I'm crazy about my boyfriend. We're both mature for our age, and respect each other completely. Please don't call me immature about this, because I only want some help...
Lately, we've been having the same fight. I always get tired of his constant video game playing and the fact that he's so tentitave to spend money. He plays video games pretty constantly, even when we're on the phone, and I feel like he's not listening to what i'm saying. It's a struggle to get him to get off of them, and then I feel like a pushy girlfriend for making him stop playing. Also, we don't get a chance to see each other very often (neither of us drive) so I try to get him to go to lunch all the time, and when i ask him if he really, truely wants to go, he ends up telling me no, because he doesn't want to spend the money. But then I get mad, because I feel like it should be worth it to him to spend a little money so he can see me. I also have a feeling that he doesn't want to leave his game... Help!
2006-07-19 05:59:30 · 15 answers · asked by Lizzie H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not having sex until i'm married and he respects that... He acts serious about me most of the time, but he just got this new game and it's driving me crazy...
He just spent 400 dollars on an x-box 360 and a game, but he can't take me to lunch? I don't know...
He says right now he's saving up for our one year anniversary to get me something nice, but I would rather him spend time with me than anything else...
Thanks to all of you!
2006-07-19 06:10:59 · update #1
we are both 16, and usually hang out with people who are even older because of what we're involved in at school... We just dont have our licences because we're very busy. Thanks again!
2006-07-19 06:38:14 · update #2
Sounds like you are both very young (since neither of you drive), say 14 or 15. And you are supposed to be immature at this age. That's not a bad thing. Teenage boys often have different priorities than girls. It sounds almost like you are nagging him, and guys hate to be nagged. The harder you push him to do things the less likely he'll want to do them. If you feel that you're both so mature you ought to be able to have a discussion about your feelings and his. In this day and age the boy shouldn't have to pay for everything. That's should be part of your discussion. If he's so wrapped up in video games, maybe he's just not boyfriend material. Maybe he can set time aside for games to be separate from his time with you. But you'll never know if you don't talk about all of this with him. God bless!
2006-07-19 06:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by celticwoman777 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXX I'd bet if there was a new and exciting video game just out he'd go and purchase it nomatter the cost. Video games are an addiction for a lot of guys, some girls but mainly guys. It's like with anyother addiction it's hard to let go. If he gave up on playing to be with you, chances are his mind would still be on the game. Not giving you the 100% attention you need. The only real solution right now is to find a game you both enjoy playing and challenge him. That's what you call compromising. Then maybe he'll see fit to compromise too and do something together you both like as well. Thus you'll spend more time with eachother. As far as lunch is concern and he not spending so much money how about putting together a picnic. We can all find something in our fridges suitable for a small meal in a local park. Otherwise, if this gets to be a hassle, your next step is to find another boyfriend and MAKE SURE HE HATES PLAYING VIDEO GAMES.But chances are he'll like something else you don't agree with so I'd just try to work with what I have until my patients run out. Good luck hun XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-19 13:24:19 · answer #2 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is not as crazy about you as you are about him and he's NOT mature enough to have a girlfriend. Two people that are boyfriend and girlfriend are supposed to spend time together, not every second of the day but yes he SHOULD be making an effort to see you. Also, since you two don't see eachother much then you'd think that he would be talking to you more on the phone and not playing his video game. You need to be with someone who has more time for you.
2006-07-19 13:24:24 · answer #3 · answered by JanLeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety! I feel your pain. I am a bit older and let me tell you if its video games now it will hanging with the boys later. Men always have some "other" thing that seems to be more important than us women. It bites doesn't it. Nagging will get you nowhere believe me Ive tried! Make a deal that you will let his video game use go if he promise (and follows through) on a commitment to set a certain amount of time aside for just you two. It sucks but it is the only thing that will get you what you want. Compromise.
2006-07-19 13:05:01 · answer #4 · answered by designsjm 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you don't want to hear this but you are asking for advice and here it is, take it or leave it. He isn't putting any work into your relationship, he doesn't care. He's selfish and cheap, you deserve his time and attention and he needs to get another job if he can't afford to see you.
You are not the immature one, he is and you know you deserve better. It wouldn't kill him to stop playing (he's an adult I assume so it wouldn't be the worst thing) and maybe if he got a better job and stopped playing his stupid games he could come see you more.
I would read him the riot act and stick to your word and find a man who will care enough about you and your relationship to make an effort. Let junior play his game and find a man who wants to play other games with you, if you get my drift.
I am sure he makes time for sex, am I right?
2006-07-19 13:05:22 · answer #5 · answered by marianlaughs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems he is more pre occupied with his video game than interested in you.
you have to ask yourself ..is it worth it for you have to constantly compete with a video games for his attention...
you seem more mature than he is. as far as the respect issue is concerned, sorry, your'e wrong, he doesnt respect you . if you are made to feel like you are nagging just for some personal time with you bf this is certainly not respect. like you said he should want to spend time with you. he rather spend money on video games than be with you. think about it, there so many other guys out there that will appreciate you better than that.
2006-07-19 13:11:14 · answer #6 · answered by Storm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are all the same. From a married woman you has struggled to deal with getting a husband to pay attention. Your boyfriend is young and will probably only want to see you if it serves a purpose for him. For example, if he wants to show you off to his friends, or make out with him, or if you are going to by stuff for him. I say break up with him and show him you will not wait around for ever. Find someone who will give you the attention and time you deserve
2006-07-19 13:05:30 · answer #7 · answered by double0negitive 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh I am sure he is some what immature but you need to let him know that playin games all the time isnt life and theres more fun out there than just that, it sounds like you are in a relationship trouble and if he doesnt get out of it then there isnt a reason to be together, my son does this and it is anoing in every way from tryin to talk to gettin him to do anythin but he does get out and partys w/ friends I hope you can get him to get off the thing he isnt livin if he doesnt
2006-07-19 13:07:33 · answer #8 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont call him for a day or two.See if he calls you. Then tell him you figured he was too busy so you went to lunch with friends instead if asking him.then act like you called him and say i wont keep you bye. see if that dont wake him up. If not then say good bye Dont beg for someones attention
2006-07-19 13:10:19 · answer #9 · answered by workin_man66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are growing up at a different pace. Young women have false expections for boys to act like men.
2006-07-19 13:04:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋