dont try to get in the middle bc you might either make it worse somehow or find out things you dont want to know. so just hang in there, I am thinking alot of his attitude is bc he is so stressed about that fact that your mom hasnt been able to find a job yet and he is the only one that is bringing in the $$.

Answer 2

You're only 12, so what you can do is VERY LIMITED.
Here's a suggestion. Wait until your Dad is alone or make a way to be alone with him and then explain to him without getting upset exactly what you are feeling. Ask him questions tell him what you think. Be open, honest and straight up with him. If he yells and pulls rank on you and doesn't want to talk about it, then just accept that for now, and try again later.
Your Dad has to work out whatever issues he has from within. You are his daughter and thus you can influence him but only so much. Your Mom & Dad have to work out their issues together again your influence is minimal. It's tough being a 12 year old in any case but when the family is suffering through a financial crisis and the daily grind of life in general being a 12 year old can be scary and confusing.
Just remember to not be afraid to talk to your parents. Let them know exactly how you feel. Don't be afraid.
If either parent becomes abusive call the authorities. (911)
It doesn't sound like that's what's going on, this sounds more like a set of circumstances that your Dad is having a hard time dealing with so he's blowing off steam and your Mom is catching the brunt and you're getting caught in the crossfire.
Good Luck!

Answer 3

well you really cant do anything. thats just how grown ups are most of the time. do you know whats bothering him other than family people usually have a reason to be upset all the time like financial problems or other things im sure it's not family only because your mom has alway had fam.
if it's something about ur moms job. try going to a job agency and they will look for a job that suit her qualities. or spend all day online and post resumes to the public like in monster.com or yahoo.hotjobs.com good luck hun!!!!

Answer 4

before you can fix that you have to think about somethings
is there sometimes when he's calm when you can talk to him?
do you know your mom's side of the story?
their might be some part of the tory you dont know

Try talking to your mom and get information
maybe there's something that you dont know about


then try talking to your dad if you can

i cant really give you a direct answer because i dont know what kind of person he is


good luck

i know exactly what youre going through b/c my dad is like that
exept that he curses at what i do also

again good luck

Answer 5

the problem i see here... is first of all.. ur dad doesnt take the time to appreciate ur mom...
dont let him bring ur hopes down... ur mom was willing enough to go back and earn that degree!! that is a huge thing honey!!

u shud try and make ur dad feel that too...

well 1st make him realise he isnt always the boss around here...
2nd .. give less ear to his cusses or any blank phrases he uses... 3rd help out with your mom.. appreciate her!!

4th hope for the best... ur mom will get a job...!

5th..its ur family ... ur a peice that can bring them togehter!!


last but not least.... ur bright!! ur only `12....and u have tons of potential kid!!


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Answer 6

I would encourage your mom to find work in another field. If she's put out 50 resumes and gotten nothing in return, then she needs to just get out there and get a job... any job. Stay out of dad's way. Your mom picked him, she's known how he is and she needs to deal with him, not you. Hang in there! I know it's hard living in a war zone like that. (((((hugs))))))

Answer 7

hey me and u have alot in common. im 12 too and im going through the exact thing well try to talk to ur dad and ask what his problem is maybe he is just stressed out there is no reason that he shold be taking it out on his family including u espesialy if it dosent have any thing to with u. hola at me
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Answer 8

you cant get him to like your moms family, just tolerate, I am soon to be married and I cant stand my fiances family.

As far as him not biting everyones head off, clean the house, make dinner, and try to reduce stressers (for example you moms family).
Suggest money saving ideas, this is probably why he is angry all the time, remember your mom went to school, spent money on school and now kind of has nothing to show for it if she hasnt found a job.
--Switch to flourescent light bulbs=uses 75% less electricity per light bulb
--Hand dry your dishes, tons of electricity used to use the dishwashers dryer
--save water by lathering in the shower, turning off the water, then rinsing after you finish scrubbing
--stick an empty gallon of milk in your toilet tank to save a gallon of water each time you flush.--does it really take four gallons of water to wash out 8 ounces of pee?
--use fans and raise the temp on the AC (during summer)
--ride the bus to school or get a ride to save on gas.
--Help your mom find a job
---has she tried Monster.com?

Answer 9

I believe nothing why does he hate them so? What happen either while you were younger or before you came that makes him dislike them so. I found family carry history and it's not always great. Talk to your dad and let him know your thoughts maybe he will adjust for you maybe not just be prepared for whatever comes.

Answer 10

well sounds to me like he has an anger problem. there is nothing you can do about him not liking your moms family but to get him to stop yelling voice your opinion and tell him how you feel, don't yell at him just tell him how it makes you feel when he does yell at you and your mom, he needs to understand that a job just won't come in the snap of a finger