My girlfriend and I have been exclusive for a little while now, but recently she has not been talking to me much and kinda giving me the cold shoulder. It's been going on for a while now and I was wondering if I should confront her about it. She just got off her period and she hasn't been feeling well the last couple of days so that could be why, but I can't help but feel that she doesn't have the same feelings for me anymore. I want to ask her that but I don't want her to think that I am really insecure or anything. Any thoughts???? We are currently living together so maybe she feels that we can't just break up if she has had a change of heart. So that could be why she just isn't really talking to me instead. I don't know...
2006-07-19 05:55:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
COMMUNICATION is the key to success in any relationship. Dont be afraid to talk to her, you need to, or your insecurity will get worse. please try to talk to her...
2006-07-19 05:57:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just sit down and ask her if there is anything that she would like to talk about? anything bothering her? Let her know that you Love her and that you are asking because you do not like to see her upset. and if she says"No nothing is wrong" then I would express to her that here lately you have been feeling that she has been giving you a cold shoulder is there anything that you might have done to upset her?"
You are not going to sound insecure. You live together in a committed relationshipp. To me one of the most important things that keep a relationshi[p going is communication.
Also, since you are living together, she may need some space and you too. Not trying to sound mean but maybe you should see if she wants to go hang out with her friends and you do the same. Time apart may spark the relationship up again.
2006-07-19 06:03:23 · answer #2 · answered by mpriddy777 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm sorry to hear that. I hate when couples fight. See i'm sorta in the same situation. I would say that you should bring it up. Ask nicely, but still be firm about it. It's not healthy to be in a downhill relationship that seems like theres no way out. Maybe she is worried that since you live together that there's no way you can break up. Trust your instincts, it's good that you are asking for help. Tell her how you are feeling and tell her that you want things to be the best for both of you. Maybe she just wants a little more space. living with you girlfriend/boyfriend can sometimes seem constrcting.
good luck!
2006-07-19 06:12:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about sounding insecure.. dont' worry about what people will *think* negatively about you.. if it is a concern for you and your relationship, you should feel comfortable to speak freely. first of all, the fact that you are not comfortable to do that is an indicator that your relationship does not have good communication... that is KEY to upkeeping and being able to maintain, and GROW a lasting relationship. what you need to do is be sure of yourself, and KNOW what you want in this relationship. are you being as supportive and loving and caring to her? if so, there is NOTHING wrong with wanting that back. if she doesn't have the ability to do the same, it doesn't mean there's not enough love there necessarily, but it does mean that you are not right for eachother and don't have similar goals. a relationship is 2 people..not one person constantly trying and trying to make the other person do something... find someone who wants to keep you happy, who wants you to be open and comfortable, who loves you regardless if you have "stupid" questions or are vulnerable.... and make sure you do the same for them. if either of u are not satisfied, then u are not right for eachother... not being able to live w/ eachother, money problems, etc, are NOT an excuse to stay together. you DESERVE to be happy, and so does she!!! even if u have problems, dont' automatically assume one person doesn't love eachother enough..that's not even the main thing. if she is lazy or selfish to work on the relationship, it's just not right. that's it. don't feel bad about yourself or her....it's just not going towards a healthy, stable path; and that's what i would want for you, or her, or ANYONE.
2006-07-19 06:02:05 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definitely talk to her. Communication is essential in relationships, if you don't confront her with this problem it will never get resolved. She should be very honored that you care so much about this issue. But also be prepared for anything. BUT DO TALK TO HER ABOUT IT NONETHELESS, you don't want to be running in circles for the rest of your life.
2006-07-19 05:59:36 · answer #5 · answered by stpolycarp77 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg............I would love 4 my man to notice if there was a problem, and want to talk about it, instead, ignorining it just makes it worse. You are not insecure, go with your instistincts, she may love that you opened up! g-luck! I have been trying to talk to my man bout the same issue, but I just get tuned out.
2006-07-19 06:00:24 · answer #6 · answered by dazed.. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her but don't start with "I don't think you care about me anymore". Try "I have noticed that you haven't been yourself lately. I am kind of worried about you. Is there something bothering you?" That way it lets her know #1 you care enough to notice what is going on with her. #2 It doesn't assume that everything she feels or does is all about you. #3 It lets her know you are willing to talk to her.
2006-07-19 06:11:02 · answer #7 · answered by Suesan W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talking things over is not being insecure. my advise is to speak your mind let her know this whole situation is bothering you and you want things to get better between you two. let her know that you understand shes been feeling sick and you dont mean to make it worse on her by bringing this up. she really needs to know that you care about whats going on and that you are willing to make it better. best luck to you!
2006-07-19 06:01:39 · answer #8 · answered by CALI GIRL 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You always need to communicate. That's the only way she can tell what you are thinking, and you can tell what she is thinking. The more you communicate, the less problems you will have.
2006-07-19 05:58:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
relationships that last lifetime cannot and shouldnot be assessed in days...maybe she is also feeling the same way about you...and if you cannot talk to your girlfriend than with whom will you talk in the world??????
2006-07-19 06:06:01 · answer #10 · answered by ruhena_w 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋