im in love with my ex-boyfriend and we want to get back together but the thing is that i found out that he was messin around with one of my best friends and so now me and her are in a fight. i love him soo much tho and i just dont think i can tell him. what should i do? can ne one give me some helpful advice?
2006-07-19 06:35:40 · 9 answers · asked by :SAlways_Confused:S 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I've been in your situation before. First make things right between your best friend, first thing. Make sure she understands the way you feel an let her express what she feels for him, Does she love him to?Or is it just a fling? If she loves him then let her make the choice. Between you an him whether she wants to lose you or him an see for sure that she loves him. But if she doesn't, go for it, it'll be hard of letting go with what was going on between them but if he loves you the way you love him that shouldn't be a problem you'll both move past it. But if he does not love you, an he's after your best friend instead you have to let go because you wouldn't want to lose her to along with the love of your life. Would you? An if they were just follin around an she doesn't like him an he doesn't like her then what are you waiting for, tell him how you feel. But before all this when you explain to your best friend let her know your intrests are in him an her both an you don't want to let a guy get or rouine your friend ship. well good luck sister I've been in this mess to an i feel your pain, Not FUN but get it over with. I 'm still with that guy an still best friends with her. Goodluck.
2006-07-19 06:54:30 · answer #1 · answered by I like to no what guys think h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has been messing around with a (used to be) best friend or he is messing around with her?
As for her if she was really one of your best friends, you need some new friends because she should have taken your feeling into account even if you and your ex are broken up your emotions aren't.
As for him if he does love you he should have told you. You 2 were broken up but he knows this is something that could cause a rift in the relationship which is probably why he is avoiding it. I would talk to him about it. Only you know if you can trust him again.
If he was cheating while you were together you need to forget about him. He knew you would probably find out and didn't care.
2006-07-19 06:43:49 · answer #2 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Taking him back after he has disrespected you with you BEST friend is sending him the message that it's okay to cheat because you will take him back no matter what. You so-called best friend has also disrespected you in the worst way. You can choose either one, but isn't loyalty a part of any relationship? How can you trust either of them again. I personally believe you will be setting yourself up for another let down. I would reevaluate both relationships and probably replace them both!
2006-07-19 06:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he is a real man he shouldnt have cheated on you with your BEST FRIEND that is the biggest NO NO and if you take him back he is going to make sure he cheats on you again WHY do you ask? because you made it to easy for him to come back forget about that loser he is no good he will never change cheaters never do if you ready to put your life into the hands of a man who will sleep with anyone your dumb there is a thing called AIDS out there and it will come to find you....never put up with a man that doesnt have the respect for you that you need....do let me treat you that way....love you can always find that with someone else men are a dime a dozen girl.....your better than that
2006-07-19 06:41:31 · answer #4 · answered by barbie c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FIRST: Lets come to reality, ask yourself why do you want to get back together.
SECOND: If YOU really loved him he ACTUALLY wouldn't be your X.
THIRD: If you have to ask yourself "if he really LOVES you?" then he DOESN'T, you should know it and he should show it.
2006-07-19 06:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by itmmotif88 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget about em both! They're not worth it...sorry but he doesn't love you if he did it once and he'll probably just do it again!!!
2006-07-19 06:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which one do you want to lose? Choose the other.
2006-07-19 06:37:28 · answer #7 · answered by Phil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him. you have nothing to lose.
if he is mature enough he will realize what he means to you.
if not then maybe you shouldnt be with him.
2006-07-19 06:38:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i love him and he choose me...
things become easy =)
2006-07-19 06:45:08 · answer #9 · answered by Rowdyruff 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋