which one should I choose, help me?

Question

i have a boyfriend that I really care about, but he is a trouble maker, he is in Jail, for breaking in people's houses and he doesnt have a job and he do drugs, so he is a no no, right??? but I really care about him and i go to the jail to visit him everyweekend, and last weekend I went to the club and I met this new guy, who is very handsome, he works, and he doesnt do drugs and he treats me like a Queen. so I am like in between them 2, and i dont know what to do, of course I should do whats best for me but how do I know whats best for me, i really dont wanna leave neither one...help me

Answer 1

I know it sound selfish but think about you and your future. Do you love the guy in prison enough to marry him and ruin your life and that of your children if you have children with him. If you do have children w/him think of the example he will be giving your children, is this really what you want? The other guy you just met, you really don't know him, of course he treats you like a queen, he just met you, you need more time to really get to know him. What you need to do is find some quiet time and think with your head and not with your heart. Yes we have to listen to our heart to, but in this situation you have to be smart and look out for you, I hope you dump the guy in prison, but it is ultimately up to you. You sound like a smart person i hope you make the right decision:)

P.S - Think about you and your childrens future, thats if you think about having any kids. Wouldn't they want a Dad who will be by their side all the time and work so he can buy them what they need, and want:)

Answer 2

I'd think about the situation in the long run. Your boyfriend in jail will eventually get out, but will he ever be able to really take care of you? It's better to plan ahead. In one hand, you have the guy you've been loyal to this entire time, but on the other hand there's the new guy that could support you. I'd suggest waiting it out and see what happens. But if I was you, I'd go for the new guy. You know he won't let you become "Queen of the Trailer Trash" while you're waiting for his next bail.

Answer 3

Well, of course anyone who reads your question and is really trying to help you will say choose the guy from the club who is good because the other is in jail and so on.
But it sounds like you know who you want to be with. It sounds like your heart is telling you who to be with. Even though the guy in jail is not good for you, your heart says he is.
But I would not get a relationship started with the guy you met at the club if you are going to stay with the guy in jail for 2 reasons.
1. it is not fair to the guy you met at the club to get involved with him and it gets serious because you can not give him your heart when it belongs to someone else.
2. when the guy in jail gets out it will be a big mess for you.
Good Luck

Answer 4

Think girl??? If you stay with this one guy who is jail...he does drugs, he has no job come on..who is going to be doing all the work you..who is going to come home from work all tired seeing that he's been in da streets making more crime or doing drugs....now this new guy came for a reason and you said it yourself do what is best for you..even if that means leaving the person you love..

Answer 5

WEll in a reltaionship I always look for a future if there is no future then its no reason. Which one do you see urslef with in a couple of years, you might not see nether one of them. Love iss one thing but you need more than love and more than caring a bout a person, to have a wonderlife. If you stay with the boy that is in jail I see you having a miserable life kids working hard home alone, maybe going to see him. I mean think about it.

Answer 6

Sorry, but unless the first guy (in jail) changes dramatically and gets his act together, I say stick with the new guy who sounds so much more responsible and stable.
It's safe to say the first one will only give you heartache and will most likely pull you into his shady world which can't be productive in any way for your own life and dreams.
I hope you figure it out, and realize what is best for 'you' in the long run. Good luck

Answer 7

well, you CERtainly sholdnt be with both at the same time, because you're goonna have a hurt guy whos nice and a very pissed off bad guy. so i think you should of course go with the new guy. he's better for you. a guy in jail for breaking and entering? that doesn't sound very appealing. and how does he treat you? im guessing not the greatest. but you should spend more time with the new guy, and if you turn out to like him too, then i say definitely go for the new guy

Answer 8

Stay with the man in jail of course. I am sure once he gets out he will stop doing drugs, get a job, and treat you like a queen, because thats how the rehabilitation program works in jails. I am looking forward to seeing you on the next program of C.O.P.S. gtting dragged out of your trailer with a baby on each arm with your man wearing a wife beater and calling you a HO.

Answer 9

Do you really want to be with a guy who will be in and out of jail during your relationship? He stole from other people, what would stop him from stealing from you? He would never have any money to buy nice things for you (or if he did it would be stolen money or things). If you were to have kids someday, would you want them around a druggie? Drug users are not dependable people. Why would you want to put yourself through that? You are worth more than that.

Answer 10

Sometimes it's hard to not go for the bad guy but be strong and don't do it. Think long term... don't go for the crap in jail, try this new guy out, see if he really will treat you right. Remember you are in this life for you. Make it what you want it to be.