l get anxiety attacks at the slightest thing some days, most days at the mo. And l really do have no one to talk to. l am more likely to recieve a punch than a cuddle from those who say they care about me. l am generally a calm person whos only talent is looking after people who are not very nice to me. l am not whinging but dont know where to begin to break this vicious cycle of neglect and abuse l have trapped myself in.
2006-07-19 06:08:22 · 22 answers · asked by elecheartco 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I think the fact you have stated your problems on here is a sign of you taking the first step on the road to where you want to be.
What you now need to do is take it slowly, give yourself aims and acheive them one at a time but make these aims ones that you will always acheive because this will lead to yourself becoming more confident.
Aim to high and fail and your anxiety will increase.
It is all about making tiny positive steps and then improving from there.
Good luck
2006-07-19 06:11:21 · answer #1 · answered by Alistair B 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anxiety attacks are common. They are caused by stress. If you reduce your stress the attacks will become less frequent.
To do this, you have to understand your 'processes' . What patterns of behaviour you have. Why you are living a 'losing' life script instead of living a 'winning' script.
People living a losing script blame others for their difficulties. Refuse to accept responsibilty for their actions and choices and continue to act in the same way and get the same results.
You are resentful for what you see as people not being grateful for the things you do for them.
This is a process that can be called 'people pleasing' or 'compulsive helping' where you ultimatlely become resentful towards people you think you are helping. People on the receiving end of CH do not appreciate it either as they perceive this as controlling and manipulative which it is because you want people to be in your debt.
CH can be challanged by accepting yourself as worthwhile for your own sake and not for the things you do.
Having humility for accepting your are not in control and are powerless over people, places and things.
Alcoholism can be seen as playing the game called 'suicide'. Please do not play this game for keeps.
Be strong now and get some help. Winners know when to ask for help and do it. You have taken an important step already, well done it took some courage.
Some books that might help.
Born to Win, Counselling For Toads, The Road Less Travelled, also look on the Hazleden website.
Wish you luck.
you can email if you like.
2006-07-19 07:41:34 · answer #2 · answered by danie100uk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 23:16:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a lot of anonoymous phone lines in all countries for this type of thing - I realise it's not idea, but it can be easier to talk to someone you don't know, and get it off your chest - maybe you could try an AA meeting for your the drink abuse as well? At least you realise there's a severe problem, and that's very much the road to recovery, so be optimistic, and don't give up!
2006-07-19 06:12:06 · answer #4 · answered by lagunium 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do think counselling would help. Try your G.P. for a referral, but there will almost certainly be a waiting list. Or you could try www.bacp.co.uk to find a counsellor in your area, but it can be expensive. It is important to realise that what other people say about you is not the truth, that you are a valued human being with as much right to love and respect as the next person. Hang in there.
2006-07-19 09:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by Jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get the alcohol out of your life first. Nothing (and I mean NOTHING) will get better while you are drinking--in fact it will all get worse. Alcohol is making you feel the way you do right now. Alcohol is making you FEEL that no one cares about you. Alcohol is giving you the low self-esteem. The good thing is that you know YOU have trapped yourself in this. But there is a way to get out. Contact your local AA Intergroup. You don't ever have to drink again and you don't have to do it alone.
http://www.aa.org/en_find_meeting.cfm
Good luck.
2006-07-19 06:21:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all take a good look at yourself from the outside. You see someone like you - with low self esteem, depression and alcohol dependancy problems. Then when looking from outside, you say to yourself that is not what I want to be everytime I look at him. When you realise what you are saying about the person you are looking at from outside, an inner voice will tell you then don't be like that person you are now looking at. Presto, you suddenly want to disassociate yourself from such person. You want to be the opposite. Having read this far, you would have realise that the power is in yourself to be what you want to be. Wish you luck.
2006-07-19 06:17:05 · answer #7 · answered by flintstone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the same crap too. I seem to of had issues with anxiety since I was a child. Depending on the moment or situation is how it fluctuates. What has helped with me is, being able to rationalize the situation. Its difficult, yes, will you get use to it, yes, figure out what is worth being anxious about and set it aside, take what you know is getting in the way of what you set aside and rummage through it then.
2006-07-19 06:11:55 · answer #8 · answered by default 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Drink more coffee for the depression. As far as the other problems, figure out what you are running from, and why you have self esteem problems and think about ways to overcome them.
2006-07-19 06:14:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
from one who knows what it feels like, i advise you to go to a proffesional such as a therapist. it has helped me a lot just being able to talk about things in a safe environment. i think this is the best way for you to go forward and try not to be afraid, i know its hard but its worth it in the end. Good Luck
2006-07-19 06:21:42 · answer #10 · answered by prizzma 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋